feeling very bad
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i'm feeling very bad very guilty after i spending on stuff which i cannot afford and i ask my parents to pay for me..
haiz... everytime i cannot afford things i ask my parents to sponsor me and i feel very guilty after telling them how much i spend...like recently i upgraded my pc coz my current pc getting very slow and not enuff HDD space and i need my pc to do my sch work which i use 2-3 programme at 1 time. and my older sister always give me the kind of face showing their unhappiness towards me spending so much money. tat even make me worst.
thos little little thing i always pay for myself like text book and materials for my sch assignment. this little little thing add up to quite a lot... and i hardly ask them for money unless i really got no money.
i'm feeling very bad very guilty till cannot slp but keep thinking abt it... this is not the first time it's like everytime. feel like crying coz i only knw how to spend money and not good in my studies. now i dun dare to look at my dad my mother my family...
wad can i do i'm feeling very bad rite now... help me pls..... -
find a part time job and pay for those things using ur own money. Take it as a loan from them, muz return. Juz like me, all money spent on textbooks, ink cartridges in poly..next time got to pay de.
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Hey at least you feel the guilt and appreciate that money is not easy to earn.. For that give yourself a pat on the shoulder since nowadays many young people do not appreciate their parent's hard earned money..Originally posted by ETboy:i'm feeling very bad very guilty after i spending on stuff which i cannot afford and i ask my parents to pay for me..
haiz... everytime i cannot afford things i ask my parents to sponsor me and i feel very guilty after telling them how much i spend...like recently i upgraded my pc coz my current pc getting very slow and not enuff HDD space and i need my pc to do my sch work which i use 2-3 programme at 1 time. and my older sister always give me the kind of face showing their unhappiness towards me spending so much money. tat even make me worst.
thos little little thing i always pay for myself like text book and materials for my sch assignment. this little little thing add up to quite a lot... and i hardly ask them for money unless i really got no money.
i'm feeling very bad very guilty till cannot slp but keep thinking abt it... this is not the first time it's like everytime. feel like crying coz i only knw how to spend money and not good in my studies. now i dun dare to look at my dad my mother my family...
wad can i do i'm feeling very bad rite now... help me pls.....
If you really want to... getting a part-time job is one solution.. but make sure it does not affect your studies... The best reward you can get for your parents is to study hard and do well in the future...
As for the money they spend on you, you can treat it like a loan.. which you will repay back in future once they are old and grey and you will support them.. don't worry too much
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the only thing parents want is for u to grow up to be a fine young man.
u may feel guilty, yes they may feel the financial twitch, but im sure they wont feel bad or angry that ur asking them for money.
so wad if u cant do well in ur studies? at least u have a heart. at least u feel the guilt. you're way better dan those who do so well in studies, but have no compassion for others
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i cannot take up part time job if i could i would have continue all the way from tat time after o levels. coz my course is assignment base... and got a lot of sch work to do. i knw and i will pay my parents money back and take care of them when i eventually come out to work, being the only male in my family i think i have the responsibility to do tat too... but i really feel very bad and guilty everytime i ask for money...
thanks for all ur help i reall appreciate it.. i always got no where to go to when i get this kind of feeling.. -
i oso. when my pocket money run out, i oso ask my parents.
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Getting a part-time job is not only good for the money but also for the working experience? It'll be kinda 'dangerous' if you've been studying the whole of your life but have not even a bit of working experience at all?Originally posted by ETboy:i cannot take up part time job if i could i would have continue all the way from tat time after o levels. coz my course is assignment base... and got a lot of sch work to do. i knw and i will pay my parents money back and take care of them when i eventually come out to work, being the only male in my family i think i have the responsibility to do tat too... but i really feel very bad and guilty everytime i ask for money...
thanks for all ur help i reall appreciate it.. i always got no where to go to when i get this kind of feeling.. 
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next time when u work, give more money to ur parents. now jus b more filial to them.
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Get a part time job, weekends(?)
Discipline yourself to save up.
Maybe at this age, it may not be time to provide for your family.
Your parents will be happy if you could survive on your own, don't have to worry so much about your future. -
i agree. just return their 'goodwill' when you have the ability.Originally posted by RaTtY81:next time when u work, give more money to ur parents. now jus b more filial to them. -
Don't feel bad. U really need a good computer to produce results.
As long as u don't spend on unnecessary stuff like clothings & hp etc.
Some kids buy lots of clothes, shoes etc when their cupboards are full.
All parents won't mind paying if they know their kids are hardworking & filial.
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agree above.Originally posted by DriftingGuy:Hey at least you feel the guilt and appreciate that money is not easy to earn.. For that give yourself a pat on the shoulder since nowadays many young people do not appreciate their parent's hard earned money..
If you really want to... getting a part-time job is one solution.. but make sure it does not affect your studies... The best reward you can get for your parents is to study hard and do well in the future...
As for the money they spend on you, you can treat it like a loan.. which you will repay back in future once they are old and grey and you will support them.. don't worry too much -
I think you re quite a mature boy... hmm.. what i can suggest is to find a part time job as a good way to pay them back or helping them by taking care of yourself also...
But if cant afford now because too much things to do, busy with ur studies etc..... then next time make sure and promise yourself and prove to them that you will definitely take care of them when they are older and you've have been successful... just always try to be mature and think about how are you going to thank them in the future. -
Please don't feel guilty at all.
Come on. Unless u r 30 yrs old, still unemployed, and always buy expensive stuff using ur parents money? You're not, right?
U r a member of the family. U r their son. U r studying and not working, of course u r not financially independent. They r ur parents, of course they should, and must, support u financially. Not only 'should and must' , they should be 'willing and wanting' too, if they are good parents????
What makes u to be so sensitive and feel guilty about this perfectly normal situation?
Is it ur older sis? Siblings get jealous all the time.
U have to think what caused her jealousy. Is it simply about family money? U said u r the only male. Think whether ur parents have shown more attention to u. This might be the root cause of her jealousy. Or some other reasons?
Y am I saying this? Coz if ur older sis truly loves u and has no issues in her heart, she won't show black face or get jealous about u spending the family money......in fact the opposite, she'll even might want to help u herself too. Do u understand what I mean?
Something went wrong. Figure out how to solve her jealousy. And what caused it.
In the meantime, don't feel guilty. U didnt do anything wrong, did u? Stand up tall and stop feeling bad. -
Unless u r working.. prudence is the key. Mind u.. u r only a student. The problem lies on the fact tt u do not know the value of money n tt ur parents probably didnt teach u either.
Instead of making the effort to post how bad u feel, why dont u show some concrete actions tt u sincerely do not want to be a financial burden to ur parents. Pls be alittle mature in ur thinking n spare a tot for ur parents slogging at work. Grow up. -
gackt, dun be too harsh.. when i was his age, i also live off my parents, though i dun usually ask for more money...
it's fine to ask for money now and then. just make sure when u come out and work, give your parents some pocket money also lah... -
thanks everyone i'm feeling much better now
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Bad boy, inconsiderate.
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Dude, must repay one lor. You take and use now but later when you work must return one.
Your parents are responsible to bring up you.
You are responsible to take care of your parents when you come out to work.
Work both ways one, so dun need to be sad or anything. Just do your bit when it is your time to take care of them.
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Dun nd to feel bad... its their duty to support u. Who ask them to bring u to this world rite? No prob one..
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croco muack muack ah ETboyOriginally posted by ETboy:thanks everyone i'm feeling much better now 
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me piak piak sgboy2004...notti boi boiOriginally posted by sgboy2004:croco muack muack ah ETboy
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At least you still feel guilty, that shows that there is hope for you yet.
my advise, just stay home and study. that'll cut down on expenditure a lot.
good luck for your 'O's -
itz a cycle... we depend on our parents when we are little, and when ur parents grow old, make sure u r there for them to depend on.. not forgetting ur own children will also depend on u...
itz alrite to request for certain necessities, but make sure u dun spend too extravagently... e.g, u want to u/g comp, make sure u go for smthing that's mid-range... u need clothes, dun buy expensive stuff if u cant really afford it...
what u shld do rite now is to study hard, that's the best repayment that u can give r parents at the moment.. show them that u r making the best use of the things they have bought for u...
remember that all parents want the best for their children, no matter how hard it is going to be on them... u can do ur part by putting ur best effort in ur every undertaking... ... -
haha pass my 'O's 2 year ago ....Originally posted by ilovemyrolex:At least you still feel guilty, that shows that there is hope for you yet.
my advise, just stay home and study. that'll cut down on expenditure a lot.
good luck for your 'O's