Totally no confidence
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I have now clean forgot about my past relationship with A...its over and my wounds have just healed
I been going out with my friends....some of them have brought me to parties where i make new friends and meet new girls
Now when i go to school everyday,i will see a girl..this girl was introduced to me by my friend...we didn't talk much..everytime i see her...i will pretend i wun see her...i know its rude of me but i dun want to know another girl that i might like (she is my ideal type though) because i am not the guy that they are looking for.
My friends know that i am the quiet and shy type..i agree with them...thats why i think i am not the ideal guy for girls
what i really want to do is....i dunno...i am really lost now -
give yourself more time to recover from the relationship that just ended. by the way how old are you?
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16-17...the thing is...since sec 1 until now...so about 4-5 years...not really fully recovered..wounds heal...but not fullyOriginally posted by Deportivo:give yourself more time to recover from the relationship that just ended. by the way how old are you? -
hmm..wound dun heal 1 lor...unless u get amensia....no matter hw hard u wish 2 4get...or a better 1 cum along......deep down inside ur heart..u alway think of wad if, we r still 2gather....
Well, my advise is, try to let go of e past, u can change e past liao....jus let past b a gd memories, let it b sweet rather den linger in e past....
Try to noe more frans...soon, u noe, is it worth it or not.... -
I am just scared to move forward...and choose another person...I do not have what i used to be when i first met A....Originally posted by progene:hmm..wound dun heal 1 lor...unless u get amensia....no matter hw hard u wish 2 4get...or a better 1 cum along......deep down inside ur heart..u alway think of wad if, we r still 2gather....
Well, my advise is, try to let go of e past, u can change e past liao....jus let past b a gd memories, let it b sweet rather den linger in e past....
Try to noe more frans...soon, u noe, is it worth it or not.... -
Jus take tink as it is can liao..."A" might hav been a beri impt person 2 u..but dat was all in e past.....Originally posted by StarPuppy:I am just scared to move forward...and choose another person...I do not have what i used to be when i first met A....
no 1 force u 2 b in a r/s...it's all ur choice....but e further u run away from reality, e more burden u get, e more sadden u get...e wound will always b there... -
How to get back the courage...i gave my courage to her....its just that i feel very shy towards the girls that i met...like...if they knew me...its their bad luck
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U r shy is 1 tink... but u cannot say they noe u is bad luck....b frans onli ma...wad there to b shy abt?normal fran onli ma....Originally posted by StarPuppy:How to get back the courage...i gave my courage to her....its just that i feel very shy towards the girls that i met...like...if they knew me...its their bad luck
Does nt mean u shy, den u cannot meet gals den bcum monk to advoid all of dem ma! -
Oh, please don't say that.Originally posted by StarPuppy:...if they knew me...its their bad luck
Everyone of us has our own self worth. 
And we have our very own unique role in this world/society.
At your age, yes, it is nice to have a special friend/companion but I would put studies first. Let that be your main goal and hopefully you will not think too much about b/g relationship. If it comes, great, if not, concentrate on building a foundation and take your time to enjoy friendships.
When we make a special effort to look, we often get blinded or overly cautious. Let nature takes its course. It is much more comfortable that way. Enjoy a friendship. If something blossoms, at least it was built and not just a surge of passion.
Good luck with your studies, StarPuppy. Set your priorities and hopefully everything else can fall into place. By the way, how was your exams today? Trust all's well.
Cheer up, stay happy and healty......both mind and soul. -
U are still young.
Get to know more girls & treat them as friends. More fun to go out in a group.
Build your self confidence by interacting more. This will help u by becoming less shy.
Don't be in a hurry to get attached. -
If you want to go into a r/s, get rid of the fear of getting hurt first. Because no matter what, there is always a possibility of that happening when you are in love
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gerrys right... no hurries yah??? when you grow older, you'll find the courage. your biology will teach you.
in the mean time, join lots of school activities. go out and speak to people. master the skill of talking to anyone anywhere without turning red... liddat when u go uni, meeting gals is no problem. -
You THINK? But how do you KNOW you're not the ideal type for them? You're not them? You're no GOD? And there're simply SO MANY DIFFERENT TYPES of GIRLS out there... How can you POSSIBLY be UNSUITABLE for ALL of them...?Originally posted by StarPuppy:I have now clean forgot about my past relationship with A...its over and my wounds have just healed
I been going out with my friends....some of them have brought me to parties where i make new friends and meet new girls
Now when i go to school everyday,i will see a girl..this girl was introduced to me by my friend...we didn't talk much..everytime i see her...i will pretend i wun see her...i know its rude of me but i dun want to know another girl that i might like (she is my ideal type though) because i am not the guy that they are looking for.
My friends know that i am the quiet and shy type..i agree with them...thats why i think i am not the ideal guy for girls
what i really want to do is....i dunno...i am really lost now
That means you've not fully recovered and healed from your relationship as you've claimed to be yet... Slowly give yourself more time to find back who you are... Or find and accept the person you've becomed...?Originally posted by StarPuppy:I am just scared to move forward...and choose another person...I do not have what i used to be when i first met A.... -
SP, what do u mean by past relationship? As far as I know, u and her never started.
Erm..ideal girl? Do u mean that she's shorter than u? -
Originally posted by StarPuppy:I have now clean forgot about my past relationship with A...its over and my wounds have just healed
I been going out with my friends....some of them have brought me to parties where i make new friends and meet new girls
Now when i go to school everyday,i will see a girl..this girl was introduced to me by my friend...we didn't talk much..everytime i see her...i will pretend i wun see her...i know its rude of me but i dun want to know another girl that i might like (she is my ideal type though) because i am not the guy that they are looking for.
My friends know that i am the quiet and shy type..i agree with them...thats why i think i am not the ideal guy for girls
what i really want to do is....i dunno...i am really lost now
Dude, its not so much about being not confident - you have yet to start anything or even thought about the possibility of her being a potential and desire to do something about it. You merely labelled her as your ideal girl and that doesn't speak much.
The actual problem is that you fear rejection? Your ideal girl constitute more painful rejection. Similar rejection... probably the same fear you got from A might happen to this girl.
You have gotten over A?
Sure?
Take some time and think about this.
Cheers -
Yes, I agree. You are not the ideal guy for girls. You are a wussy wimp.Originally posted by StarPuppy:My friends know that i am the quiet and shy type..i agree with them...thats why i think i am not the ideal guy for girls
what i really want to do is....i dunno...i am really lost now
What you should really do is to get a life and have fun.