Dear CannyOng,
It's normal to develop warmer feelings towards those you're closest with. I'm very fond of my close guy friend, who, sadly, went overseas to London in March this year (on my damn birthday itself

) to work. When the London blasts occurred, I called his house in a panic to obtain his London no. (prior to that, we kept in touch via email) & called screaming, "Ohmigawd, ohmigawd, I'm so GLAD you're ok!".
In my case though, it's a fondness that has been built up over time, more than 10 years, & we care very deeply about each other. But it's something that's warm, I don't get that melting feeling like I get when I'm with my guy. I don't have the urge to reach out & hold my friend's hand. I don't have the urge to kiss my friend (GROSS). I don't have the urge to... oh nevermind, the thought of it is yucky enough. It's something really like an older brother-younger sister thing. My guy knows about it, & is fine with it.
In a nutshell, you may be confused by the joy of getting close to a friend with feelings of the heart. True love is Not so fickle that you'll fall in love with every girl you're close to. But falling in love with the special someone closest to your heart is the most wonderful thing in the world.
FeowFeow
Originally posted by CannyOng:
As long as I feel comfortable chatting or together with a gal(peer 20+,not auntie or small girl),I will like or love her! Is it normal or considered flicker-minded?