never been kissed
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Is it normal to have a 26 yr old guy not having a single relationship in his entire life?
things just never launch and even when i wana get started, its too late. a typical "nice guy" i am..... seeing all the friends getting married including close female ones adds to the pain. as a guy i shouldnt feel so worried and i should feel indifferent, but cant help it for now, what i feel now is as shown as my nick.
so this is my life "ming zhong zu ting'
when ur fate doesn't arrive or some unseen forces stops u , no matter how hard u try.... u will fail. -
no worries. im like tat too. but im 24 lah.Originally posted by pitfull:Is it normal to have a 26 yr old guy not having a single relationship in his entire life?
things just never launch and even when i wana get started, its too late. a typical "nice guy" i am..... seeing all the friends getting married including close female ones adds to the pain. as a guy i shouldnt feel so worried and i should feel indifferent, but cant help it for now, what i feel now is as shown as my nick.
so this is my life "ming zhong zu ting' when ur fate doesn't arrive or some unseen forces stops u , no matter how hard u try.... u will fail.
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wats pitfull?
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u are normal.i'm 18 and single no relationships before.but alot of nearly cases..haha..
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i got a fren, 29yr-old still never had a gf...
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my word for patheticOriginally posted by skeujin:wats pitfull? -
derived from pityful?Originally posted by pitfull:my word for pathetic
well u shd ask yrslf. have u been tryg or have u been waitg for the rabbot to bang the tree n die? -
yes, as i said, its too late. i just wana start afresh but with no right ones in mind.Originally posted by skeujin:derived from pityful?
well u shd ask yrslf. have u been tryg or have u been waitg for the rabbot to bang the tree n die?
i really think i'm not the only one like that ba. -
i understand the pressure that u r referring to... but pls dun make it sound like u r some kind of despo... itz perfectly fine that u have nv been kissed at the age of 26... so what if u can boast abt hving 1000000 gfs and have received 1000000 kisses when in the end, u cant even find a single gal that is true and genuine towards u?
from a very very subjective point of view, i feel that being kissed /kissing the gal whom u will eventually marry rocks.. watz more u r a guy, n can afford to wait a couple of yrs more...
i know itz difficult for ya, but juz be patient... last resort, got those matchmaking services to offer help... cheer up yah?
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then look for it.. nothing drops from the sky de..Originally posted by pitfull:yes, as i said, its too late. i just wana start afresh but with no right ones in mind.
i really think i'm not the only one like that ba. -
u dnt go out n start lukg for some1. u gota go hang out. do stuf w frens. meet more people. change yr lifestayle n habits.... mayb even SDU...Originally posted by pitfull:yes, as i said, its too late. i just wana start afresh but with no right ones in mind.
i really think i'm not the only one like that ba. -
thanks for a reply, finally a decent one. yah i know i would get flame sooner or later for posting something like this, but whats AA forum is for i guess.Originally posted by mercurialz:
i understand the pressure that u r referring to... but pls dun make it sound like u r some kind of despo... itz perfectly fine that u have nv been kissed at the age of 26... so what if u can boast abt hving 1000000 gfs and have received 1000000 kisses when in the end, u cant even find a single gal that is true and genuine towards u?
from a very very subjective point of view, i feel that being kissed /kissing the gal whom u will eventually marry rocks.. watz more u r a guy, n can afford to wait a couple of yrs more...
i know itz difficult for ya, but juz be patient... last resort, got those matchmaking services to offer help... cheer up yah?
i'm not looking for anything just looking for advices and views.
yeah i agree its wonderful feeling of having the one and only one, thats why i often think too much of plunging into a r/s. i'm not the type of having one r/s for the sake of having one. sometimes it just too hard to find the right one especially u are working age.
perhaps i should sought help, i know things wouldnt happen if u just talk about it. -
nothing wrong la, use this time to improve yourself and build up a career n stability... tats more impt than having any no. of gals u got involved in.... theres many gals out there so no wori...Originally posted by pitfull:Is it normal to have a 26 yr old guy not having a single relationship in his entire life?
things just never launch and even when i wana get started, its too late. a typical "nice guy" i am..... seeing all the friends getting married including close female ones adds to the pain. as a guy i shouldnt feel so worried and i should feel indifferent, but cant help it for now, what i feel now is as shown as my nick.
so this is my life "ming zhong zu ting' when ur fate doesn't arrive or some unseen forces stops u , no matter how hard u try.... u will fail. -
i wouldnt say it's common but it's alright. at 26 maybe u can consider a soulmate but not some pretty face for companionship and interlectually it's empty but that can come later.
though some other people may also have the same problem but take note that relatioship is based on cases, so dun take that as a comfort zone.
one way is that u can broaden ur social circle, know more friends and you can ask your friends to introduce you some of their friends who arent attached yet.
start out as friends first for understanding and compatibility-testing. do not rush into it with the aim of starting a relationship with a particular newfound friendship, it's going to restrict you.
well it's perfectly fine to have never loved because you will be waiting for the someone who can spend the rest of her life with you eventually. dun worry and good luck! -
Hi,
I am currently 24...
A lot of my frens around my age... oso like tat
Dont worry -
I have a friend who's 30+++ and still a clean sheet. What do you think?Originally posted by pitfull:Is it normal to have a 26 yr old guy not having a single relationship in his entire life?
things just never launch and even when i wana get started, its too late. a typical "nice guy" i am..... seeing all the friends getting married including close female ones adds to the pain. as a guy i shouldnt feel so worried and i should feel indifferent, but cant help it for now, what i feel now is as shown as my nick.
so this is my life "ming zhong zu ting' when ur fate doesn't arrive or some unseen forces stops u , no matter how hard u try.... u will fail.
Fate itself sometimes is not enough; especially astrologically speaking, if your birthchart indicates more important lessons (or very powerful Saturn, would be worst if afflicted with Pluto, influence) to achieve else-where. Although more often, it could be too much receptive duality within the birth chart that creates a very passive attitude towards BGR, thus losing your chances completely to surrounding, circumstances or others.
Congratulation, cause in my dictionary, there's no such thing as Ming Zhong Zu Ting because there's always freewill to counter against it.
Freewill?
If fate is not sufficient, that means love MAY not happen in passive mode. It's like a chemical reaction; fate itself is one solution, while your potential mate is the other solution. The catalysis to speed up or probably to create the reaction would be your initiative to
I) Widen Social Circle.
II) Start dating different people (please note that its possible to date WITHOUT telling yourself that you like her and stuff. Sometime when you date a friend in pure platonic intention, you learn something about what you should or not do in a date. It also expands your experience to handle woman in a one-on-one situation, increase your knowledge on where to have a good time, improve conversation skill, blar blar blar.)
III) Activately seek to improve your personal 'marketing'. You are like a product of yourself, waiting to market to someone suitable so that she could see the goodness in you and ultimately accept the product - which is you. You are inadequate now, seek to narrow that gap. That would also serve to improve your confidence and overall feel.
How do you know you have tried your best yet? IMHO, you didn't even reach the bare minimal to build that 'catalysis'. Do not give up just because of your coming age, people's wedding, etc. In simple, DON'T let circumstances bring you down just because things are happening around you - you are YOURSELF. Your relationship runs in your own hands, therefore you write your own tale in your own book. Obviously, you would be different from others.
P.S: When you resigned to fate, nobody would tell you otherwise, for you account only to yourself.
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26 is just a starting time for good guys like u
Even a uni grad also need sometime to finsh his studies rite?
come on lar, you say you want a gal who loves u rite?
But the gal also need money to spend and to buy house with u rite?
young gals love guys who are rich and handsome when they are young but when they are older they need people who can provide them with a stable and lasting relationship.
That is when you come in, with a stable and no past relationship problems guys like you, you will be a hot item on the list. -
sigh.. take your time, find a good gal and be good to her.. dun follow in my footsteps.. I am 27 this year but all my hardwork in my relationship has come to a naught.. If I could turn back the clock, i would rather open my eyes wider and search for a really good gal before committing myself.. i know how you feel... 2 of my 3 best friends are settled.. and 1 of them even have a child.. i feel that i am left behind.. but what to do? you can't rush certain things..Originally posted by pitfull:Is it normal to have a 26 yr old guy not having a single relationship in his entire life?
things just never launch and even when i wana get started, its too late. a typical "nice guy" i am..... seeing all the friends getting married including close female ones adds to the pain. as a guy i shouldnt feel so worried and i should feel indifferent, but cant help it for now, what i feel now is as shown as my nick.
so this is my life "ming zhong zu ting' when ur fate doesn't arrive or some unseen forces stops u , no matter how hard u try.... u will fail. -
sigh.. take your time, find a good gal and be good to her.. dun follow in my footsteps.. I am 27 this year but all my hardwork in my relationship has come to a naught.. If I could turn back the clock, i would rather open my eyes wider and search for a really good gal before committing myself.. i know how you feel... 2 of my 3 best friends are settled.. and 1 of them even have a child.. i feel that i am left behind.. but what to do? you can't rush certain things..Originally posted by pitfull:Is it normal to have a 26 yr old guy not having a single relationship in his entire life?
things just never launch and even when i wana get started, its too late. a typical "nice guy" i am..... seeing all the friends getting married including close female ones adds to the pain. as a guy i shouldnt feel so worried and i should feel indifferent, but cant help it for now, what i feel now is as shown as my nick.
so this is my life "ming zhong zu ting' when ur fate doesn't arrive or some unseen forces stops u , no matter how hard u try.... u will fail. -
hav u kissed a Mothballz?
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jus that your fate is not here yet
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thanks for the wonderful views and professional consultation esp by Yunhaier
i'm starting to feel better as i know i'm not alone. i have agree to come in terms of relationship one has to be pro-active and not leave it to fate totally. Instead of playing the waiting games, just get out and know more people.
To tell the truth, i have already tried some of the solutions suggested, but in turn i faced rejections or the other way around. its difficult to find the right match, because the older u are, the more factors you consider.
i would try to think the whole thing as a process u need to been through / experience in life, thats why there is so many sad songs in the world.
somes say the harder you seek, its harder u will get. in regards to social life, i hardly go to group outings these days, maybe old friends. i not an expert in dating because i'm just a quiet engineer who returns to home everyday after work.
not many believe in platonic male/female relationships based on my experience, in the end the guy might take a liking to her and get hurt instead.
material wise, i realized that there is no limits of the money you can earn. how to define stablity in this economy where most of the jobs are contracted these days. but i would say i'm in good hands for now.
arrggh:
i sympathy with u, i have seens many years of relationships been blown away. but hey u are still young, there's a saying man at 30 still a tiger, still can start afresh. -
Yup, ur not alone. I went at least a decade without being in a relationship with the opposite sex
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Originally posted by pitfull:
don worry guys, come worse to worse, go for overseas bride. There is a post on this under the bar section, just give my views yesterday, can take a look. very intertesting.
arrggh:
i sympathy with u, i have seens many years of relationships been blown away. but hey u are still young, there's a saying man at 30 still a tiger, still can start afresh.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=136644
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i thought the title of the thread's cute..
cos it's me as well..
i guess when it comes, it'll come ba... guy still can wait a bit more lah.. just be on a look out in the mean time loh... get to know more gals.. i mean, even if you're a novice at fishing, you're bound to get one if you fish in a pond full of fish right??