I miss him...
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short version of my story
i suspected him seeing somoene else.. there were plently of classic signs displayed by him.
he kept quiet when i questioned him..
he wants to break up.
We do have our issues... for example he wants me to have personal growth... to do things on my own when he is not free.. . he needs his so called space.
anyway..the thing is we are seprated now.
went thru hell of time. it has been 2 weeks. oh nearly forgot to mention..we both are not very young... late 20s -30s. he is slightly younger by a few mths
we do still keep in touch.i know its something i shouldn't be doing.
he called on monday 1 august. we talked amicably. he said he hasn't been a good bf. and we both agreed we took things for granted. asked if i wanna join him for a movie we promised to watch b4. he wants to stay as friends and even commented that even though the status has change...he will still be around , encouraging me
and that we will still go for movies, dinners. He wants to be different according to him.. He doesn't wan to be like other guys where by once the relationship has ended... the guys disappear as well. He dun wan to be like those guys. 
i asked why did he called.. he said to see if i am okay, and that he wants to hear my voice. arrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh.
once again he called few nites ago. got a shock. he said he just wanna chat with me. after talking few mins.. i told him off..that i cannot really recover if he keeps on appearing like that. He asked if he should go away for awhile. i just kept quiet. Am i stupid or wat. Deep down i know he may be even f..king the girl..and yet i am still talking to him..allowing him to control my feelings!!!
wat does he wants.
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I can't tell u what he really want.
It's the matter of what you want it to be. -
hey snowy...
i'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out..
maybe, like you said, just let it go?
take some time off from stuff to cry, grieve and all that...
let time perform its miracle of healing and wearing away the jagged edges... and hopefully, you'll miss him lesser and lesser...
i hope you'll be well -
ok...thanks bear..
i guess ur rite....only i know wat i want and what i can do to heal faster. -
Take care.. and hope ya get over it soon.Originally posted by snowygal:ok...thanks bear..
i guess ur rite....only i know wat i want and what i can do to heal faster.
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Only you know what you want,if you want him away from your life,tell him that.. Happiness is not what others can give you permanently,ultimately its from yourself.
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again, i hope you'll be well...
and if you wanna, just to take your mind off things for a while or so, look up things that are planned in the forum Club30...
sometimes there are pub nights and stuff like that.. perhaps, it'll help with a little bit of distraction?
i dunno what else, just hope and pray that you'll be okay sooner rather than later... -
He misses u cuz he realises that there is no one else in his life when he is all alone.
He wants to get back together with u but fear the future may have too much to hold and does not want to commit himself.
He is trying to test the waters with u to see if anything can still be savaged from this rel.
And its up to u ultimately whether to reject him or not. A relationship will not dissolve into thin air at the blink of an eye.
If u want to really recover, cut off contact with him, of course tats extreme. Participate in more social activities to keep yrself busy during the day. Open yr feelings to close friends and family. Cry to relieve the stress at night. Good luck to making the right decision.
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Originally posted by snowygal:short version of my story
i suspected him seeing somoene else.. there were plently of classic signs displayed by him.
he kept quiet when i questioned him..
he wants to break up.
We do have our issues... for example he wants me to have personal growth... to do things on my own when he is not free.. . he needs his so called space.
anyway..the thing is we are seprated now.
went thru hell of time. it has been 2 weeks. oh nearly forgot to mention..we both are not very young... late 20s -30s. he is slightly younger by a few mths
we do still keep in touch.i know its something i shouldn't be doing.
he called on monday 1 august. we talked amicably. he said he hasn't been a good bf. and we both agreed we took things for granted. asked if i wanna join him for a movie we promised to watch b4. he wants to stay as friends and even commented that even though the status has change...he will still be around , encouraging me and that we will still go for movies, dinners. He wants to be different according to him.. He doesn't wan to be like other guys where by once the relationship has ended... the guys disappear as well. He dun wan to be like those guys.
i asked why did he called.. he said to see if i am okay, and that he wants to hear my voice. arrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh.
once again he called few nites ago. got a shock. he said he just wanna chat with me. after talking few mins.. i told him off..that i cannot really recover if he keeps on appearing like that. He asked if he should go away for awhile. i just kept quiet. Am i stupid or wat. Deep down i know he may be even f..king the girl..and yet i am still talking to him..allowing him to control my feelings!!!
wat does he wants.
He knows that he has some form of emotional hold onto you.
Friends after a relationship? This is a tricky part because its difficult to discern if it's for real or an excuse to ensure the emotional hold onto you.
You must realise that you have all the powers to save yourself.
Freewill to ignore/avoid him.
When you pick up his call/go outing/etc - you are consciously assimilating unhealthy hope into your soul. But your mind is enraged and you react fiercely upon his seemingly vile intention.
I remember an old law in CloUdiSm: One should only remain friends with one another AFTER one has actually moved on.
Think about it.
Cheers -
he is playing with you.
Cannot see or do not want to see?
you love him so much till it had blind your eyes.
If one day u saw him kiss and hugging another girl waht will u do?
1) slap him ?
Good. At least show him that u got guts to leave him,
2) hid and call him later?
Come on lar it only shows that u dare not face the truth, -
SnowyGal:
Hope you recover soon.....
It may turn out to be not worth it to be with someone whom you might find it difficult to trust anymore...
Do try to tok to friends often... , I guess it will help a lot by saying it out to ur close friends... I think it might help you to feel better as well... -
sad to hear... but its better to kill the feeling for him rather than let it stay arnd, so jz stay away from him n embrace a new chapter.... cheers!
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So has there been any 'confirmed evidence' that he's seeing someone else other than your 'tell-tale signs'...?Originally posted by snowygal:short version of my story
i suspected him seeing somoene else.. there were plently of classic signs displayed by him.
he kept quiet when i questioned him..
he wants to break up.
We do have our issues... for example he wants me to have personal growth... to do things on my own when he is not free.. . he needs his so called space.
anyway..the thing is we are seprated now.
went thru hell of time. it has been 2 weeks. oh nearly forgot to mention..we both are not very young... late 20s -30s. he is slightly younger by a few mths
we do still keep in touch.i know its something i shouldn't be doing.
he called on monday 1 august. we talked amicably. he said he hasn't been a good bf. and we both agreed we took things for granted. asked if i wanna join him for a movie we promised to watch b4. he wants to stay as friends and even commented that even though the status has change...he will still be around , encouraging me and that we will still go for movies, dinners. He wants to be different according to him.. He doesn't wan to be like other guys where by once the relationship has ended... the guys disappear as well. He dun wan to be like those guys.
i asked why did he called.. he said to see if i am okay, and that he wants to hear my voice. arrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh.
once again he called few nites ago. got a shock. he said he just wanna chat with me. after talking few mins.. i told him off..that i cannot really recover if he keeps on appearing like that. He asked if he should go away for awhile. i just kept quiet. Am i stupid or wat. Deep down i know he may be even f..king the girl..and yet i am still talking to him..allowing him to control my feelings!!!
wat does he wants.
Your 'separation' with him.. Is it already a break up...?
Is it has already a break up, I think you should arrange for whatever you deem fit and better for your own recovery... Nope, you don't have to tell him off but yes.. You can just speak up your mind and let him know.... -
yeah..i got the truth out of him. he wouldn't admit there was someone ..but he also didn't deny. i said was it someone in the office..and he said no..not someone from the office. but he went on saying he didn't betray me . but emotional betrayal is the worst.
its over lah. i told him off. friendship can wait. i have to heal first. already 2 weeks plus lor. he still msn me occassionally. nothing much. i am better. have to be. -
go for a bear dude
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go for a bear dude
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good girl... be strong yah?
and as for MSN, block him for a while until you are okay?
i hope you'll be well...Originally posted by snowygal:yeah..i got the truth out of him. he wouldn't admit there was someone ..but he also didn't deny. i said was it someone in the office..and he said no..not someone from the office. but he went on saying he didn't betray me . but emotional betrayal is the worst.
its over lah. i told him off. friendship can wait. i have to heal first. already 2 weeks plus lor. he still msn me occassionally. nothing much. i am better. have to be. -
just beware of someone here...who was acted just like your bf before, and come here to give you those consoling words.... suckers
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Empathise the agony you r going thru....... mine too never admit but no deny..Originally posted by snowygal:yeah..i got the truth out of him. he wouldn't admit there was someone ..but he also didn't deny. i said was it someone in the office..and he said no..not someone from the office. but he went on saying he didn't betray me . but emotional betrayal is the worst.
its over lah. i told him off. friendship can wait. i have to heal first. already 2 weeks plus lor. he still msn me occassionally. nothing much. i am better. have to be.
tell me its none of my business some more..... *feel like killing him at that point in time"
at least count your blessing that you guys r not married.....you will not want to discover that he is cheating on you only after marriage....... you cant figure
out the emotional and financial trauma that you will need to be put thru'....
Pray that you will find a nice guy soon!! I am sure that r still nice SG guys out there!!! -
got ur beer?
feels better right.. -
nabeh some chicks see microscopic sign of a guy straying want to break off liao...even if the guy is totally innocent, the chick wants to break up...nabeh talk about emotional paranoia...Originally posted by Devil1976:So has there been any 'confirmed evidence' that he's seeing someone else other than your 'tell-tale signs'...?
Your 'separation' with him.. Is it already a break up...?
Is it has already a break up, I think you should arrange for whatever you deem fit and better for your own recovery... Nope, you don't have to tell him off but yes.. You can just speak up your mind and let him know....
chicks are fickle minded...not emotionally strong at all...which is why guys will always get the better of girls...basket..this is a case of psycho-ing herself out of a bf...nabeh...if he's flirting around, fight to get him back lor...why not go to the other chao cheebye girl's house & throw excrement on her face? simple what...why give up so easily? -
thanks for all the kind advice....but i dun quite get the last "advice"
thanks bear..and the rest...i will be strong. -
ignore mahai.. he's the resident heckler...
and.. attagirl! be well yah?
if you're up to meeting a few people who are nice to take your mind off stuff, come over to Muddy Murphy's on friday evening... a few of us are hanging out over a couple of drinks there... spot you one and some really nice cheesy mushroom melts tooOriginally posted by snowygal:thanks for all the kind advice....but i dun quite get the last "advice"
thanks bear..and the rest...i will be strong. -
He doesn't love you...at least not as much as you do....
If he loves you, he won't be with another girl...i mean, he won't choose to be with another girl....
I understand how you're feeling right now...coz i'm in the same situation as you're in now..onli difference is that you're a gal n i'm a guy...