errrr.... never dealt with such situations b4 so these are basically what I THINK MIGHT help....
1. Try to let A & B spend as much time together as possible while always
letting A know that she can call you any time anywhere if she wants/need
to.
2. when all three together try to avoid topics like marriage, relationships, kids
(duh?)... and also places with lots of kids...
3. When really in doubt... seek professional advice... eg the help lines u can
see in
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=75218that's all i can think of for now...
Originally posted by alexkusu:
As I mentioned before..my then girlfriend best friend came from Japan for a visit. To make my story clear, I will call my then gf (A) and her best friend (B). Last night, A went out with her friend B to karaoke, clubbing, etc with my other friends. I did not went as I wasnt feeling well. Later in the early morning hours, A told me that one of my frends named J started talking to B, and then B started to burst out crying. This is not J's fault. For starters, B dosent know any english at all. But then..the whole group of friends freaked out at B's behaviour.
Anyway, the reason A told me was B had an abortion in Japan before she came here. B is feeling insecure and is rapidly losing friends in Japan. A told me not to meet her because she fear it might have negative impact on her friend B. She reasoned that her friend might only feel comfortable with A's presence as they had been best friends since childhood. (I met A and B last night...I thought B look abit downcast, insecure or maybe shy by her body language).
Anyway, A told me she feels she may be mentally sick cos tis burden is too heavy for her. She only confided in me with her problems. Now there are only two things in my mind.. her friend needs time and understanding. Are there any tips/ comments/ advice on how to handle this matter? I will meet them both over the next 2days so I prefer to thread carefully. Thanks in advance.