What is wrong now
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Some know of my story...maybe u all look at my previous threads....
Just before sch break....I argued with her and it went off quite horribly....first time i scolded....den over the holidays...i learn to forgive and forget and ALSO to let go...I now have 0 feelings for her but only as a friend
but today when i went back to sch...as i had to face her during history lesson....for some reason...i still look away when she glances at me or i can't face her direction...whats wrong??
I learned to let her go...but now the thing is i dunno why when i look at her..eye-contact...i will look away....All i want is to resume like normal classmates where i can look her in the eye and not feel awkard or anything.....
Any advice ppl?
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do nothing, dun force yrself to forget or wadever. let nature take its path, isn't it better?
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then suffer somemore...i wasted 3 years pursing her, got nothing but pain...and its affecting my studies...Originally posted by Ito_^:do nothing, dun force yrself to forget or wadever. let nature take its path, isn't it better? 
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persistently chasing her isn't natural.Originally posted by StarPuppy:then suffer somemore...i wasted 3 years pursing her, got nothing but pain...and its affecting my studies... 
nor is trying to force yrself into forgetting.
now probably isn't the best time but studies isn't everything.
dats wad i think la. -
haha...since you've 0 feelings for her...y bother abt so much? As a matter of fact...u still hve a certain amount % of feelings for her...no need to lie to yourself or any of us to make it feel comfortable...
Let nature takes its course while you're striving hard for your studies....."shun qi zhi ran"....."boat reached bridgehead automatically straight'.... -
I only got feelings but as frens only...all along i am the one who was "yi xiang qing yen"Originally posted by dcx:haha...since you've 0 feelings for her...y bother abt so much? As a matter of fact...u still hve a certain amount % of feelings for her...no need to lie to yourself or any of us to make it feel comfortable...
Let nature takes its course while you're striving hard for your studies....."shun qi zhi ran"....."boat reached bridgehead automatically straight'....
so i decide to let go.....but the thing is the awkardness is still there...the awkardness of not saying sorry for my part....but haiz -
haha...simple.....juz say sorry to her n explain what you've to explain....leave nothing behind..settled.Originally posted by StarPuppy:I only got feelings but as frens only...all along i am the one who was "yi xiang qing yen"
so i decide to let go.....but the thing is the awkardness is still there...the awkardness of not saying sorry for my part....but haiz 
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I knew i was the one in the wrong but i blew it up because i wanted her to hate me so that it would be easier to me to forget herOriginally posted by dcx:haha...simple.....juz say sorry to her n explain what you've to explain....leave nothing behind..settled. -
Tell me for what......tell her lah......she needs to know...i dun need to know....Originally posted by StarPuppy:I knew i was the one in the wrong but i blew it up because i wanted her to hate me so that it would be easier to me to forget her
What you wanna say to me/us, say to her.....by telling us, things will stay remain.....never going to change.. -
why should i tell her for? and for wat?Originally posted by dcx:Tell me for what......tell her lah......she needs to know...i dun need to know....
What you wanna say to me/us, say to her.....by telling us, things will stay remain.....never going to change..
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den u gotta bear this ackwardness forever and ever and ever. amen. too bad. regret! its life, there are always regrets.Originally posted by StarPuppy:I only got feelings but as frens only...all along i am the one who was "yi xiang qing yen"
so i decide to let go.....but the thing is the awkardness is still there...the awkardness of not saying sorry for my part....but haiz
besides, if u are so honest, wld she really forgive you? some forms of "ackwardness" will still persist. -
by this statement alone i can see that you are not totally over her. don't force yourself to get over her. as u said u liked her for 3 yrs and 3 yrs worth of feelings will not be easily shake off over the holidays...Originally posted by StarPuppy:then suffer somemore...i wasted 3 years pursing her, got nothing but pain...and its affecting my studies...
i once took about a yr to get over a guy i liked... see him every sat & sunday.... but still took a yr....
take your time.... let nature/time heal. -
but O's this year...i cannot take time to healOriginally posted by smudgey:by this statement alone i can see that you are not totally over her. don't force yourself to get over her. as u said u liked her for 3 yrs and 3 yrs worth of feelings will not be easily shake off over the holidays...
i once took about a yr to get over a guy i liked... see him every sat & sunday.... but still took a yr....
take your time.... late nature heal. -
Pai seh...i mena, tell her lor....becoz you need to know........Originally posted by StarPuppy:why should i tell her for? and for wat? -
know wat?Originally posted by dcx:Pai seh...i mena, tell her lor....becoz you need to know........ -
Yo Starpups.. find new target. Concentrate on ur studies. If u flunk.. u get no job..no money..no girls for u... dont because of a girl ruin urself k. Just give her a smile or something. What if she is at everyplace u like to go ? are u gonna avoid her forever n feel the awkwardness ? making urself unable to enjoy urself ?.... man its natural man..just try to forget.. find target.. smile.. n study...OH try to party hard too...
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haiz......nvm......u study hard hor.....Originally posted by StarPuppy:know wat? -
at first of cos will be awkward one, last time when I just broke up with my ex oso like dat...but as time goes by, the feeling of awkwardness will go away...
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Conflicted, you are...Originally posted by StarPuppy:but O's this year...i cannot take time to heal
You must learn how to set your priorities right... if you can't look her straight in the eye, so be it. You still have all the time in the world... -
this is normal...
i still dont dare to look at my ex whenever i talk to her face to face even though i miss her terribly
i cant explain it too
its a lil' awkward + sad + angry + lost feeling haha -
Hi there, i do not know yr story, but i do smell guilt in yr msg. perhaps u feel guilty over something and that explains why u dare not look into her eye to eye.Originally posted by StarPuppy:Some know of my story...maybe u all look at my previous threads....
Just before sch break....I argued with her and it went off quite horribly....first time i scolded....den over the holidays...i learn to forgive and forget and ALSO to let go...I now have 0 feelings for her but only as a friend
but today when i went back to sch...as i had to face her during history lesson....for some reason...i still look away when she glances at me or i can't face her direction...whats wrong??
I learned to let her go...but now the thing is i dunno why when i look at her..eye-contact...i will look away....All i want is to resume like normal classmates where i can look her in the eye and not feel awkard or anything.....
Any advice ppl? 
i think the best way to befriend again is to apologize for whatever reason that is bothering you. that requires some level of courage, but if u do not hv enough, then just live awkwardly ever after.no big deal wat! -
aiya.. this is small thing nia.. time will taske care of it one... trust me ok pups??
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Study hard... Stay in FOCUS...Originally posted by StarPuppy:why should i tell her for? and for wat? -
O's this year? well if you keep forcing yourself to get over her, to study, to not think of her.... you'll go mad!!!Originally posted by StarPuppy:but O's this year...i cannot take time to heal
Try to accept u need time to get over her. but do nt put too much thought into that.
study hard. -
mi condolence... dun feel sad... mi invite u to join us to get rid of that evil hopy bunny ok...u sniff it out, we kill it
