Maybe I have sort of let her go
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Although she have betrayed me, hurt me alot but then, there is really no turning back. She is the last person who I think will ever hurt me in any way but then, time really flies, our r/s ends for more than 1/2 year. She contacted me recently, ask me how am I, how happy she is. I saw her ROM photo with her husband. I really dun know to express my self in words. Rather happy for her. Maybe the hurt is not as tremendous by then when the wound is still fresh.
Maybe, I have gave up all hopes and all hatred and anger gradually vanished. Abit sad cos I have lost something which I treasured most but yet after a couple of months of in-depth thoughts. she isnt worth my effort after all. Still friend but its only time when contact will slowly reduce to none.
At time, I still feel despair. I told myself that I have no choice, really no choice but to move on and let time heal the wound. To all who suffer in a r/s, move on and push on cos thats the only method that is rationale. -
Sadness never brings away the pain
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no need to worry man
her husband will be the one who is suffering.
You are in fact very lucky that she betray you earlier.
At least you can see her real colours.
Imagine 3 years down the road she betray her husband, sleep with other guys, take his money to buy expensive things, kena sex problems, you must really thank your lucky stars that you saw through her evil ways.
In fact you should thank her instead, if she can betray you, wat makes you think she will not betray her husband?
come on do you think she call you just to say hi?
Show her that you are better without her !
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Till now, she still thinks that her action is right and justified. I did try to unveal the missing link which I have been trying to find out and I must thank her for revealing the truth that she indeed did something behind my back.
I must admit that I am a failure in one way or another. I did alot of self reflection and I really cant compare with her husband. I am really poor with insecure low pay job back then.
She told me that her husband really treats her well, bringing happiness and joy to her, care abt her etc etc. She has forgetten what I have done for her. She told me that this is life or reality cos someone gets dumped vice versa.
I told her one thing tat for what she has done to me, I cant hate her anymore cos I knew that the hatred and anger posed hurdles for me to move on in my life. I kept telling myself that time can determine how far I walked away from the her and her inflicting pain on me and time can also reveal the whole truth.
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ptw, I'm sure you must have felt really worse when she called you on the pretext of concern and catching up to compare and show-off to you how good she's doing right now. Yes, it's sad that what she really wanted was to compare and do a little showing-off to make herself feel better. But do not worry, she did that cos she is feeling a little insecure about her decision to leave you. So feel better cos she will definitely regret it in the future...be it big time or small time.
Don't worry about trying to make her understand your pain and her heartless act, cos she will NEVER admit to it even when she's about to die. And this gives you a very good reason to HATE her. There's nothing wrong and ungracious in hating someone who deserves to be hate, remember that.
(That's applicable in your case)
If you agree that humans are selfish species by nature, then you will agree that what she did wasn't wrong...from her perspective. She did cause you to experience unbearable intense searing pain deeply scarred in your heart. And it really felt worse than dying, cos both your body and soul is causing great pain to you. Believe me, it doesn't felt that bad if your body wasn't causing you to experience any of those heart pains. But you did felt a lot better after your body drained you out of all those painful emotions.
She did you wrong even though what she did was perfectly human and there's nothing wrong in seeking for a better life and future for herself.
Embrace hatred towards her as this is the lesson that you must learn in this period of your life. If you let it go and forgive her and blame yourself thinking that you will become a betterman, then you are wrong. If you let this lesson go and didn't embrace hate, you will lose this chance to learn this important lesson in your life, and the same situation will keep on repeating itself like a bad dream*dejavu loop. And when that happens, you will realised that you haven't change or evolve in the way you perceive things.
So trust me and embrace this hate till it became a normality and part of you. You will definitely learn and realised some truth at the end of this etching process. Everything happens for a reason...most of it is unknown, and you will be a betterman if you embrace this hate...and things will definitely appears to be a lot more different to you.
I sincerely hope that you will overcome this lesson in your life and find true happiness and peace within yourself, I'm sure that you will if you didn't take a step backwards to try to forgive and forget. Accept this hatred and move forward with it, whatever things you may learnt out of this will certainly ensure that you won't have to deal with this situation ever again and you have one less situation/crisis to deal in your life.
Good luck, the good in life cannot be taught...they have to be learnt. -
"Sweet is true love, though giv'n in vain, in vain
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Hi parn, at the beginning when my r/s with her ends, i was really full of hatred that makes me feel extremely tense up coupled with work pressure, its unbearable.
I can never forget what or how she ends the r/s. She was so sticky that really made me lost contacts with several of my friends, but I am lucky enough that they are there to help me. I can never forget how she made her guy perceive it if as though she end the r/s with me b4 engaging into a new r/s with him. I can never forget all the msgs sent by her new bf.
I learnt the lesson but really in an extremely hard and harsh way. -
hey bro im in the same pit as you
what she'd done to me, i can never bring myself to hate her, her actions can never be condoned even with a death sentence
i hate her, but i yearn for her still
all i could do was to muster my courage, texted her a few messages on her birthday hoping to evoke her memory a lil', hoping she'll remember me
well... seemed like she received happy birthday messages from everyone, she didnt even bother to reply.
she cant leave home without the IPOD bought for her from her admirer. my smses - useless and forgotten -
Hi Chong-ster,
sorry for what you have suffered. I believe things really happen for reasons. How and what did she done to end the r/s? -
I think these kinda things happen to everyone in their life. How they happen is a different matter. Some get it hard on their lifes while some get it slowly yet painfully..
But I always believe that what ever happens, happens for our own good. And if you have done good then it will definitely return back to u.. As they say tit for tat or You reap what you sow.. So don't worry bro..
When i have relationship problems my friend always says Time will heal everything. At that point of time I didn't realise that. But its true.. Time really does heal everything.. -
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Anyway, it's over... If you didn't do anything back then, you probably didn't wanna do any....Originally posted by ptw:Hi parn, at the beginning when my r/s with her ends, i was really full of hatred that makes me feel extremely tense up coupled with work pressure, its unbearable.
I can never forget what or how she ends the r/s. She was so sticky that really made me lost contacts with several of my friends, but I am lucky enough that they are there to help me. I can never forget how she made her guy perceive it if as though she end the r/s with me b4 engaging into a new r/s with him. I can never forget all the msgs sent by her new bf.
I learnt the lesson but really in an extremely hard and harsh way.
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Love, a wicked game.
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Love is not always happy ending.Originally posted by Gackt247:Love, a wicked game.
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hi ptw, everyone told me i got no reason to complain abt it.. cos i was the one who initiated the break-up
but i forced myself to do it.. it was too hard for me to take.
friends told me she cried cos i broke her heart, but she doesnt know that till now, 5 years down the road, im still crying when i think abt it.
days before we broke up i approached her n clarify our r/s, but she pushed me away and i ended up falling down the whole fleet of stairs (cos she was standing at the topmost step) she didnt even bother to look.. everyone was looking at us, our friends and strangers were jaw-dropped and stunned. how can anyone take this???
for sure it hurt, but all i could feel was a broken heart, not the bruises on me -
Cut off all contact.
Better girls waiting for you out there. -
She betray you.
You break up with her.
She cried?
how did she betray you ?
She slept with another guy? -
i was crazy abt her then i knew she wasnt really into me.. but so much was my love for her, i practically 'lied' to myself that she was loyal and really loved me and as long as she was nice to me whenever we could meet up, i was satisfied
but slowly she started to change and i couldnt even command a 5 min chat with her daily. she had no phone then, and there was a period of time when she liked to take my phone home and used it.
i thought, 'fine with me.. now she has a phone, we can at least chat'. call me she did, but everytime she returned the phone to me, i would receive lovey dovey msgs from other guys... -
Originally posted by chong-ster:hi ptw, everyone told me i got no reason to complain abt it.. cos i was the one who initiated the break-up
but i forced myself to do it.. it was too hard for me to take.
friends told me she cried cos i broke her heart, but she doesnt know that till now, 5 years down the road, im still crying when i think abt it.
days before we broke up i approached her n clarify our r/s, but she pushed me away and i ended up falling down the whole fleet of stairs (cos she was standing at the topmost step) she didnt even bother to look.. everyone was looking at us, our friends and strangers were jaw-dropped and stunned. how can anyone take this???
for sure it hurt, but all i could feel was a broken heart, not the bruises on me
Hmm...Originally posted by chong-ster:i was crazy abt her then i knew she wasnt really into me.. but so much was my love for her, i practically 'lied' to myself that she was loyal and really loved me and as long as she was nice to me whenever we could meet up, i was satisfied
but slowly she started to change and i couldnt even command a 5 min chat with her daily. she had no phone then, and there was a period of time when she liked to take my phone home and used it.
i thought, 'fine with me.. now she has a phone, we can at least chat'. call me she did, but everytime she returned the phone to me, i would receive lovey dovey msgs from other guys... -
why no guy so crazy over me one?
if got guy loves me so..i sure cherish one..anyone? -
Originally posted by notforme:why no guy so crazy over me one? if got guy loves me so..i sure cherish one..anyone? -
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Originally posted by notforme:
why no guy so crazy over me one? if got guy loves me so..i sure cherish one..anyone?
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i oso want. haha... but rather, i had one guy who was quite passionate for me. at tt time, i wasn't into him. now tt i'm older, n think tt i'm ready to face relationships, we kinda got tog. however, it's no happily-ever-after ending man. we practically quarrel everyday.
now tt i really love him, he's juz taking it easy. this is wat i call retribution. n oso leads me to think tt guys juz want wat they can't get n does not cherish wat they have got. maybe i'm juz an achievement, an accomplishment. n now i'm juz history.
so... u'll get over e gal soon. dreamz r beautiful only if they remain as dreamz. reality is ugly! -
Ex girlfriend/boyfriends should be axed.
That's all i can say. -
Originally posted by notforme:why no guy so crazy over me one? if got guy loves me so..i sure cherish one..anyone?
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I bought a brand new pack of cigarettes today and accidentaly dropped them in a puddle...I know how you feel..