Ideas, anyone? : )
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Tell you something horrible, I love chocolate, but everytime I eat chocolate, I gana pimples
It's hereditary, my parents also like that. We're allergic to chocolate although we love it 
But sometimes I don't care & still eat peppermint chocolate chip ice cream
The peanut butter cookies sound so good though, he loves soft & chewy cookies!
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square:Heh.
Start baking!
I'm learning how to make chocolate coated cookie with white mint fills. Oh lala!!!
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He'll love the chewy cookies too
Thanks so much! You're a lifesaver!
FeowFeow
quote]Originally posted by M©+square:
Heh.
Start baking!
I'm learning how to make chocolate coated cookie with white mint fills. Oh lala!!! [/quote] -
Tell me how it turned out k?Originally posted by FeowFeow:Tell you something horrible, I love chocolate, but everytime I eat chocolate, I gana pimples It's hereditary, my parents also like that. We're allergic to chocolate although we love it
But sometimes I don't care & still eat peppermint chocolate chip ice cream
The peanut butter cookies sound so good though, he loves soft & chewy cookies!
FeowFeow
I also want to bake for my gal.
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Sure, of course I'll tell you how it turns out
HOI, you Mod hor, still never share your lurrrrvey durrrrrrrvey stories with other people
From what I see, there're many clueless people in AA who need help with almost every topic/hint/suggestion we can come up with!
As Mod, you have to set example what
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square:Tell me how it turned out k?
I also want to bake for my gal. -
damn.. i can feel an inflammation coming
fever comin too -
I think your bf is mature enough to understand that you love him a lot and is willing to do lots of things for him.
But sometimes it may be just a listerning ear that he needs. If your bf needs some space along just leave him for a while, i know this maybe hard for you but at times like this even if you give him everything he will not respond to you.
Just be there when he needs you is more than enough, is not the things that you do that is important but be there when he needs you most, and giving your tender loving care to him, is the most important thing for your bf.
Let him cry! Tell him that is alrite to cry it out loud and to let his feelings out.
The more he holds back the more pain he will feel. -
... p s y c h o ..... LoL! kidding..
I reckon u both should get stoned. Then watch him express his sadness cry n get over it..next thing u know..WALA.. get stone after ..ur mentos , chocholates.. dinner etc etc.. he he he ! -
After he had a nice cry and after being sad for so long. I would like to suggest a few romatic places to have a nice dinner so that he will not be hungry from all that crying and you can spend a nice quiet time with him.
Here is the list.
1) Blu restaurant, top floor of shangri la
2) new Italian resturant call La Cantina in Venezia at Le Meridien Changi Village hotel level 8
3) Angus Steak house (I think it is the name but angus anyways ) on the top level of takashimaya department store.
4) Jann = Equinox
5) Seah Street Deli @ Raffles Hotel
6) poolside dining at pavilion inside Beaufort hotel at Sentosa , great view of the South China Sea
7) Au Jardin Les Amis = botanic gardens
8 ) 2-Door = 38 Club Steet Singapore 069418
9) Altivo resturant at Mount Faber
10) Flutes at the Fort = 21 Lewin Terrace, Fort Canning Park, Singapore 179290
11) Saint Julien - The Restaurant = 3 Fullerton Road, Fullerton Waterboat House, Singapore 049215
12) Al Dente Trattoria = Esplanade
13) sakae sushi at sentosa
14) Top of the M
15) pontini at grand copthorne
I highly recomand La CaNtINa De vEnEzIa at Le Meridien Changi Village hotel.
Someone even quote this after going there for the first time.
"i made a booking juz 2 days in advance n they reserved the 'best' seat in e house. it's a small balcony on the 9th floor with the best view and only 3 tables, offering pretty much privacy." -
Originally posted by drx:Let him cry! Tell him that is alrite to cry it out loud and to let his feelings out.
The more he holds back the more pain he will feel.Originally posted by drx:After he had a nice cry and after being sad for so long. I would like to suggest a few romatic places to have a nice dinner so that he will not be hungry from all that crying and you can spend a nice quiet time with him.
You two very funny or i should say cute.Originally posted by BadzMaro:... p s y c h o ..... LoL! kidding..
I reckon u both should get stoned. Then watch him express his sadness cry n get over it..next thing u know..WALA.. get stone after ..ur mentos , chocholates.. dinner etc etc.. he he he !
How would you know if he will cry or feel pain?
You think every person will cry when their father passed on? He might need Feow's support to take him thru this time of grieve. She could be a pillar that cheer him on.
I'm quite confident Feow's bf is prepared for the worst. And she knows best what is the situation now.
I found out that dealing with preparation of the death of your loved one is much easier than dealing a sudden lost.
Think about it? -
She asked us for ideas and we just give her some of ours.
I did not laugh at her bf but I respected her bf for I know how it feels to lose someone you truly loved.
I suggested a few ideas to help her if you do not like my ideas is alrite with me.
Since you feel that I am trying to be cute or funny by trying to help her with some of my ideas then I will no longer advice her for this tread anymore.
My last advice to Feow Feow
Crying is a way to let out your true feelings out if you surpress it and just by putting on a brave front for others to see, you will feel more hurt inside.
I lost my ex in the past, for a long time I did not cry and bottle up my feelings until the day I nearly went crazy, my ex mum advice me to let it all out and I cried, I felt better and was able to get a new start in life.
That was what I had been thru and I have posted my problems and methods to solve it. If you feel is just a waste of my time writing all this then I have nothing to say.
From now on M©+square will be your adviser for this thread.
Take care -
Erm... Before you really do all this, can you first cool down a bit?
I have been thru wat your bf is going through. And seriously, the last thing I needed at that time, is to have ppl fuss over me. I tried to keep it cool as I needed a period to settle my emotions first. Anything too drastic will have the wrong effects.
I do know you mean well to let him know how much you care about him and that he will feel loved. But, if he is like me, I would like to keep everything as per normal.
However, fetching him from the airport will be nice. Dun tell him how sorry you are abt his father's death. He may feel frustrated. A hug whenever you see him pondering at a corner will do. -
Rather defensive? Maybe it is something personal.Originally posted by drx:She asked us for ideas and we just give her some of ours.
I did not laugh at her bf but I respected her bf for I know how it feels to lose someone you truly loved.
I suggested a few ideas to help her if you do not like my ideas is alrite with me.
Since you feel that I am trying to be cute or funny by trying to help her with some of my ideas then I will no longer advice her for this tread anymore.
My last advice to Feow Feow
Crying is a way to let out your true feelings out if you surpress it and just by putting on a brave front for others to see, you will feel more hurt inside.
I lost my ex in the past, for a long time I did not cry and bottle up my feelings until the day I nearly went crazy, my ex mum advice me to let it all out and I cried, I felt better and was able to get a new start in life.
That was what I had been thru and I have posted my problems and methods to solve it. If you feel is just a waste of my time writing all this then I have nothing to say.
From now on M©+square will be your adviser for this thread.
Take care
I'm quite sure i didn't type that reply with the intention you've stated.
Chill and Cheers -
I'm quite sure you've got plenty of ideas for now...?Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hi Folkz,
I seldom ask for help on AA, preferring to help others. Now, I need a little favour from the kind souls around here : ) It's kinda sad, actually...
My guy's dad is dying from an aggressive form of cancer, & his grandma called yesterday to ask him to fly over soon, to see him 1 last time. He's preparing to go, trying to book a ticket at such short notice isn't easy. Anyway, I'm preparing for the week whereby I won't see him for dinner... I'm Not the clingy sort when he's around, I know that he'll be just a phone call away, but this time, he'll be away for about a week...
I know he's only gonna come back grieving, & it really breaks my heart Not knowing what I can do to comfort him apart from hugs, kisses, you know... So, I would like to make his return extra special by filling his place with little things, stuff that he likes, for everyday of the week that I'll miss him.
So when we get back from the airport, I'll tell him, "Look in the fridge..." then "Look on the bed..." then "Look in the cupboard..." that kinda thing, & each time he looks, he'll find a little something...
At the end of it all, I'm gonna tell him how much I've missed him (I just KNOW I'm gonna go crazy all week)...
So now, the help needed. I've come up with a little list of somethings that he likes, but it's Not enough for 7 days (my poor head feels like something's pounding on it, with all that thinking, I'm Not exactly smart)... Here's what I've thought of so far:
1. A whole pile of Mentos in every flavour. Don't ask He's nuts about them
2. A box of his rum balls from his favourite shop.
3. A box of Kinder Bueno.
4. A Dri-fit shirt (for the damn heat now)
5. An issue of his favourite magazine
2 more? The above is what he likes & needs, but I can't find anything more leh Can someone, anyone, just give me some ideas? It'd be much appreciated 
FeowFeow
To add... Moderate the situation? I'm not sure about your bf, but some guys need a bit of 'cooling period' for such things... He might be what he appears to be on the surface... BUT don't be TOO SENSITIVE about it... Just be sensitive in moderation would do...
Not forgetting the fact that he should be quite tired from everything after his return..? So a good way to start is perhaps more relaxing..? For example...
1. Good relaxing bath (psychologically speaking, it's good to avoid aroma candles..)
2. A simple but decent meal preferably prepared by you?
3. A good massage?
4. Some mild catching up sessions? -
Hi DRX,
Sorry for such a late reply, I'm so touched that people here have been giving me advice, etc. Every little bit helps, & I'm grateful. Yes, I'm aware that there'll be times when he needs to be left alone. I'll definitely do that the moment he displays any body language that indicates so. But I'll take your advice & be there for him whenever he asks.. In fact, I'll go running!
FeowFeowOriginally posted by drx:I think your bf is mature enough to understand that you love him a lot and is willing to do lots of things for him.
But sometimes it may be just a listerning ear that he needs. If your bf needs some space along just leave him for a while, i know this maybe hard for you but at times like this even if you give him everything he will not respond to you.
Just be there when he needs you is more than enough, is not the things that you do that is important but be there when he needs you most, and giving your tender loving care to him, is the most important thing for your bf.
Let him cry! Tell him that is alrite to cry it out loud and to let his feelings out.
The more he holds back the more pain he will feel. -
Hiyah MC : )
Glad to say that he's taking it better than I'd expected, but it's still affected him deeply. He hasn't sobbed or anything like that, but his eyes do get red at times & he appears downcast. Actually, most of the time when I'm with him, we just sit there holding each other for a very long time. I can just imagine how he feels, went through the same thing when my beloved granddad died.
Honestly, everybody reacts to death in various ways, so his ways are very dissimilar to mine. Thank goodness we have an understanding enough of each other to know instinctively what each other needs... For now at least, it seems he just needs to be supported. And I'm there as much as I can.
Sometimes I tell him about the forum people & how the kind souls have extended a listening ear & advice. You won't believe it, but it helps.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square:You two very funny or i should say cute.
How would you know if he will cry or feel pain?
You think every person will cry when their father passed on? He might need Feow's support to take him thru this time of grieve. She could be a pillar that cheer him on.
I'm quite confident Feow's bf is prepared for the worst. And she knows best what is the situation now.
I found out that dealing with preparation of the death of your loved one is much easier than dealing a sudden lost.
Think about it? -
Hey,
As long as there's a genuine kindness shown to my bf & me here, I'm very grateful. So please don't get upset nor argue on my account. Even if the ideas are Not taken up, it's received with much gratitude : )
By the way, I DO intend to take him to dinner at Changi Meridien when he's back : ) I'm so Not looking forward to him going, as I know he'll feel depressed by the time he returns. But then, it's his father, it'd be selfish if I try to make him stay.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by drx:She asked us for ideas and we just give her some of ours.
I did not laugh at her bf but I respected her bf for I know how it feels to lose someone you truly loved.
I suggested a few ideas to help her if you do not like my ideas is alrite with me.
Since you feel that I am trying to be cute or funny by trying to help her with some of my ideas then I will no longer advice her for this tread anymore.
My last advice to Feow Feow
Crying is a way to let out your true feelings out if you surpress it and just by putting on a brave front for others to see, you will feel more hurt inside.
I lost my ex in the past, for a long time I did not cry and bottle up my feelings until the day I nearly went crazy, my ex mum advice me to let it all out and I cried, I felt better and was able to get a new start in life.
That was what I had been thru and I have posted my problems and methods to solve it. If you feel is just a waste of my time writing all this then I have nothing to say.
From now on M©+square will be your adviser for this thread.
Take care -
Hi Ilpsy,
Your opinion is noted, thank you : ) Don't worry, I know him well enough. Just his body language will be able to tell me what I should do during that time. I'll just have those things prepared & play it by ear. But as far as possible, after that day, I hope to resume a "normal" routine & take it from there...
It's never easy dealing with such a difficult, Not to mention painful, situation...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by ILPSY:Erm... Before you really do all this, can you first cool down a bit?
I have been thru wat your bf is going through. And seriously, the last thing I needed at that time, is to have ppl fuss over me. I tried to keep it cool as I needed a period to settle my emotions first. Anything too drastic will have the wrong effects.
I do know you mean well to let him know how much you care about him and that he will feel loved. But, if he is like me, I would like to keep everything as per normal.
However, fetching him from the airport will be nice. Dun tell him how sorry you are abt his father's death. He may feel frustrated. A hug whenever you see him pondering at a corner will do. -
Hiyah Dev : )
The relaxing bath & massage sound wonderful. It's the meal part I'm worried about In fact, he won't let me into the kitchen unless we're preparing something together, I'm that hopeless
The cookie recipe so kindly provided by MC will come in handy. He'll have had dinner on the plane, & by the time he's back, it'll be bloody 1am So what I'm planning (if he isn't too tired), is to give him a shower (erm, let's put it another way, run him a hot bath), help him unpack, then surprise him. If he's too tired, then I'll shelve the surprise & just give him the whole pack, a HUGE hug, & we can sit down for cookies & hot milk & talk...
Then the massage : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Devil1976:I'm quite sure you've got plenty of ideas for now...?
To add... Moderate the situation? I'm not sure about your bf, but some guys need a bit of 'cooling period' for such things... He might be what he appears to be on the surface... BUT don't be TOO SENSITIVE about it... Just be sensitive in moderation would do...
Not forgetting the fact that he should be quite tired from everything after his return..? So a good way to start is perhaps more relaxing..? For example...
1. Good relaxing bath (psychologically speaking, it's good to avoid aroma candles..)
2. A simple but decent meal preferably prepared by you?
3. A good massage?
4. Some mild catching up sessions? -
Remember to give him adequate rest yeah...?Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hiyah Dev : )
The relaxing bath & massage sound wonderful. It's the meal part I'm worried about In fact, he won't let me into the kitchen unless we're preparing something together, I'm that hopeless
The cookie recipe so kindly provided by MC will come in handy. He'll have had dinner on the plane, & by the time he's back, it'll be bloody 1am So what I'm planning (if he isn't too tired), is to give him a shower (erm, let's put it another way, run him a hot bath), help him unpack, then surprise him. If he's too tired, then I'll shelve the surprise & just give him the whole pack, a HUGE hug, & we can sit down for cookies & hot milk & talk...
Then the massage : )
FeowFeow -
*nodz nodz* Thanks : )
I'll be his personal butleress when he's back
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Devil1976:Remember to give him adequate rest yeah...?