2nd chance to get him or her...
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U liked someone in yr sec or poly days. But he or she didnt accept u or rejected your love. If u cant get over it and still think about it on how to get the same person. Years later if u had become successful in a career ect but still cant get over the person........ Is it called a fruitless obsession?
Anybody here actually suceeded on that 2nd try years later?
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I was rejected on 1st try...the other party had different perceptions of me. But I was accepted 2nd time..but the gap between 1st n 2nd was 5days-2weeks. I guess since some time has passed, people perceptions will have changed. You never know if u never tried. Do u know the saying "At first u dont succeed, try try again?" ...well, for r/s, I think if at 1st u dont succeed, try try at least 2 more times...more that that u would be a creepy guy.
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Ai m thinking the same too..People advised me to call it quits.but somewhere in my hart always says there is still hope left...Originally posted by Pion:I was rejected on 1st try...the other party had different perceptions of me. But I was accepted 2nd time..but the gap between 1st n 2nd was 5days-2weeks. I guess since some time has passed, people perceptions will have changed. You never know if u never tried. Do u know the saying "At first u dont succeed, try try again?" ...well, for r/s, I think if at 1st u dont succeed, try try at least 2 more times...more that that u would be a creepy guy. -
1st attempts always fail for me .. so tats the end ... T_T
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Originally posted by Saint`:1st attempts always fail for me .. so tats the end ... T_T
sorry, couldn't help it... just try again some time later loh.. or ask the gal to give you a reason why not you. then go change those areas loh... 
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Hm... not really obessed.. but more towards u still have a soft spot for her.. but is that really called like? love?
Coz i have the experience of these.. i once like a ger when i was 14.. then till 19 i still miss her, cant get over her... but maybe entering army let me to think carefully. Is this the case? Or is it just that i feel lonely and din find any suitable lady thus think back and miss her....
Anyway, i feel time will change everyone. Who knows, the ger's character will change for the better or worse. If you really hope to try again, y not~ give it a try..but if u fail again.. maybe i advise you to move on and find another suitable one
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Brown cow roming around town.
Sheese.... before I....
do this to you
muwahaha....
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Originally posted by OldAhPek:
brown cow.. lolz.. i love that...
Brown cow roming around town.
Sheese.... before I....
do this to you
muwahaha....
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The main reason maybe is becos that you have not found the rite one yet.
If you have found a nice gf or bf will you still think of the person?
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May I ask whats the reason she gave for rejecting u the 1st time? Cos I believe that the real reason she rejected plays an important factor in determining whether its worth a 2nd try or not.Originally posted by About A GaL:U liked someone in yr sec or poly days. But he or she didnt accept u or rejected your love. If u cant get over it and still think about it on how to get the same person. Years later if u had become successful in a career ect but still cant get over the person........ Is it called a fruitless obsession?
Anybody here actually suceeded on that 2nd try years later?
Maybe u old birds (30+) people here can tell u your expereince
Are there any other things she told u abt? ( Like wanting to treat u as a fren or wat?) -
Well, when i was 19(now 24) , we were not so mature then..Looking back to analyse, i guess this was the case....As all gals who seem to be watiing for a knight in shining armour, i didnt really fit into her ideal......BUT THAT was where she was wrong....I was the knight in shining armour, just that she refused to look carefully into me being complacent ect...I knew exactly how to be one.....It's her fault....Originally posted by shaunlaw:May I ask whats the reason she gave for rejecting u the 1st time? Cos I believe that the real reason she rejected plays an important factor in determining whether its worth a 2nd try or not.
Are there any other things she told u abt? ( Like wanting to treat u as a fren or wat?)
BUT again after so many years, i know she had changed...All girls predictable man.... -
well the gal that I love said that she treated me like a baby brother.Originally posted by starblue: sorry, couldn't help it... just try again some time later loh.. or ask the gal to give you a reason why not you. then go change those areas loh...
how am I going to age faster than her -
I presume the reason is she thinks u are not the one for her. But one thing u are wrong about. How do u know she never look carefully into u? If someone is not interested in u or find that u are not the one for her, why the reason to look further into that person? A waste of time isnt it?Originally posted by About A GaL:Well, when i was 19(now 24) , we were not so mature then..Looking back to analyse, i guess this was the case....As all gals who seem to be watiing for a knight in shining armour, i didnt really fit into her ideal......BUT THAT was where she was wrong....I was the knight in shining armour, just that she refused to look carefully into me being complacent ect...I knew exactly how to be one.....It's her fault....
BUT again after so many years, i know she had changed...All girls predictable man....
Nobody said u did not know how to be a prince charming but u are just not the one for her, so even if u are prince charming, she wont be the princess to be charmed cos u are not the one for her. U get it?
Its true that people may change after some years but saying all gals are predictable is not so sound as not all and certainly not most. U simply said so bcos u think u know but in actual fact u duno. Dun put the label on all girls saying they are all the same just like how some of them think that all guys are bad.
I think if u urself can say u are not the ideal one for her, y bother to go for a 2nd try? Trying to irritate her or bring more misery to urself? From ur reply here, I can say that she was rite not to take a further look at u. Look at ur response just bcos of that. U even go on to say " THAT was where she was wrong....I was the knight in shining armour, just that she refused to look carefully into me being complacent.."
I can frankly tell u that u will not succeed with her even if u try more times. U get the idea? -
I hv no contact with her now.but wad if she thought about me later on? wad if she realised my worth. Gals will realise yr worth once u are not beside them to give attention rite?Originally posted by shaunlaw:I presume the reason is she thinks u are not the one for her. But one thing u are wrong about. How do u know she never look carefully into u? If someone is not interested in u or find that u are not the one for her, why the reason to look further into that person? A waste of time isnt it?
Nobody said u did not know how to be a prince charming but u are just not the one for her, so even if u are prince charming, she wont be the princess to be charmed cos u are not the one for her. U get it?
Its true that people may change after some years but saying all gals are predictable is not so sound as not all and certainly not most. U simply said so bcos u think u know but in actual fact u duno. Dun put the label on all girls saying they are all the same just like how some of them think that all guys are bad.
I think if u urself can say u are not the ideal one for her, y bother to go for a 2nd try? Trying to irritate her or bring more misery to urself? From ur reply here, I can say that she was rite not to take a further look at u. Look at ur response just bcos of that. U even go on to say " THAT was where she was wrong....I was the knight in shining armour, just that she refused to look carefully into me being complacent.."
I can frankly tell u that u will not succeed with her even if u try more times. U get the idea?
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do i detect arrogance and self delusion?
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I think I may have put my words in a nice way that u did not get my point. I will go straight to it then.Originally posted by About A GaL:I hv no contact with her now.but wad if she thought about me later on? wad if she realised my worth. Gals will realise yr worth once u are not beside them to give attention rite?
My instinct tells me sumthing now..to go for a 2nd time...
I can frankly tell u she wont and will never have such a thing as realise ur worth and realise it when u are not beside them to give them attention. U stil dun get it?
I think u are abit arrogant and self-deluding urself here. Think: If she were to realise it, y not realise long ago? If she knows ur worth, she would have know it long ago.
Ur instinct says u are stubborn and refuse to give up somethings that doesnt work out at all. Dun u understand that once a girl says she dun like u and u are not the one, it means u ARE NOT the one and NEVER will be the one! If she thinks u stand a chance, she would not have tell u those rejection things.
A rejection is a rejection. Wake up, get on with life. Its over, dude!
And dun think that u are that nice as u describe. What ppl will realise, wat u are capable of becoming a prince charming. All these are nothing but useless words. If u are so able, y will u be here? -
Hmm...
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can give it a shot again since you are sucessful in your whatever thing now..maybe she /he will accept you
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They say failure is the stepping stone to success....
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Not all cases though. It doesnt apply to ur case.Originally posted by About A GaL:They say failure is the stepping stone to success.... -
Hmm...
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when the b i t c h doesnt like u, no matter wat u do, she wont like u. even if 1 day she accepts u, it might b out of other reasons. finding luv is like lookin 4 a missing puzzle in a pic. sometimes we find it & it adds up 2 a nice pic we can hang on the wall 4 the rest of our lifes. but sometimes, the pic turns out 2 b s h i t. so jus throw it away & do another 1. time washes away all lovey dovey feelings. your luv, tats not fed will die someday.
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Well, y not, depends on the reason y she rej u last time, if she dun even lik ur company, then forget it
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There aint no 2nd chance for me.