I wonder...

• Coinz

  9 Aug 05, 17:36

  Hi pple,
  I just broke up with my gf recently. After a series of qarrels and shit, we broke up.
  Till now, i find myself thinking of her at times. Well, I find it really disturbing to find her "letting things go" really easily. Whenever i recalled her saying that she loved me alot etc but to see her letting things off so easily, it really pissed me off. Afterall, i did try hard in managing this relationship.
  
  Any pple encountered the smiliar situation b4??
  
  I not asking for advices or so. Just wanted a channel to express how i feel.
  
  sometimes i feel i should really let go...maybe shes not worth my love and effort....or maybe she isn't the one for me.
  
  
• pinkygal76

  9 Aug 05, 17:47

  Originally posted by Coinz:

  Hi pple,
  I just broke up with my gf recently. After a series of qarrels and shit, we broke up.
  Till now, i find myself thinking of her at times. Well, I find it really disturbing to find her "letting things go" really easily. Whenever i recalled her saying that she loved me alot etc but to see her letting things off so easily, it really pissed me off. Afterall, i did try hard in managing this relationship.
  
  Any pple encountered the smiliar situation b4??
  
  I not asking for advices or so. Just wanted a channel to express how i feel.
  
  sometimes i feel i should really let go...maybe shes not worth my love and effort....or maybe she isn't the one for me.
  
  

  "Why does the sun go on shining?
  Why does the sea rush to shore?
  Don't they know it's the end of the world
  'Cause you don't love me anymore?
  Why do the birds go on singing?
  Why do the stars glow above?
  Don't they know it's the end of the world
  It ended when I lost your love.
  I wake up in the morning and I wonder
  Why ev'rything's the same as it was.
  I can't understand, no I can't understand
  How life goes on the way it does
  Why does my heart go on beating?
  Why do these eyes of mine cry?
  Don't they know know it's the end of the world?
  It ended when you said goodbye
  Don't they know know it's the end of the world?
  It ended when you said goodbye"
  
  Say it wif music my dear...... the lyrics will probably be an exact reflection of how you r feeling rite now.... its ok to indulge in self pity for a while....but do remember to let go of the lost love eventually & pack up your emotional baggage after a while .......
  
  Time will heal all wounds..... love yourself first....you will find someone that
  you truly love eventually....
  
  .....
  
  
• FireIce

  9 Aug 05, 17:49

  find new frens, take up new hobbies
  occupy urself so u have less time to think of it
• browniebaobao

  9 Aug 05, 22:59

  I have come to realize that it's not worth crying for somebody who wun drop a single tear for u. It's not worth spending time on someone who is not willing to spend some time with u. it's not worth getting yourself hurt bcos of someone of someone who dun love u.
• hopy

  9 Aug 05, 23:22

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  I have come to realize that it's not worth crying for somebody who wun drop a single tear for u. It's not worth spending time on someone who is not willing to spend some time with u. it's not worth getting yourself hurt bcos of someone of someone who dun love u.

  dun fall in luv better
• BeEtHoVeN

  9 Aug 05, 23:24

  Originally posted by hopy:

  dun fall in luv better

  hopy is right, if u will only put in effort when it is worth it, it can't very well be love ?
• hopy

  9 Aug 05, 23:27

  Originally posted by BeEtHoVeN:

  hopy is right, if u will only put in effort when it is worth it, it can't very well be love ?

  ya lor.. only need to ans to urself
• ptw

  9 Aug 05, 23:49

  I am a victim too. Dun really wan to bring up my past.
  
  I know how u feel right now. After your wound healed, you will know or rationalise whether is she really worth your concern and effort.
• Mao x 2

  9 Aug 05, 23:51

  Hmmm.. reminds me of this song..
  
  I hear you're taking the town again
  Havin' a good time
  With all your good-time friends
  I don't think that you think of me
  You're on your own now
  And I'm alone and free
  I know that I should get on with my life
  But a life lived without you
  Could never be right
  
  As long as the stars shine down
  From the heavens
  Long as the rivers run
  To the sea
  I'll never get over you
  Getting over me
  
  I try to smile so the hurt won't show
  Tell everybody
  That I was glad to see you go
  But the tears just won't go away
  (Won't go away..)
  Loneliness found me
  Looks like it's here to stay
  
  I know that I oughta find someone new
  But all I find is myself
  Always thinkin' of you
  
  No matter what I do
  Each night's a lifetime to live through
  I can't go on like this
  (I need your touch)
  You're the only one I'll ever love
  
  And as
  Long as the stars shine down
  From the heavens
  Long as the rivers run
  To the sea
  I'll never get over you
  Getting over me
  
  I'll never get over you
  Getting over
  Never get over you...
  Getting over
  I'll never get over you
  Getting over me
• OldAhPek

  9 Aug 05, 23:57

  it takes 2 hands to clap
  she might be wondering why u give up so easily
  anyway, if bgr stage can also bicker so easily
  i cant imagin what will happend in a married stage
  
  maybe to let go early, isnt such a bad idea
  to like someone and to love someone are different things
  same goes for
  to love someone and to get along with someone
  
  when u get older, u wld prefer peace in your days
  u wont want to come home after a hard,
  and start quarrelling with your wife right?
  both parties must know when to give in
• browniebaobao

  10 Aug 05, 02:23

  Originally posted by hopy:

  dun fall in luv better

  
  U shouldn't be saying this now.
  
  Are u troubled? Can always talk to me ya.
• browniebaobao

  10 Aug 05, 02:26

  Originally posted by hopy:

  dun fall in luv better
  

  Originally posted by BeEtHoVeN:

  hopy is right, if u will only put in effort when it is worth it, it can't very well be love ?

  Originally posted by hopy:

  ya lor.. only need to ans to urself

  
  
  
  hopy, what's ur stand?
• browniebaobao

  10 Aug 05, 02:28

  Originally posted by BeEtHoVeN:

  hopy is right, if u will only put in effort when it is worth it, it can't very well be love ?

  
  
  when u are blinded by love, u will say everthing is worth it.
  
  But after the break up, if the person somehow made a mess out of ur life, u will think that it's really not worth it, especially that person turns out to be very ungrateful and not appreciative.
• M©+square

  10 Aug 05, 02:39

  bbb: can't sleep ah?
• drx

  10 Aug 05, 04:26

  So what do u expect your gf to do ?
  
  Cry and cry and beg you not to leave her then you will find it less disturbing?
  
  Come on lar you and I know is not possible.
  
  From wat I see, your gf had already planned to leave you and she just waited for the rite time to say it. Thats why she is able to leave u so fast and easily.
  Sadly your heart still loves her and that is why u find it so hard to accept the fact she can go on her life.
  
  A person whose heart had died for the other person anymore will not feel any pain or regret. If one day you can look at her as any ordinary person in your life, thats the day when you can say that you had totally forgotten your love for the person.
• FeowFeow

  10 Aug 05, 09:06

  The word "victim" is overused, & used too loosely.
  
  You went through what many people all over the world went through: heartbreak. It's Not that I'm unsympathetic, but whether or Not you're a victim in this kinda scenario, is a matter of choice?
  
  If you forever view yourself as a victim, when are you gonna stand up & love again?
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by ptw:

  I am a victim too. Dun really wan to bring up my past.
  
  I know how u feel right now. After your wound healed, you will know or rationalise whether is she really worth your concern and effort.

• starblue

  10 Aug 05, 11:12

  yup.. it hurts to know the one you love has moved on effortlessly.. but it should stop you from doing the same... pick up the pieces and move on dude. and stop looking at how she's moved on. no point whatsoever.
• pinkygal76

  10 Aug 05, 12:17

  Originally posted by Mao x 2:

  Hmmm.. reminds me of this song..
  
  I hear you're taking the town again
  Havin' a good time
  With all your good-time friends
  I don't think that you think of me
  You're on your own now
  And I'm alone and free
  I know that I should get on with my life
  But a life lived without you
  Could never be right
  
  As long as the stars shine down
  From the heavens
  Long as the rivers run
  To the sea
  I'll never get over you
  Getting over me
  
  I try to smile so the hurt won't show
  Tell everybody
  That I was glad to see you go
  But the tears just won't go away
  (Won't go away..)
  Loneliness found me
  Looks like it's here to stay
  
  I know that I oughta find someone new
  But all I find is myself
  Always thinkin' of you
  
  No matter what I do
  Each night's a lifetime to live through
  I can't go on like this
  (I need your touch)
  You're the only one I'll ever love
  
  And as
  Long as the stars shine down
  From the heavens
  Long as the rivers run
  To the sea
  I'll never get over you
  Getting over me
  
  I'll never get over you
  Getting over
  Never get over you...
  Getting over
  I'll never get over you
  Getting over me

  Hi honey bunny!!
  Pinky wifey post song....mao mao hubby
  follow ha??? One of the classic breakup songs that i adore for years
  ....... still mao mao noe me best!!!
  
  Hi Coinz..... even though you may be hurting badly inside .... dun show that to
  the gal........ she wont feel your hurt ....in fact she may jeer @ you and ask you
  to get a life........
  learn from this relationship failure to be a better man.....prove that
  you can live a better life without her presence... let it be her lost for lossing you!!
  ..... Cheer up pal!!
• browniebaobao

  10 Aug 05, 15:01

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  bbb: can't sleep ah?

  
  
  I do project till 3am almost every night.
• sweetevil

  10 Aug 05, 15:06

  Some things are never meant to be, no matter how good they have been in the beginning. And the best solution for such things is to learn to let go
• M©+square

  11 Aug 05, 00:14

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  
  
  I do project till 3am almost every night.

  same la
  
• browniebaobao

  11 Aug 05, 00:25

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  same la
  

  
  
  U got proj meh? I tot u working liao leh..
• M©+square

  11 Aug 05, 00:30

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  
  
  U got proj meh? I tot u working liao leh..

  Project based lor.
• ptw

  11 Aug 05, 02:24

  Originally posted by drx:

  So what do u expect your gf to do ?
  
  Cry and cry and beg you not to leave her then you will find it less disturbing?
  
  Come on lar you and I know is not possible.
  
  From wat I see, your gf had already planned to leave you and she just waited for the rite time to say it. Thats why she is able to leave u so fast and easily.
  Sadly your heart still loves her and that is why u find it so hard to accept the fact she can go on her life.
  
  A person whose heart had died for the other person anymore will not feel any pain or regret. If one day you can look at her as any ordinary person in your life, thats the day when you can say that you had totally forgotten your love for the person.

  I agree with drx tat if she has no feeling for you, she will not care how much pain you hav gone through. Tats the answer I got from my ex when she emailed me asking me how hav i been lately etc etc.
  
  If she has the mentality of giving up the relationship so easily, she is selfish in nature and will not giv a second thought abt how much pain will she inflict on you. All this have been planned ahead before you can even sense it.
• kaobeikaobu

  11 Aug 05, 02:37

  lost of feeling for another does nt happen overnight...but maybe not to one who don't realise and accept that fact...
  maybe it's just not enough to be together in the first place...