Originally posted by the Bear:
find someone whom you love and who loves you back with interest... someone you can trust, respect and all that..
and... prove the cynics wrong

to prove the cynics wrong, we must all put alittle affort...
finding someone whom u love and who loves u in return etc etc is not the end...its just the beginning.....
we are dealing with human....human are not stand still.....there are many things involved....we change with time, with new life experience, with diff ppl we meet on the way, with things we hear, learn etc etc....
how couples can keep up with each other's change and also to keep the fire still burning for the many years is a interesting challenge....u can read up tips etc but u will hv to innovise to suit your r/s...and of course u need two hands to clap....how u can make the other hand to clap with u is also another issue....

and we must also learn when we have to be a one eye jack (keep one eye close on trivial matters) ...and know when we must stand firm so that the other party don't take things for granted....etc etc
chim?? no lah.....only need u to put in little effort which can go a long way....
don't see marriage as such a scary thing....its actually very beautiful...