depressions..
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its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez... -
life is short u will nv know when it will end .
how big or how small the problem is you got to solve it.
maybe u could talk about your problem here? -
hey
just some thoughts from me,
there are times when i would just suddenly feel kind of down and sad..
its like those really suddenly kind of stuff
and i guess its pretty normal?
anyway, what's the most important thing is to be able to get up again and be happy (:
be strong! -
depression is the norm nowadays. it almost seems as if, if u aren't depressed, it means u've not been working hard enuf when everyone else around u is dropping dead from the effort. Society, what good society?
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haha
all i want in life is to be happy.
that simple.
i guess depressions are just part and parcel of life?
even the most happy person on earth gets depressions sometimes too.. -
i doubt so... there are some people who are happy all the time. I don't think being permanently depressed is part of life. Seems to me that me, and many other people I see, are either depressed or emotionless, when we deny, hide and repress that depression deep inside us. But we know that will only work for a short time, and when that depression rises to the surface again, it hits us so bad we feel the deepest of despair the soul can feel.Originally posted by charlene_:haha
all i want in life is to be happy.
that simple.
i guess depressions are just part and parcel of life?
even the most happy person on earth gets depressions sometimes too.. -
Do you still remember a time when we do not even have to use Pagers ?Originally posted by tir4misu:seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
We used to mail our friends birthday cards, new year cards etc.
How often do we use the home phone and hog it? No, not very often also.
The fact is , we're significant to ourselves , we choose to be so.
Sometimes i let go of all electronic stuff and go read a book and enter the author's perspective or story.
This is what literacy is all about.
Even King Solomon complains of life is meaningless when he have everything.
(from the bible)
Do what you have to do , and make the best of it. -
i dont mean it as being permanently depressed, what im trying to say its like, everyone have their bad times in life when they get depressed with stuffs..Originally posted by HENG@:i doubt so... there are some people who are happy all the time. I don't think being permanently depressed is part of life. Seems to me that me, and many other people I see, are either depressed or emotionless, when we deny, hide and repress that depression deep inside us. But we know that will only work for a short time, and when that depression rises to the surface again, it hits us so bad we feel the deepest of despair the soul can feel.
about what you said about repressing that depression, i agree for some people actually goes through life like that, and when the depression hits them, it really hits them and hits them really bad..they just go in and out, in and out..so repressing isn't really a good way if there is a choice..as it will be like a cycle..
life is weighing heavily on people's shoulders nowadays..
i used to think i would be really happy and have no worries when i grow up, but in the end, its the totally opposite, as i grow up more, i would have more worries.. -
Dear Tiramisu,
I suppose once in awhile, everybody gets that feeling: wondering whether we matter to anyone at all, why problems seem too big for us to resolve, etc. When we don't tackle problems head-on, all the little little niggly things accumulate into something so huge, it seems unsurmountable.
It helps to talk to someone, a close friend, a parent, a relative, about these matters. I know my nephew will drop me an SMS when he feels kinda down, so I have the chance to try & boost his morale again.
Perhaps what you need is some time-out, to withdraw from others & use the time to nurture yourself. This is especially true when you've been giving yourself to others: your time, your effort, etc. You need support during these times, please make sure there's someone you can talk to beside you.
Not everyone is confident all the time, but we can all hope, Tiramisu. I'm Not always strong either, but I'm lucky to have people beside me who can help me see that these problems can be solved afterall.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by tir4misu:its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez... -
Doing things... Start from the simpler things and which you actually enjoy doing...?Originally posted by tir4misu:its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez...
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Originally posted by tir4misu:its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez...
Dude, you4 lai2 liao4?
Like always, your thoughts wandered away too far into realms that shouldn't even matter at all. To the common folks, it's known as 'think too much.' But of course, knowing your personality, you reminded me of a mandarin proverb - Li bu chong xin.
To overcome your stagnation, you got to remove your fear of failing because you are so afraid of rejection, you pause and consider... so much that nothing is done in the end.
Have you ever tried doing something WITHOUT thinking about the rejection/failing part? You want to be able to remove the fear about negative part? When you have fall enough times... you will gradually get used to it and following on... you will learn the art to survive and NOT to fall the way you did previously.
This is a natural cycle - learn to embrace them.
I give you one personal example (can't remember if I did tell you before):
I used to 'think' alot of Love. This goes even before I ever had my first relationship, so many years back. Everything which came from my thoughts is recorded in the fabled Book of CloUdiSm.
Everything changed when the first relationship took place.
I rewrote... renew... refresh... constantly.
You cannot grasp the essence of success unless you understood what it takes to bring you there. And to understand fully, you got to fall along the way... somehow... absolutely.
P.S: Quit procrastinating, the release of your mental/emotional bondage.
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Personal note: And what's the thing about falling? At the very least, you know I AM ALWAYS HERE... to try and catch you.
[Ok serious] People are AROUND.. dude... people are around. And more importantly, people are concerned... cease the self pity and gain some foothold in yourself.
There is so much things I (others as well) could tell you, a huge BUT is that because you ain't there. You can only learn so much from knowledge/others - you need experience to complement your learning process. What I speak to you sounds merely logical. You agreed because everything is logical... going through the analysis by the mind. BUT logical is still hardly relevant because you ain't there yet... to understand why. Look at SY... look at where she is now?? Look at her last year... do you see the difference when you speak to her that time? Maturity came in because she finally understood the essence and picture I am painting to her.
You want to succeed? Have clarity in whatever you are pursuing? Have some strength in personality?
Start falling now! Learn the use of poison first... before you can create antidotes.
Cheers -
well tell me about it... depression is pretty much a way of life for meOriginally posted by charlene_:i dont mean it as being permanently depressed, what im trying to say its like, everyone have their bad times in life when they get depressed with stuffs..
about what you said about repressing that depression, i agree for some people actually goes through life like that, and when the depression hits them, it really hits them and hits them really bad..they just go in and out, in and out..so repressing isn't really a good way if there is a choice..as it will be like a cycle..
life is weighing heavily on people's shoulders nowadays..
i used to think i would be really happy and have no worries when i grow up, but in the end, its the totally opposite, as i grow up more, i would have more worries.. -
this is what i feel...Originally posted by tir4misu:its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez...
its nt just you who feel that during such times, even confident people whom u admire had their fair share of difficult times. Their difficult times do nt just end there - in fact, just like you, me and everyone, will still be facing more obstacles, phases and problems...
Knowing that you are weak is nt enough, but acknowledging it equates a newly found strength in yourself, it's a big step to solving your present problems...
And by working on it to become a new, stronger you is a big first step to your life.
if u find it hard to start, talk to the person who first comes up in your mind...don't hesitate, usually first hunch is usually right.
and don't solve the problems directly...work around it slowly....don't hit the problem hard and direct, let the flow go and soon you will be in the flow. -
letting go of electronic stuff eh... i wonder.. cause.. my laptop is kinda like my "xiong di" in the sense.. its one of the only thing tat keeps me accompany.. haha sounds pathetic? i guess im dependent on my laptop.... but its a very good idea! maybe one of these days i must really learn to be more independent... =)Originally posted by OH-FF:Do you still remember a time when we do not even have to use Pagers ?
We used to mail our friends birthday cards, new year cards etc.
How often do we use the home phone and hog it? No, not very often also.
The fact is , we're significant to ourselves , we choose to be so.
Sometimes i let go of all electronic stuff and go read a book and enter the author's perspective or story.
This is what literacy is all about.
Even King Solomon complains of life is meaningless when he have everything.
(from the bible)
Do what you have to do , and make the best of it. -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
experiencing the fall.. and then learn how to cushion it eh... Dude, you4 lai2 liao4?
Like always, your thoughts wandered away too far into realms that shouldn't even matter at all. To the common folks, it's known as 'think too much.' But of course, knowing your personality, you reminded me of a mandarin proverb - Li bu chong xin.
[b]To overcome your stagnation, you got to remove your fear of failing because you are so afraid of rejection, you pause and consider... so much that nothing is done in the end.
Have you ever tried doing something WITHOUT thinking about the rejection/failing part? You want to be able to remove the fear about negative part? When you have fall enough times... you will gradually get used to it and following on... you will learn the art to survive and NOT to fall the way you did previously.
This is a natural cycle - learn to embrace them.
I give you one personal example (can't remember if I did tell you before):
I used to 'think' alot of Love. This goes even before I ever had my first relationship, so many years back. Everything which came from my thoughts is recorded in the fabled Book of CloUdiSm.
Everything changed when the first relationship took place.
I rewrote... renew... refresh... constantly.
You cannot grasp the essence of success unless you understood what it takes to bring you there. And to understand fully, you got to fall along the way... somehow... absolutely.
P.S: Quit procrastinating, the release of your mental/emotional bondage.
***
Personal note: And what's the thing about falling? At the very least, you know I AM ALWAYS HERE... to try and catch you. [Ok serious] People are AROUND.. dude... people are around. And more importantly, people are concerned... cease the self pity and gain some foothold in yourself.
There is so much things I (others as well) could tell you, a huge BUT is that because you ain't there. You can only learn so much from knowledge/others - you need experience to complement your learning process. What I speak to you sounds merely logical. You agreed because everything is logical... going through the analysis by the mind. BUT logical is still hardly relevant because you ain't there yet... to understand why. Look at SY... look at where she is now?? Look at her last year... do you see the difference when you speak to her that time? Maturity came in because she finally understood the essence and picture I am painting to her.
You want to succeed? Have clarity in whatever you are pursuing? Have some strength in personality?
Start falling now! Learn the use of poison first... before you can create antidotes.
Cheers [/b]
guess rite now.. im still afriad of the pain tat could be caused by falling... i mean.. who wont be afriad of "trust fall" when thinking that there wont be anyone behind to support u...
i will try though^^ i will grow stronger... thx lotz =) -
Pull urself up. Tell urself get out of d slump.
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Taking that step is always not easy..Originally posted by tir4misu:its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez...
Have been thru rough patches more than one year ago.. and have sunk into a state of depression..
Sometimes due to certain things, factors or events that took place.. we tend to go into a state of loneliness, emptiness, depression, etc..
Just try to bear in mind that.. We came to this world with nothing.. thru life we learn alot of things.. be it good or bad.. we gain and learnt from all the experiences..
No one in this world is too weak to take any steps.. Though I have not fully walked out from the darkness and dont know when I can do it.. at least I'm here sharing some of my thots..
Dont be afraid to take that step, my fren. -
well this could be a little out of scope of the main topic ....
I just got an insight today ....
That the interpretion of the physical realm to an individual is the best estimator of the emotion realm ..... -
Advised before. Deleted.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by tir4misu:its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez... -
u can choose how happy you want to be
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IT IS NORMAL!!!
one thing that you must realise is that Depressions every now and then is Normal...
even if you are one of the richest person in the world you'll get depressed, nothing new to do, are my friends with me because of my money? is anyone real to me or are they just good actors?
Everyone gets depressed. the grass on the other side is always greener... I've always love to act. to do theatre... but i chose my current job because of financial reasons... so when I go watch plays, and look at ppl on stage... I grow so envious! so depressed, thinking why did I chose my line of work. Because a normal job is more secured. why can't I survive doing theatre? Because I might not be talented enough... why, why, why??? end of the day it escalates to the point that I hate my life but feel powerless to change it.... (gosh feeling depress as i type this)
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend...
It is easier said then done. it takes courage to step out of your comfort zone and do things to change your life. It takes courage to ignore other ppl's criticism and continue working towards your goal.
you asked :
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
the answer is COURAGE.
very simple. but yet difficult. If you HATE your life, plan, and change it! but once again it takes courage.
why not try it on a smaller scale? tir4misu, I don't know exactly what is bothering you, or what you wanna do but don't dare to, but as long as it does not involve breaking up a family, killing someone or anything in that zone, do it little by little. like for my case I can try and do theatre part time... take up one project a year... (there are obsticles to this like, no contacts, can only do backstage not onstage, no time... etc but can always try to overcome these obsticles)and start small.
Life is too short to wallow in self-pity and depressions.
do something that'll make you feel better. you'll be amazed at how little things can improve your mood.Originally posted by tir4misu:its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez... -
Well, I can say I was once in your shoes too.... but now that I'm working, I don't even have much time to think about so much, i just reach home every evening, stay awake for awhile and very soon I'll be ZzZz land...Originally posted by tir4misu:its 3.42am in the morning... have been hesitating whether or not to post some thoughts of mine.. well here goes..
seems like lately everything aint going well for me... big matters... small matters all pilling up into a mess.... y do ppl suddenly get into a sudden emotional distress? the feeling of insignificance... that even if u turned ur handphone off.. not log into msn or whatever ways of communication no one would infact, actually even notice....
feeling tired...
'wanna say just say, wanna do just do' a phrase told to me by my friend... sounds seemingly easy to achieve.. but in actual fact.. not..... at least to me...
what does it take to just do wad u wanna do?
what does it take to not fear negative results from ur actions?
what does it take to stop assuming and just act?
probably im just too weak to be like u guys out there who can be straightforward and confident in ur actions.. who knows that u r sure to suceed and thus confident in taking that step...
nitez...
But when I was still schooling, I had lots of spare time, and lots of goals, yet not even trying the least to accomplish them, because they were just too far... in the end, i'd just waste my time idling ard.... doing basically nothing..this is when the feeling of insignificance arises.. when the people around you are so busy with their lives (while you're idling, hoping for some attention)...it's really inevitable to neglect a friend or two.... can't blame them actually.... why not just get engaged in some actitivities to keep youself busy?
If you've got any goals in mind, just go for it (provided it's sane and rational).... you'll never get started if u're so afriad of setbacks and all..... If it doesn't go right... you can always improve.. or perhaps take it as a lesson learnt...afterall you won't get a piece of flesh chopped off from ur body right? What that doesn't kill one makes one stronger.... Well..do straighten out your thoughts....
Hmm.. after taking a peek at your profile.. wow.. you're still so young!! Comeon !! These words shouldn't be coming from you.... don't waste off your youth being a depressive ya? Cheer up....