Any problem taking care of elderly parent(s)???
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I am posting this thread for inputs from everybody .. I am pretty sure that at some point or another, you definitely have to take care of your parents .. hence, it may be good for those who faced problems taking care of them, tell us your problem and we can help overcome or offer some advice to tackle it ..
My first problem .. my mum, who is near 80yo, nag and nag and nag ... Think this is most common problem ... but how to resolve this may not be common ... I usually ignore her or just nod my head to what she said .. she usually kept quiet for a while but here she goes again and sometimes complained that I don't listen to her anymore ... I will highlight some other problems as I go along ... Views?
I am objecting to NOT taking care parents ... I am a strong believer that it is our responsibility to do that .... but how can we do it well or better is the rationale for this new thread ... For those who are idiot enough to suggest we send them to a HOME, I wish you end up living there one day ...
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parents nag cos they feel that there is no other way to talk to you.
have you ever seat down and have a nice chat with your parents? -
Bring them out for walks... Nice dinners... Bring them to the old places where they used to love hanging around... See new things and happenings...Originally posted by mangolover:I am posting this thread for inputs from everybody .. I am pretty sure that at some point or another, you definitely have to take care of your parents .. hence, it may be good for those who faced problems taking care of them, tell us your problem and we can help overcome or offer some advice to tackle it ..
My first problem .. my mum, who is near 80yo, nag and nag and nag ... Think this is most common problem ... but how to resolve this may not be common ... I usually ignore her or just nod my head to what she said .. she usually kept quiet for a while but here she goes again and sometimes complained that I don't listen to her anymore ... I will highlight some other problems as I go along ... Views?
I am objecting to NOT taking care parents ... I am a strong believer that it is our responsibility to do that .... but how can we do it well or better is the rationale for this new thread ... For those who are idiot enough to suggest we send them to a HOME, I wish you end up living there one day ...
Please shoot ... -
i think the elderly nag because they have no one to talk with. once they have the chance they are relentless.
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It can be very tough taking care of your elderly parent(s) because they're usually infirm as well. If you're also holding a full-time job, the stresses combined can make you head towards a breakdown.
I guess there's no easy way to deal with nagging. I deal with it in different ways, depending on my mood. Sometimes, I just 'zone out' and practice selective deafness.
Other times, I'll just walk out of the room if I find that I'm reaching boiling point and about to burst. Yet other times, I'll just playfully exclaim, 'Aiyoh!! Talk so much! My eardrums are about to burst already! Give your mouth a break, lah!'.
Caregivers have a very high possibility of getting stressed out. That's why there's this service provided by various nursing homes called 'Respite Care' whereby for a fixed period, the family members can leave their elderly and sick at the home, while they take a much needed break or vacation. This is a temporary arrangement for a fixed period of time and when they return on their vacation / break, they'll have to bring the elderly and sick home again.
Sounds like you might be facing Caregiver Stress. Various hospitals have support groups for caregivers like you. They meet regularly to share their frustrations, share coping techniques, and make friends with other people who are caught in similar situations. Find out from your hospital / polyclinic if there's such a support group you can turn to. Don't underestimate the role they can play - sometimes, it really helps to talk about your frustrations, and have a whole group of people empathise.
I certainly hope that you have help in taking care of your parents, especially if you're holding a full-time job. It's not an easy burden to shoulder, but I applaud you for choosing to take care of them at home, despite the difficulties you're facing.