Will you marry your stead...
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...just because you guys have been together for more than 10 years? Even if you may/may not have feelings for him/her? And you guys are in your 40s?
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Why be together when the feeling is no more?
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responsibility? can't find another woman to marry? the woman he likes now is so much younger than him that he feels insecure, so marry the gf who has been with him for so many years?
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No feelings stil stay together? That is wasting each others time and also bluffing each other. And u mentioned responsibility? What responsibility is there (cept that unless shes preg) when there is no feeling anymore?Originally posted by ILPSY:...just because you guys have been together for more than 10 years? Even if you may/may not have feelings for him/her? And you guys are in your 40s?
U dun love her and she dun love u? -
Well, sometimes feelins isnt everything la...
what people termed as "feelings" may actually be the euphoria in the early stages of love.... as it evolves... feelings will take a back seat... committment, responsiblity all this will come into play one...It is not that you all dun have feelings...it's there but u all cannot feel it oni... it's strange but... u cannot feel the feeling but it is there.... that's y there is this saying "U oni treasure what you've lost"
We cannot decide for you whether to marry or not, but the least I can do is to tell you feelings isnt everything... think wise -
if he is in his 40s and yet asking such a naive question then i pity the woman.
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i will, if we been together for so long, if she needs me, why not. its not always about yrself u noe, sometimes, its about others, your commitment and responsibilty.
it shld be an honor to be needed.
and its not always about the blardy kid. -
Its a waste of time.
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Is this questions hypothetical?Originally posted by ILPSY:...just because you guys have been together for more than 10 years? Even if you may/may not have feelings for him/her? And you guys are in your 40s?
Maybe you can provide more details?
At their 40s, the desire to pro-create may be gone and the couple may just want companionship and not a committment.
Or at that age, they have their own problems & burden that they do not want to trouble the other half? -
I agree with you, that they just want a companionship. If the guy finds a younger woman, then, he will feel insecure with the younger woman. Hmm... I guess this is common everywhere...Originally posted by Magnus:Is this questions hypothetical?
Maybe you can provide more details?
At their 40s, the desire to pro-create may be gone and the couple may just want companionship and not a committment.
Or at that age, they have their own problems & burden that they do not want to trouble the other half? -
10yrs of relationship? If it's so tasteless, how drag it until now..10yrs's a alot damn long for a girl lor....imagine she was 20yrs...now 30yrs old....how much youth has she wasted????Originally posted by ILPSY:...just because you guys have been together for more than 10 years? Even if you may/may not have feelings for him/her? And you guys are in your 40s?
Or rather...are you the one who's "bored" by this relationship???
Mind you...you've wasted her 10yrs of her youth...and i believed it's your responsibility to take care of her...but if she's unhappy being with you. end it..dun waste any more of her youth n time liao.....
Well..juz my opinions...
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Originally posted by ILPSY:
Insecurity may be the feeling most middle-aged men feel inside when they are or wish to be with younger women, but that has seldom prevented many married ones from keeping younger mistresses, or from divorcing older first wives to re-marry younger second ones.
I agree with you, that they just want a companionship. If the guy finds a younger woman, then, he will feel insecure with the younger woman. Hmm... I guess this is common everywhere...
Seems like you're already having thoughts about leaving the relationship. Insecurity and fear of betrayal by other women sounds hardly a credible reason for sticking with a woman you no longer have any feelings for.
Perhaps you're sticking around because you have not yet met the woman who could make you cast aside your insecurities and your long-time "companion". If you're just treating your current partner as a "companion" now, one day the other woman would either appear in your life, or you would make her appear. -
dude, if you can be with this gal for 10 years, you can be with the gal for another decade. and another. and another. simple as that.
sometimes, the tough questions in life are pretty simple if u dun think about it. lolz... -
I don't think people in their 40s still call their partners steads.
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Originally posted by Lingos:I don't think people in their 40s still call their partners steads.
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You sound like you've already been married for 10 years.Originally posted by ILPSY:responsibility? can't find another woman to marry? the woman he likes now is so much younger than him that he feels insecure, so marry the gf who has been with him for so many years?