I saw my ex today
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Originally posted by rainee:I do not agree with the last sentence. The more you love someone, the more you should learn to let him go if you know both of you are not meant to be
i din talk about 'let go'
I mentioned 'forget'
Memories stay.. -
U guys are really the sage of love.
Powerstation, i wish u all the best & maybe u heal faster.
Time is the best medicine. Dun drown or mis-abuse urself, it not gonna to help. -
I can feel the feeling you have.
Very PAinful and sad....
just live on.............................
I trying to live my life without Her.
And Still thinking of Her.
Find Something to do.
Dun Have PM me.....
Go & chong together la.
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powerstation.. r/s breakdowns is one of the many downs in life that u'll go thru.. whether u like it or not.. u have to pull thru..
With so much emotions invested in tt r/s.. i know it's very painful juz to walk away lidat. I have been thru heartaches as well. Time will definitely heal ur wounds, alas, it's a slow process. Scars may remain. But u'll probably come out a stronger n better man. Cheer up. Pick urself up n move on.
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Remaining friends isn't a bad way of getting over someone. Avoiding each other isn't the easiest way because you'll start imagining things. You can still hang with the person like a friend but first you take off you rosy "love" glasses. Open your eyes and see the person for what they really are. Look at the "bad" side of the person and soon you'll think "what the heck was I thinking being in love with that!!??" Trust me, you'll start avoiding soon after that. If not, at least you've got a friend for life.Originally posted by powerstation:Yes, I fully agree that to forget someone is very difficult, esp when I have given so much of my love for her. I am trying to let go, day by day, I just keep myself busy with my work. But there are times when I am alone, I will start thinking abt her.
That is also why, I refuse to remain as friends with her. Not that I am petty or what, but I feel that is the best way for me to let go and also not to remind me of the pain that I had gone thru also.
I am much better but today when I saw her, I keep thinking about our past again, really can't stop myself from not thinking.
Sigh..
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Let the memories stay, as long as you know they belong to the past and you do not let them blind you towards the futureOriginally posted by browniebaobao:
i din talk about 'let go'
I mentioned 'forget'
Memories stay.. -
4 months nia.. you'll get over it soon enuff.. just do yourself a favour, dun let yourself keep thinking about her... if u keep thinking about her, how can you hope to forget her???
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I was actually at a dilemma whether to call her yesterday when I saw her. But being very worried for her, I called her. And those memories kept rushing back into my mind after that. I can't help.
I know I should give up and let her go, since she told me last time that she is very happy with that guy. And being the fact that holding on to this will end no direction, so I decided that in order to end my misery and pain, I have to cut off all ties, even to the extend of not contacting her, not remaining as friends, even if we were to see each other on the street, I will just walk away.
Anyway, I came across this poem and perhaps I want to share with all here...
The Art of Letting Go
It's over. She's gone.
Why do we have to part while the love is still there?
Why do we have to suffer?
Why do we have to cry when somebody bids goodbye?
Why do beginnings have an end?
Why do we have to meet only to lose in the end?
There are questions left unanswered,
words left unsaid, letters left unread,
poems left undone, songs left unsung,
love left unexpressed, promises left unfulfilled.
In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye
and letting go.
It is as hard as breaking a crystal
because you'll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, they who go,
feel not the pain of parting:it is they who stay behind that suffer,
because they are left with memories of a lovethat was meant to be,
a love that was.
At the beginning and at the end of a relationship,
we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone.
Unfair as it may seem, but that's the way love goes.
That's the drama, the bittersweet and the risk of falling in love.
After all, nothing is constant but change.
Everything will eventually come to its end without us knowing when,
without us knowing how, without us even knowing why.
And we must forget not because we have to but because we have to.
In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy but in batallion.
It seems that everywhere you go,
everything you do,
every song you hear,
every turn of your head,
every move of your body,
every beat of your heart,
every blink of your eye
and every breath you take always reminds you of her.
It's like a stab of a knife, a torture in the night.
Funny how the whole world becomes depopulated
when only one person is missing.
Just imagine, there are billion people on earth
and yet it seems you feel lonely and empty without the other.
I don't know if it's worth calling an art,
but letting go entails special skills sparkled
with a considerable space and time.
Time heals all wounds but it takes a little push on our part.
Acceptance plays a part.
Not all love stories end with "...and they live happily ever after."
Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control.
We have to suffer if it would mean happiness for others.
We have to cry to temporarily let go of the pains.
Every beginning has its end like every dawn has its dusk.
It's something we can't control, something we had to live up.
It's over. She's gone.
But life has to go on.
Goodbye doesn't always mean forever.
There will always be a place and time where questions will be answered, words will be spoken, letters will be read, poems will be recited in the night, songs will be sung in harmony, love will be expressed in solitude and promises will be fulfilled.
Somewhere. Somehow. Someday. -
No worries. I did not remain frens with my ex when broke off either. =) So u are not the only one.Originally posted by powerstation:Yes, I fully agree that to forget someone is very difficult, esp when I have given so much of my love for her. I am trying to let go, day by day, I just keep myself busy with my work. But there are times when I am alone, I will start thinking abt her.
That is also why, I refuse to remain as friends with her. Not that I am petty or what, but I feel that is the best way for me to let go and also not to remind me of the pain that I had gone thru also.
I am much better but today when I saw her, I keep thinking about our past again, really can't stop myself from not thinking.
Sigh.. -
people come, people go. dats about it.
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I broke off before ley. Really feel damn low...she broke up bcos she found someone NEW!! Still, life goes on. After 3 yrs, unexpectedly fell in love again, wif someone else....now I'm happily married to her.
It hurts to have your heart broken but dun be too hard on yourself. Lifemight turn out to be better....just have patience. -
Yes, my friends had been telling me this, there is always light after the tunnel. Things will turn out well in the end. These few weeks had been quite ok for me. I've learnt how to let go, I've learnt how not to think about her so often (though at times, it is quite hard to do so). I have to let go and wish her well and happiness always.Originally posted by macambagus:I broke off before ley. Really feel damn low...she broke up bcos she found someone NEW!! Still, life goes on. After 3 yrs, unexpectedly fell in love again, wif someone else....now I'm happily married to her.
It hurts to have your heart broken but dun be too hard on yourself. Lifemight turn out to be better....just have patience.
It is tough, but at least I know for the fact that I can't just go on like this. So I must learn to do so. -
Don't keep thinking about this lor...no point keep thinking about things that you can't have anymore...go out more and meet new people, for all you know, the right girl for you might just be around the corner now ...Originally posted by powerstation:Yes, my friends had been telling me this, there is always light after the tunnel. Things will turn out well in the end. These few weeks had been quite ok for me. I've learnt how to let go, I've learnt how not to think about her so often (though at times, it is quite hard to do so). I have to let go and wish her well and happiness always.
It is tough, but at least I know for the fact that I can't just go on like this. So I must learn to do so. -
Originally posted by powerstation:
~Gives powerstation's head a BIG KNOCK!~
I was actually at a dilemma whether to call her yesterday when I saw her. But being very worried for her, I called her. And those memories kept rushing back into my mind after that. I can't help.
I know I should give up and let her go, since she told me last time that she is very happy with that guy. And being the fact that holding on to this will end no direction, so I decided that in order to end my misery and pain, I have to cut off all ties, even to the extend of not contacting her, not remaining as friends, even if we were to see each other on the street, I will just walk away.
Anyway, I came across this poem and perhaps I want to share with all here...
[b]The Art of Letting Go
It's over. She's gone.
Why do we have to part while the love is still there?
Why do we have to suffer?
Why do we have to cry when somebody bids goodbye?
Why do beginnings have an end?
Why do we have to meet only to lose in the end?
There are questions left unanswered,
words left unsaid, letters left unread,
poems left undone, songs left unsung,
love left unexpressed, promises left unfulfilled.
In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye
and letting go.
It is as hard as breaking a crystal
because you'll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, they who go,
feel not the pain of parting:it is they who stay behind that suffer,
because they are left with memories of a lovethat was meant to be,
a love that was.
At the beginning and at the end of a relationship,
we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone.
Unfair as it may seem, but that's the way love goes.
That's the drama, the bittersweet and the risk of falling in love.
After all, nothing is constant but change.
Everything will eventually come to its end without us knowing when,
without us knowing how, without us even knowing why.
And we must forget not because we have to but because we have to.
In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy but in batallion.
It seems that everywhere you go,
everything you do,
every song you hear,
every turn of your head,
every move of your body,
every beat of your heart,
every blink of your eye
and every breath you take always reminds you of her.
It's like a stab of a knife, a torture in the night.
Funny how the whole world becomes depopulated
when only one person is missing.
Just imagine, there are billion people on earth
and yet it seems you feel lonely and empty without the other.
I don't know if it's worth calling an art,
but letting go entails special skills sparkled
with a considerable space and time.
Time heals all wounds but it takes a little push on our part.
Acceptance plays a part.
Not all love stories end with "...and they live happily ever after."
Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control.
We have to suffer if it would mean happiness for others.
We have to cry to temporarily let go of the pains.
Every beginning has its end like every dawn has its dusk.
It's something we can't control, something we had to live up.
It's over. She's gone.
But life has to go on.
Goodbye doesn't always mean forever.
There will always be a place and time where questions will be answered, words will be spoken, letters will be read, poems will be recited in the night, songs will be sung in harmony, love will be expressed in solitude and promises will be fulfilled.
Somewhere. Somehow. Someday.
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NOW, DOES THAT HURT
GOOD IF IT HURTS... Now... It'll probably still go away in time... BUT IF you keep THINKING of HOW MUCH it HURTS TODAY... Then it'll probably just LINGERS IN YOUR HEAD....
It's OVER means it's OVER. What POEMS? What SONGS? What SHIT?? IT'S OVER... And NOPE. You DON'T have a CHOICE. -
hi dear!!...... Time will heal all wounds....... the greatest thing that we could do for our loved ones
is to let her/ him go if thats wat made them happy ! She/ He happy....we will be happy as well!!
The world will still go on revolving whether you guys are togather or not!
3 x Cheers to Bachelorhood again!!!!! -
Socialise more...make new frens...finds things interesting enuff for you to do, like go bowling, karaoke...with your family or frens. I'm sure during these moments you won't be thinking abt her. Next time the Singapore team plays at the National Stadium, go n support them...shout all u can!!
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Yes i ever told myself I should fell happy she has found someone worthy of her .... and the problem is I am still alone ... there is no other half in my life .... I have gone to self denial ,deceit .. still I still get out of this lousy feeling .. its driving me crazy everytime I think she is with someone else ... I feel like killing the other guy sometime !Originally posted by pinkygal76:hi dear!!...... Time will heal all wounds....... the greatest thing that we could do for our loved ones
is to let her/ him go if thats wat made them happy ! She/ He happy....we will be happy as well!!
The world will still go on revolving whether you guys are togather or not!
3 x Cheers to Bachelorhood again!!!!! -
Bro powerstation.. i understd ur feelings
It's hard to just remain frens with someone u love once
This kinda of agony i can deeply understand -
why make it so hard for urself? if she has decided to end the r/s, juz let her be... try to move on, as this may turn out to be the beginning of an even more beautiful r/s with someone else... -
here's some reasons why she may have been at the doctors:
1) maybe she went to the doctor to see if she's pregnant
2) maybe she went to the doctor cos she thinks she's got STD/communicable disease
3) maybe she went to the doctor to get oral contraceptives
Maybe this will help you forget about her faster.
Maybe some girls just need some space (hence the break up) but want to stay in touch... maybe patch back later.
Maybe if you'd been there when she sms-ed or called, she wouldn't have needed the other guy. -
Move on dude.
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Yes.. letting go is one thing, but forgetting about the love you once deeply love is impossible, unless you have a memory loss. Coz the more you tried to forget, the more you will remember..Originally posted by rainee:I do not agree with the last sentence. The more you love someone, the more you should learn to let him go if you know both of you are not meant to be -
IMO, there's no need to deliberately forget or deliberately let go.. if u're happy with it.. u can go n think abt her every single day.. but sooner or later one fine day.. it will just come to u that e 'thinking abt her' part has become so monotonous n sian.. tt u feel it's damn pointless.. tt's e time u can n are able to move on n leave her behind..
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Ok, let the memories remain, but do not let it affect your life too much until you hold on too much to the past and refuse to move into the futureOriginally posted by Mao x 2:Yes.. letting go is one thing, but forgetting about the love you once deeply love is impossible, unless you have a memory loss. Coz the more you tried to forget, the more you will remember..