Does the guy's /girl's history bothers u?

• bluepiggy

  16 Aug 05, 17:15

  what happens your partner is truthful to u about his past?? can u take it if it was something immoral??
  
  eg : taking drugs, prison, sleeping with another guy while he has a wife/gf, steal things??
  
  how would u take it?
  
  
• mistyblue

  16 Aug 05, 17:18

  
  I'm lying if I say it does not...
  
  However, it does not imply that is the kind of behaviour that he/she will engage in future
  
  But, if the behaviour is a pattern... this kind is beyond saving... best get out before its too late.
  
• alexkusu

  16 Aug 05, 17:19

  I used to sell drugs..my then gf could take it. It depends how open minded the person is
• bluepiggy

  16 Aug 05, 17:35

  selling drugs ok la...
  
  drung addict that quitted..
  
  wat about the sleeping with other ppl's wife?
• Mao x 2

  16 Aug 05, 17:44

  Originally posted by bluepiggy:

  selling drugs ok la...
  
  drung addict that quitted..
  
  wat about the sleeping with other ppl's wife?

  It's all in the past. At least, he's honest enough to tell you the truth.
  That depends on how much you really love or trust him.
  Everyone make mistakes.
• charlize

  16 Aug 05, 17:51

  Honesty is over rated.
  
  You think sado masochistics coined the term "The truth hurts"?
  
  I don't think so.
• browniebaobao

  16 Aug 05, 18:16

  I wun unless he still holds on to the past.
• CoolMyth

  16 Aug 05, 19:23

  I prefer not knowing rather than having to decide what to do after I know.
  
  It's better if both treat each other on a clean slate when they start.
• Tuatau

  16 Aug 05, 21:25

  "Ignorance is bliss."
  
  The past is behind us and that is where it rightfully belongs. Why invite trouble for ourselves over something we could never change?
  
  Why not just concentrate on being happy and content with the present?
• StarPuppy

  16 Aug 05, 21:30

  I wouldn't mind her past if she changes...everyone makes mistakes
  
  Cheers
  
  ~+StarPuppy+~
• Blueskyz

  17 Aug 05, 00:19

  I will want him to be honest with me rather than me finding out eventually..
  
  I feel tat it really hurts if someone I care is not honest with me.. it will mean tat i mean nothing to him at all.. cos he's not willing to share everything..
• axle-ken

  17 Aug 05, 00:32

  Originally posted by Blueskyz:

  I will want him to be honest with me rather than me finding out eventually..
  
  I feel tat it really hurts if someone I care is not honest with me.. it will mean tat i mean nothing to him at all.. cos he's not willing to share everything..

  yea... being honest to each another in a relationship is the most important concept to have.
  
  trust build up on honesty
  freedom build up on trust
  
  and the list goes...
  
• bluepiggy

  17 Aug 05, 08:40

  are u guys trying to say that as long he is honest then its ok??
• axle-ken

  17 Aug 05, 09:19

  Yes. for me. but usually this kinda stuff subjects to different person.
  but when he/she is being honest to you, it means tat you had some position in his heart am i right???
• Devil1976

  17 Aug 05, 13:30

  Originally posted by bluepiggy:

  what happens your partner is truthful to u about his past?? can u take it if it was something immoral??
  
  eg : taking drugs, prison, sleeping with another guy while he has a wife/gf, steal things??
  
  how would u take it?
  
  

  I'm a Devil. What do ya think I care?