What to do? Help..
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A girl whom I like.. I helped her in every way I can, especially through Poly assignments.. Helped her almost everyday ..
This has become on a daily basis until.. she took me for granted.. Whenever she had problems, she then comes to me and throws me the work.. And everytime I done it, she simply said ''Thank you for your help''
I feel so used and unappreciated.. That's not all..
She asked me out.. ( I was like ''yay! I am getting some hopes" ) few days before the actual.. and when the day comes,she simply says she forgot, ''sorry too tired next time'' or ''I am meeting others..sorry'' or even not calling me for that day and the following day, act as if nothing has happened..
I was like huh, the date was like prearanged few days back..she should have knew and have the basic manners to set aside time for the date..
And yesterday, She msg me, she is meeting her friend ( guy) maybe a little late, and (of course) ''help me with my work when I come back?''
I got sadden..disappointed.. How come she remembers other guys dates and not mine.. Why must it have to be me...
I feel like crying everyday.. everynight when I go to sleep..
I feel much better now.. Thank you. -
my friend...u are not alone...if u look up for my previous threads...u will see that i am same like u....let it go.....letting go will be hard but it will be worth it
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Originally posted by InSidiousGG:A girl whom I like.. I helped her in every way I can, especially through Poly assignments.. Helped her almost everyday ..
This has become on a daily basis until.. she took me for granted.. Whenever she had problems, she then comes to me and throws me the work.. And everytime I done it, she simply said ''Thank you for your help''
I feel so used and unappreciated.. That's not all..
She asked me out.. ( I was like ''yay! I am getting some hopes" ) few days before the actual.. and when the day comes,she simply says she forgot, ''sorry too tired next time'' or ''I am meeting others..sorry'' or even not calling me for that day and the following day, act as if nothing has happened..
I was like huh, the date was like prearanged few days back..she should have knew and have the basic manners to set aside time for the date..
And yesterday, She msg me, she is meeting her friend ( guy) maybe a little late, and (of course) ''help me with my work when I come back?''
I got sadden..disappointed.. How come she remembers other guys dates and not mine.. Why must it have to be me...
I feel like crying everyday.. everynight when I go to sleep..
I feel much better now.. Thank you.
You are so passive and now you are complaining how she is not responding to you?
You are playing this game, thinking that the rules you are following will get you to where you want to go. Sadly, it creates another form of impression and image of you. YOU treated her well, thinking that the GOODNESS you have showered upon her is READ... i say again... READ as the road to chase her and she received the message as it is. No... she doesn't see it as this way; in her mind, she thought of you as a helpful guy who is willing to help her with her school work and NOT a suitor trying to chase her.
Helping her with her school work is a good gesture, especially so if she is someone you fancy, but to depend entirely on this?? What you are trying to do is like trying to buy some shampoo in Econ Minimart using Euro dollars.
Don't always RANT that girls are taking guys for granted when guys market themselves are pure helpful. This is the case of a bad courtship marketing. You got to keep the correct constant message in the art of chase and not assume random messages. Even if you get rejected right in the face, at least you know you are walking in the right direction afterall and not like this... complete wrong route to Tuas.
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Not only school work,I consoled her when she is feeling down..Gave her my support..She gave support too when I am down and we had some close moments together..
We both know that we like each other..
But what I don't get it is why she kept breaking our prearranged dates and using simple reasons to cover up..
Its very heartbreaking to see prearranged dates being set 2 to 4 days ago and when the day arrives, she disappeared.
Even just as normal friends for a date, it's not good to so called (pang seh) unless important stuff arises.. -
face to face? Did u ask her to be ur gf?Originally posted by InSidiousGG:She likes me too, She told me. -
taken advantage of?
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u both hold hands and muack muack yet?Originally posted by InSidiousGG:She likes me too, She told me. -
Originally posted by InSidiousGG:She likes me too, She told me. Words!
Are mere words unless emotions could be drawn into visuals, to see the degree it means.
My post still stands - there are something wrong with the marketing of your chase, fueled by blinded love AND advantage-taking lady. So if she likes you too, pray tell me why is all this happening? If she likes you the way you do, she will NOT only tell you, she will also show it in her action, demonstrating the feeling of affection to someone she dote/like/love.
However, at least from here, we could confirm that she is truely taking advantage of you.
Question is: are you still going to allow her to take advantage of you?
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wah..u sure?? or u assume??Originally posted by InSidiousGG:We both know that we like each other.. -
D.P
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I hav the same prob..
This gal i like.. actually its an ex-lover but i still has feelings for her
Everytime i ask her out, she'll readily agree... only to fly my aeroplane on that day. It's rely disappointing. I will look forward to that day, go gym train, brush teeth & plan what to do with her that day... then when it finally arrives she will pang-seh me
Sometimes i call her at nite, she refuse to pick my phone
Now i tu-lan, purposely call her many times. I know she usually wun answer & only return my call in the morning. So i kuai-lan & dun answer her call in the morning but call her again at nite & the cycle continues...
We have called each other like 50 over times without rely talking to each othet -
wah..not bad ar..
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I did not assume.. We both know we like each other..and I am sure..Originally posted by usck:wah..u sure?? or u assume?? -
Yea same here.. I was really looking forward to that day.. thinking abt the stuff to spend the day with herOriginally posted by Prince Cumming:I hav the same prob..
This gal i like.. actually its an ex-lover but i still has feelings for her
Everytime i ask her out, she'll readily agree... only to fly my aeroplane on that day. It's rely disappointing. I will look forward to that day, go gym train, brush teeth & plan what to do with her that day... then when it finally arrives she will pang-seh me .. seems heavenly.. but when it arrives.. she will pang seh me by using the disapperance tactic or simply take it as though she dont give a damn to the date 
And what's' more disappointing is that she ask me out in the first place and say abt going to the movie and have dinner at resturant blah blah..
I wouldnt mind helping her in her school work.. it's just that I am afraid that she may become too dependent on me..
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Originally posted by InSidiousGG:
she is a selfish person, don't take her seriously, move on.
Yea same here.. I was really looking forward to that day.. thinking abt the stuff to spend the day with her .. seems heavenly.. but when it arrives.. she will pang seh me by using the disapperance tactic or simply take it as though she dont give a damn to the date
And what's' more disappointing is that [b]she ask me out in the first place and say abt going to the movie and have dinner at resturant blah blah..
I wouldnt mind helping her in her school work.. it's just that I am afraid that she may become too dependent on me..
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forget about her lah.
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its obvious u r being making used off..
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To InSidiousGG
If you think she likes you try asking her to do your homework for a change, come on lar if she likes you why not ?
If she likes you ask her whats your fav food, fav colour and your fav hobbies.
IF she likes you will she dump you for another date?
You come to us with all this questions about her and it shows that you seriously doubt her.
If she likes you then have the guts to ask her to be your gf. If she says yes then she is in love with you if she says no then she is playing with u. -
Sometimes Girls shouldn't blame it on guys for not trusting or doubting them.Originally posted by drx:You come to us with all this questions about her and it shows that you seriously doubt her.
Sometimes it is the Girls who created the doubts unknowingly through their actions, and as such, guys get caught in the act and there is goes, the cycle of self torture.
I trust her totally ( why should I not trust her), it's just that her actions,her attitude towards me is making/forcing me doubting her and losing trust as time pass..
Get what I mean?
This is not a matter as in " If I like her then I shouldnt be blah blah" If that's the case, we can create a lot of such sentences and there will be no 2- timing, no neglect, no more ''If you like me, why be together in the first place?" in this world. -
Originally posted by InSidiousGG:
How many times have she done this to you? If you let her do it repeatedly to you, then you can't blame her. You are just letting yourself to be a fool for her.
Sometimes Girls shouldn't blame it on guys for not trusting or doubting them.
Sometimes it is the Girls who [b]created the doubts unknowingly through their actions, and as such, guys get caught in the act and there is goes, the cycle of self torture.
I trust her totally ( why should I not trust her), it's just that her actions,her attitude towards me is making/forcing me doubting her and losing trust as time pass..
Get what I mean?
This is not a matter as in " If I like her then I shouldnt be blah blah" If that's the case, we can create a lot of such sentences and there will be no 2- timing, no neglect, no more ''If you like me, why be together in the first place?" in this world.[/b]
If she really likes you, she will make an effort to fulfil her promise about your dates together. And I especially despise people who likes to "fly aeroplane", my ex did that a few times to me and true enough, we broke off a few months later because of lack of commitment on his part. -
tell her about this.Originally posted by InSidiousGG:A girl whom I like.. I helped her in every way I can, especially through Poly assignments.. Helped her almost everyday ..
This has become on a daily basis until.. she took me for granted.. Whenever she had problems, she then comes to me and throws me the work.. And everytime I done it, she simply said ''Thank you for your help''
I feel so used and unappreciated.. That's not all..
She asked me out.. ( I was like ''yay! I am getting some hopes" ) few days before the actual.. and when the day comes,she simply says she forgot, ''sorry too tired next time'' or ''I am meeting others..sorry'' or even not calling me for that day and the following day, act as if nothing has happened..
I was like huh, the date was like prearanged few days back..she should have knew and have the basic manners to set aside time for the date..
And yesterday, She msg me, she is meeting her friend ( guy) maybe a little late, and (of course) ''help me with my work when I come back?''
I got sadden..disappointed.. How come she remembers other guys dates and not mine.. Why must it have to be me...
I feel like crying everyday.. everynight when I go to sleep..
I feel much better now.. Thank you. -
She may just be treating you as her good buddy, someone who is always around when she needs help, and you fufill that. As words like "I like you" doesn't really mean anything. What she meant maybe, "I like you (as a friend)" We become friends with each other as we have a liking for each other unconsciously.
Maybe, you think too much. -
As a matter of fact, I see none of this happening to me. Guess she doesn't really like me after all.Originally posted by rainee:If she really likes you, she will make an effort to fulfil her promise about your dates together.
Just had a conversation with her via msn..and she gave this ironical reply about our dates..
''I want to go out with you but I forgot.''
I mean,if you wanna go out with me then how can you forget..
See the contradiction?
As you have said rainee. I hell agree with your statement. -
Forget about her.
She knows your weakness & she's exploiting that.
You are being treated like a carrot-head, it's plain to see.
If you feel unappreciated, it goes to show you will never be one of her priorities, even as a friend.
If you still want to be her friend, moderate yourself a few notches down to cut down on the dissapointment. -
She doesn't like you in the very 1st place....