Help - LDR
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To cut it short, got into a LDR, love my gal lots, we used to keep in contact very regularly, nowdays (few wks) things kinda became different, her parents doesnt know we are together, so she moved in with her parents recently (was staying elsewhere), and she cant talk to me often, plus in LDR there is always a weird feeling because ur partner is so far away, one day she asked me to open her email to delete the junk emails, i noticed a "receipt" for a greeting cards send to someone, visited the link, apparently shes been sending out 2 - 3 "love" cards to someone else, and weirdly none to me, when i questioned her about it, she said they were just friends, and she was just trying it out, with all the cards.
Question 1) I dont belive her answer, do you ?
Question 2) What should i do next ?
Any advice would be welcomed -
1) i dun believe too.
2) dun do anything. give her the benefit of doubt. =) -
Girls are such (or have the potential to be) devious, cunning creatures. My advice is give her the benefit of the doubt and dont think too much of it.
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Its really difficult in a LDR, when you cannot speak to the other party, it sucks, any time i am free i think about her, but then again cant contact her, she will be the one to initiate contact if/when shes free, so well ill try not to keep my mind idle, will try to do lots of stuff
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Its very suspicious to send "LOVE cards" to someone else besides you. I think anyone in your shoe will feel very disgusted by her action.Originally posted by reallyconfused:To cut it short, got into a LDR, love my gal lots, we used to keep in contact very regularly, nowdays (few wks) things kinda became different, her parents doesnt know we are together, so she moved in with her parents recently (was staying elsewhere), and she cant talk to me often, plus in LDR there is always a weird feeling because ur partner is so far away, one day she asked me to open her email to delete the junk emails, i noticed a "receipt" for a greeting cards send to someone, visited the link, apparently shes been sending out 2 - 3 "love" cards to someone else, and weirdly none to me, when i questioned her about it, she said they were just friends, and she was just trying it out, with all the cards.
Question 1) I dont belive her answer, do you ?
Question 2) What should i do next ?
Any advice would be welcomed
No one likes LDR.
1) Too far
2) Costly in communication(telephone, take transport over there)
3) Emotional stressed
How old are you? -
what is LDR? can any1 enlighten me? what its stand for
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stop the LDR immediately. this is a clear case of the gal using love
and cooking up a story to hook guys. there'll be many things she'll hide from you. she'll tell you stories and when the time is ripe, even cry because of problems. her purpose is to con you to willingly send her money
and after that, disappear.
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Long Distance RelationshipOriginally posted by heavenlyfire:what is LDR? can any1 enlighten me? what its stand for -
If she is serious abt u, she won't be sending love msgs to other people.
Don't waste your time waiting for her. -
Sent for fun cannot?
Got many many gals and guys also sent me weird weird thing like I miss you, muack muack, hug hug, you are special to me lehz... Dun mean anything de lah... btw...why you must LDR? -
Same here.. me going into LDR soon.. my SO leaving singapore. I can understand the doubts in LDR..
All i can say is TRUST! Since she said it's to try, then let it be. Esp when she's willing to tell u her password to her email acc and get u to delete mails means that she has nothing to hide. So dun think too much..
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Think about it this way. She has nothing to hide from u. And she trust you. Thats why she let u have access to her email account and ask you to delete the junk mail. If she has love letters or has something to hide from you, do you think she would let you do it?
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Maybe she is seeking for a way out of this relationship with you?Originally posted by reallyconfused:To cut it short, got into a LDR, love my gal lots, we used to keep in contact very regularly, nowdays (few wks) things kinda became different, her parents doesnt know we are together, so she moved in with her parents recently (was staying elsewhere), and she cant talk to me often, plus in LDR there is always a weird feeling because ur partner is so far away, one day she asked me to open her email to delete the junk emails, i noticed a "receipt" for a greeting cards send to someone, visited the link, apparently shes been sending out 2 - 3 "love" cards to someone else, and weirdly none to me, when i questioned her about it, she said they were just friends, and she was just trying it out, with all the cards.
Question 1) I dont belive her answer, do you ?
Question 2) What should i do next ?
Any advice would be welcomed
Well, it is possible that she purposely left those emails on her inbox for you to find out...and hopefully some bad situations will be created out of this and either you'll decide to leave her or she will have an excuse to leave you (if both of you quarrelled over this).
Come to think of this, is she really that careless? (As least she still remembered there's some junk emails left in her inbox.)
Or is it normal for her to ask you to help her to clear out her junk emails? (Why can't she do it herself?)
It is still technically possible for her to be smart enough to entrap you with this tiny trap.
It all depends on what type of a person she is. For example, do you think that if she wants to break up with you...she would have the courage to tell you about it? Or Do you think she would rather let you initiate the breaking-up? And is she the kind who is easily worried over what others might think about her...most of the time? All these questions will be best left for you to answer them and find out by yourself.
Sometimes a girl don't just stick with a guy because of love, they stick with the guy cos they're just stuck on him.
Good luck and I certainly hope that things won't turn out the way I've said, but to be immune to this and happens to be the best way out...is to ignore what you've seen and doubts and believe what she tells you. As a guy, you'll need to trust her to the very end of your faith. -
Originally posted by Ayukat:Sent for fun cannot? Got many many gals and guys also sent me weird weird thing like I miss you, muack muack, hug hug, you are special to me lehz... Dun mean anything de lah... btw...why you must LDR? Are you sure?
Maybe they really meant something?
Forget about the guys, concentrate on the gals.
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Is meh? She got sent me funny funny things like I miss you, you are special blab blah... but I ask her come out she never reply leh...Originally posted by parn: Are you sure?
Maybe they really meant something?
Forget about the guys, concentrate on the gals.
Sometimes...its better not to think to much...