Double Standards, I am so farking PISSED
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We are humans, supposedly to be higher in intelligent level than other animals. If we can't control ourselves, what makes us different from those beasts?
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Sadly I agree with Kenneth and Drifting guy.... In singapore our culture frowns upon such acts like watching, surfing porn, having premarital sex... etc but all these are happening right under our noses (so to speak) we just choose to turn around and say nope it doesn't exist cos we didn't "SEE" it...Originally posted by ILPSY:We are humans, supposedly to be higher in intelligent level than other animals. If we can't control ourselves, what makes us different from those beasts?
I bet there are not many here who can HONESTLY say "I have NEVER watch porn in any form, never Surf the net and search for pron before..."
Even the most decent guys or gals i know said they have at one time or another surf porn...
Blame it on curiosity... blame it on the media.... the devil even... truth is it's all around and it's way too accessible to be wiped out. -
aiyah...you don't want your bf to control what you wear then go & buy sexy tube top...preferably white coloured ones...short skirt...and thong lor...make sure you don't wear bra when wearing your tube...let your nipples show through...then when you sit in food court or mrt purposely open your leg to zaogeng your panties...
then at least when i walk around orchard got more things to see...
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I have no idea how the priests and monks relieve this pressure, but I'm pretty sure they do. Haven't you heard of Catholic priests preying on young boys? That's just an extreme example.Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:Pressure? What, sexual tension? Many people are conditioned to think that this pressure needs to be relieved. If this is the case, how do you think the catholic priests and the buddhist monks 'relieve' the pressure?
Besides, will you allow your kids to surf porn?
I won't actually encourage my kids to surf porn per se, but if they do it discreetly and know the limits (e.g. not affecting their social life or causing themselves physical bodily harm), I'll most likely turn a blind eye to it. Anyway, whether you allow them to do that or not doesn't really matter, they'll manage to get hold of porn somehow anyway.
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There is a beast in each and every one of us. The difference is just how we choose to deal with it.Originally posted by ILPSY:We are humans, supposedly to be higher in intelligent level than other animals. If we can't control ourselves, what makes us different from those beasts?
Some recognise the need to "tame" it by feeding its desires in the most harmless ways possible.
Some stubbornly suppress it with the risk of being totally overwhelmed by the beast when it manages to break free and unleash all its fury one day.
Also, some deceive themselves by telling themselves that there is no beast in them, while doing subconscious acts that are actually succumbing to the hunger of the beast. -
Y not think it in a different way as in the message u will send out to others if u dress in a particular way?
Like it or not, we are dressed up for people to see. If not why bother to dress up when u are going to town (orchard areas, etc)? There are kinds of messages u send out to others when u dress in a particular way.
I think guys dun like their gfs to dress too revealing. Its not that they are controlling or wat. They just dun like it that way. Just like how u girls dun like ur handsome boyfrens to be stared at by others. Its the same theory. -
Originally posted by gur:He kept insisting that I have to dress decent. Dat means no revealing sexy clothes etc.
Yet he himself is always ogling at those scantily dressed women and ignoring my presence.
I just found out that he kept tons of naked women and porn. When I asked him if he considers looking at those unfaithful. He said dunno but think that its quite normal for guys to do it.
So farking pissed coz he lied saying he dun do all these 'kinda' of stuff when I did ask a few times before whether if he watch porn etc. I even told him at that point of time that I only want him to be honest at the begining of our RS.
So when I rebutted that I was angry coz he lied. Yet his reply was coz its shameful. Then why the fark did he has to kept insisting that i shut the fark up that its normal? And contridicted that its shameful at the same time?!
Now he even have the cheek to say that its his hobby!
He himself even admit that he wouldn't comfortable if I ogle at other men or naked picts.
Also he is supposed to give me something but kept dragging it for months!
Reasons given?
Tired from work lar...no time lar..
When in fact he is busy with his hobby late into the night.
And of course, he forgot totally about it even though I reminded him a couple of times about it since its supposed to be my anniversary present!
He bloody hell said he dun want a naggy GF. So I stopped repeating myself and now, he said he forget about it coz I didn't keep reminding him!
Guys complaining women of double standards? They are also guilty of it lar!
I don't think she is furious about the fact that his bf watches porn and keeps suggestive pictures of woman; she is angry OVER the lying fact.
P.S: After careful studies, one category of man are more susceptible to such behaviour (Control dressing from their woman, but readily ogle at other ladies) - man with certain degree of chauvinism, usually display such mindsets.
Cheers -
I am giving you a dumb advice but hey is the truth
You love him, you got to accept him for the way he is since is not possible to change a person very quickly.
If you do not love him anymore then break up with him, why waste time on him?
maybe if you mention that you want to break, he quickly change his ways and be what you want him to be. -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Finally, I don't think she is furious about the fact that his bf watches porn and keeps suggestive pictures of woman; she is angry [b]OVER the lying fact.
P.S: After careful studies, one category of man are more susceptible to such behaviour (Control dressing from their woman, but readily ogle at other ladies) - man with certain degree of chauvinism, usually display such mindsets.
Cheers [/b]
a person who answers the question.
I think that the bf could be rather shy to admit this common taboo..
i mean gals won admit they do such stuff too rite? ( even if they really do it? )
his restriction for ur dress sense is to protect you,
really, from the evil eyes of other pervs... -
sorry, no much good advise to give, your case is not so extreme and serious.
This is an obvious case of lack of communciation. try to communicate more. maybe can ask him out for some serious talk, try to give way to each other, be sincere, don scold him any further or don vent you anger on your guy.
Treasure you relationship.
If cant compromise, I don see why must be so unhappy being together.
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think it's time for you to change a bf....he is so bloody double standard one...........so perverted in keeping nake women's photos............can you stand that??? oh my god...........so perverse leh...........
somemore does not allow you to dress sexy but on theother hand ogling at gals...............what an ass rite.....dump him gal -
miss pure, don you think its abit too harsh? both of them are still young. The guy still growing up. he will drop that habbit as he get older. one day, he will notice that all the pictures look the same and all beauties also look the same, long hair, big eyed and so on....Originally posted by Puremilk28:think it's time for you to change a bf....he is so bloody double standard one...........so perverted in keeping nake women's photos............can you stand that??? oh my god...........so perverse leh...........
somemore does not allow you to dress sexy but on theother hand ogling at gals...............what an ass rite.....dump him gal
As for his MCP, that strictly needs to be communicated. I know girls need to be self-confidence and one way they can achieved that is by dressing sexiliy. looking from another point of view, gur's guy just want to protect her from other guys' ogling right? get your point across.