Tormented.
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Like almost every other post, this is about BGR.
A few months ago... I decided to gather what guts I have and approached a certain female individual in my school whom I secretly admired for a rather long time. Like every beginning of friendships, things were a little dull as we spent some time getting to know each other. I reckoned my antics were a little obvious... as such I professed my feelings for her about 2 weeks later. I know it was rash as we barely got to know each other. She, being a really nice person, did not want to hurt my feelings and told me that we would be better of as friends 'for now' (close to what she said then). It was also partly because of studies (She don't want to be distracted at this time of her education year and she wants me to concentrate on my Os). I was grateful, because she didn't shun me or anything after that minor event.
As the months passed, we had several outings that was organised mostly by me. Got to know her more and began to see how similar we were, in terms of daily habits. She's the type where she spends more time at home because she doesn't fancy roaming the streets. Throughout this time, my feelings didn't fade yet... instead, it became stronger. I personally feel that she is the only one who can understand me, unlike my peers who majorly waste their life away in Orchard Road.
Communication-wise, I think she's a very quiet girl. She doesn't talk much (or maybe in my context... it isn't much) and I tend to choke on my words everytime I speak to her (honestly speaking, i'm pretty shy too
). And most of the time, I have to repeat myself a few times because I talk too fast and she isn't very good at catching words (especially with my talking speed).
But lately, I've been avoiding her abit. I have no idea why too. I still am very fond of her and wished that we could be together. I was thinking of asking her subtlely... but I fear I might lose the current relationship we currently have. I know that "No pain, no gain". But after that rash confession, all I felt was pain. We don't exactly meet much in school other then recess and a pathetic 0.5h lunch break (Which I feel is not such a bad thing because we all need a little privacy).
Feeling very tormented everytime when I'm alone. When I'm with my group of friends, they always manage to remind me of the happy things about her. But when I'm alone, I just feel hurt that she's there and yet I can't progress with her.
I personally feel I should ask her, firmly. Reason being, I feel I'm not a rotten jerk to begin with. Friends did comment that I didn't seem like a guy who would enter a relationship although they said they did notice a change in me after this event.
Now I just want to know on how should I go about asking her. Subtle? Direct? Public Announcement? -
sometimes , you should see how she feel towards you first
you all guys always think about yourself and your feelings , inside your heart is chiong for the girl ,but never understand if the girl like u or not . which is the most important -
ture...agree with u BUT not all of the guysOriginally posted by SMAPLionHeart:sometimes , you should see how she feel towards you first
you all guys always think about yourself and your feelings , inside your heart is chiong for the girl ,but never understand if the girl like u or not . which is the most important
nice advice smappy
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"It was also partly because of studies (She don't want to be distracted at this time of her education year and she wants me to concentrate on my Os). I was grateful, because she didn't shun me or anything after that minor event."
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Originally posted by StarPuppy:ture...agree with u BUT not all of the guys
nice advice smappy -
The person who have gone through the route is now sharing his lesson to others.Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:sometimes , you should see how she feel towards you first
you all guys always think about yourself and your feelings , inside your heart is chiong for the girl ,but never understand if the girl like u or not . which is the most important
Good for you.
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Sorry for not elaborating on the asking part... was getting late at night...
I basically want to know how she feels for me... but I just can't figure out how to go about asking. -
I would say it was pretty obvious what she wants, but who can ever understand the female race?Originally posted by drx:"It was also partly because of studies (She don't want to be distracted at this time of her education year and she wants me to concentrate on my Os). I was grateful, because she didn't shun me or anything after that minor event."
Do you understand what she wants?
I know she wants to focus on her studies now (Sec 3). But other than that... I would think that would have made a nifty smokescreen for a rejection. -
just get her alone with you and ask sincerely. best do it as soon as possible cos you dun want to wreck your 'O' levels for a girl.... get an answer, and accept it and move on...
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if she doesn't like you , you can try out sun wukong's 72 changes , or even every single available method , but as long as she don't like you..
you don't even stand a farking 0% chance...at most it's -100000% chance -
Originally posted by M©+square:The person who have gone through the route is now sharing his lesson to others.
Good for you.
Cheers
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Yes, I know what to do now...Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:if she doesn't like you , you can try out sun wukong's 72 changes , or even every single available method , but as long as she don't like you..
you don't even stand a farking 0% chance...at most it's -100000% chance