Originally posted by iveco:
Hey guys, this is my first thread in AA. I need a bit of help regarding my love life.
I am a third & final year student at an Australian University and am staying on campus. Lately, a fellow student and church member (new student of Latvian stock) has caught my attention and I hope to win her heart. She also stays on campus, but in another flat. Her flat mate is on our religious community's mailing list and so am I. I have told her flat mate through email that I am interested in the Latvian. Is this an acceptable move? I merely wanted the MSN of this Latvian student as I am a bit uneasy revealing my deepest feelings face to face.
It will not be the first time I will be telling someone over MSN I am interested in her. Tried it before but unfortunately the other party was attached. This was somebody from my creative writing tutorial.
Any words of advice on what I should do next?
Side note, if anyone is thinking of immigrating to Oz, it isn't the best time. The economy seems to be slowing down.
For a start, ::marketing mode::
Initiating to her your interest in her is a right move - but not to scare her away by telling her you love her(keep your deepest feelings in the safe)
How would you feel if out of nowhere, a girl comes up to you one day and tell you she has a strong liking towards you.
My guess is, you'll freak out and stay away.
That's not the way we should approach mentioned above.
Attention - You can introduce yourself, thru MSN or face to face ; i feel that letter writing is the lost art of communication, it should be interesting but keep it short and enticing.
You mentioned she likes reading:fantasy genre?
I guess she's a book person and prefer reading good writings.
Say something or write in a way which could grab her attention.
If she's receptive, good for you. If she's not, find out why rather than feeling like a loser and walk away rejected. (You're not rejected unless she walk away from you without ending off positively)
Desire - It is good to express your intention to - know her better/you admire her/ positive relationship. Pls say it indirectly...girls take subtle hints and they know what is going on.
Be controlled and discipline, don't go crazy over her for goodness sake.
Anyway, she'll appreciate if you display your honesty.
Cont....
Personal advice:
You cared too much about your success. Or should i say your past 'failure' seemed to cripple you from advancing.
If you'll learn not to care so much and just do it.
Remember, you haven't got what you didn't start. There is nothing to lose.
You may perform better than the former.
Further questions:
What else do you notice about her?
Dress sense
Make up?
Personality
Activities in school?
Religous?
etc.