Should i stay or should i go?
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We been together for 2 yrs le. A yr ago, problems start arising. Loads of quarrels. We tried to solve things. But still unresolved. Both of us still holding on. He told me he doesnt love me as much le. For months, he neber showed me affection. We still keep in contact with each other. Goiing out once a wk lors. Feeling very neglected. I asked him why he treat me like tat. He say dont know.
My crush told me to dump him.
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wah..same situation like me..
well, sometime its time to let go. -
i think the problem lies here........Originally posted by babyreyes:My crush told me to dump him. -
saw it and well I guess she told us half the story...Originally posted by FireIce:i think the problem lies here........
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in a relationship and you have a crush on someone else?..
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Hi babyreyes,
I agree with fireice and mistyblue, your crush will by all means tries to discourage or even stereotype your current bf as someone of negative character. If he is indeed a gd friend of yours, he should try to salvage your relationship unless things really cant work out. -
3rd party always the one who course all the breakups.
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He crushed you or you crushed him? It takes 2 hands to clap. What is there to hold on in this relationship? He has already proclaimed to you that "he doesnt love you as much as before". This is reality and the truth always hurts, learn to accept it and some things are never meant to be, no matter how good they have been in the beginning and the best solution for such things is to learn to let go.Originally posted by babyreyes:We been together for 2 yrs le. A yr ago, problems start arising. Loads of quarrels. We tried to solve things. But still unresolved. Both of us still holding on. He told me he doesnt love me as much le. For months, he neber showed me affection. We still keep in contact with each other. Goiing out once a wk lors. Feeling very neglected. I asked him why he treat me like tat. He say dont know.
My crush told me to dump him. -
In what sense?Originally posted by babyreyes:We been together for 2 yrs le. A yr ago, problems start arising. Loads of quarrels. We tried to solve things. But still unresolved. Both of us still holding on. He told me he doesnt love me as much le. For months, he neber showed me affection. We still keep in contact with each other. Goiing out once a wk lors. Feeling very neglected. I asked him why he treat me like tat. He say dont know.
My crush told me to dump him. -
in a relationship, i think it is always important to stay true to yourself. Before u make any decision.. do think carefully what u hold dear in this relatinship..whether it is worth cherisihing.
Unless u have given it your best effort..u will regret it in the future. When u start another (if u do). this present one will come back to haunt you.
I myself is having problems...my wife says she doesn't love me anymore..7 years into the marriage. There is no point in blaming cos it takes 2 hands to clap, the fundamental is have u exhuasted all possibilities...whether or not i decide to leave and move on...it would be when i have TRIED my very best to salvage. Then, i will not regret, as i know that i have given it my best shot.
For me, it could take weeks, months or even years. But ultimately, when your heart and mind are able to think on the same frequency... you would be very CLEAR on what u need to do. -
My guy doesnt hold my hand...doesnt kiss me..doesnt hug me anymore lors. i just have a naggy feeling he doesnt love me anymore. when i asked if he still wants me, he said yes. Then he told me he knows got problem but dont know how to solve. And htis dont know how to solve has been heard since more than a yr ago.
we tried this n that. in the end. both got tired le. i dont know why he treat me like this. he used to love me alot.
or maybe i couldnt forgive him. he went out with a female fren for a few times. didnt tell me. tat got me furious. and its hte midle of hte nite leyz.
my crush only appeared recently. By then damage already has already occur. -
Wa kaoz 2 yrs only!! and 1 yr ago start having probs .. seriously its nt v gd lo i have frens who even after 4 yrs break up .. some more first yr or so feelings shuld be still strong 1 lo... i guess is that the feelings wun v strong in the beginning or maybe ya bf jus liked the way u look ... and now is tired of it liaoz . becuase wad i experience is that after time no matter how chio the girl its the character compatibility that keeps the relationship goin in the long run ... looks seriously wun matter liaoz . My advice is now is stil early .. think about it and see if u wuld wanna let go...or
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when did it all started?
I need a history check
Is he your first bf?
If not, how did you dump your ex?
Did you do anything to make him feel bad about the relationship?
Like going out with guys without telling him?
Or refusing to let people know that you and him are together?
Cos I feel that he is worried that you will run anytime and he is saving himself in case you run. -
needs effort from both parties to salvage the relationship.
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he not my 1st bf. All my exs cheated on me.Originally posted by drx:when did it all started?
I need a history check
Is he your first bf?
If not, how did you dump your ex?
Did you do anything to make him feel bad about the relationship?
Like going out with guys without telling him?
Or refusing to let people know that you and him are together?
Cos I feel that he is worried that you will run anytime and he is saving himself in case you run.
the lack of affection started like 5 months back.
i guess the only thing he felt bad about the r/s was he feels tat he couldnt make me happy. ive been suffering depression on n off.
i would tell him where im going n with whom. but for his case, he wouldnt. wat pissed me off was he went out with a girl n feels theres no nd to tell me. haix.
he is driving me crazy.
i wonder if he has another behind my back. when asked, he said no.
argh..wats happening....asked if he still wants me, yesh. then treat me like tat. he say dont know why. alamak. -
It should basically be 'tiredness'... Your depression... Your questionings.. Both of you trying to change the situation but putting efforts in the wrong ways and at the wrong places...Originally posted by babyreyes:My guy doesnt hold my hand...doesnt kiss me..doesnt hug me anymore lors. i just have a naggy feeling he doesnt love me anymore. when i asked if he still wants me, he said yes. Then he told me he knows got problem but dont know how to solve. And htis dont know how to solve has been heard since more than a yr ago.
we tried this n that. in the end. both got tired le. i dont know why he treat me like this. he used to love me alot.
or maybe i couldnt forgive him. he went out with a female fren for a few times. didnt tell me. tat got me furious. and its hte midle of hte nite leyz.
my crush only appeared recently. By then damage already has already occur.
And... Since you've already got a 'crush'...? Hmm...