dilema...pls help!
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there's two guy in my life. firstly ken. he's a degree holder n been together for 2 yrs. other is chris,diploma holder, together for 4 mths. I m honour degree holder. Ken came b4 chris. Both guys love me a lot. I am not sure as both r very nice to me. However, chris n i r going thro a very difficult test. if pass the test we'll be together. wat's more chris n i faces parental disapproval. Ken on the other hand, was well loved by my parents. However, we broke off already. Now he's pursuing me back. I know tat with ken i be more fortunate. However now tat me n chris are seperated for a while, i miss chris a lot. I know tat my future may be quite bumpy, but he luvs me a lot. Ken oso loves me a lot. Jus tat the feeling is more of companion and comfortable life ahead.i oso not sure if it's love. If u were me, who would u choose?
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hmm..if u stated their qualifications, so i deduce u are comparing them on their qualifications??
then i have to say, qualifications is not eberything in a relationship...
i dunno both chris and ken
and wat u mention about them is juz 0.01% of wat they relli are...
my best advice is to ask urself wat kind of future you urself is looking for...
in wat u mentioned above, u oredi admitted chris is the one u love..parents stage can be overcome slowly and tactfully...so it shd not be a problem...
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~~Evi|Ger~~
more affectionately known as...
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I like you...? You pick up things rather fast..?Originally posted by FireIce:hmm..if u stated their qualifications, so i deduce u are comparing them on their qualifications??
then i have to say, qualifications is not eberything in a relationship...
i dunno both chris and ken
and wat u mention about them is juz 0.01% of wat they relli are...
my best advice is to ask urself wat kind of future you urself is looking for...
in wat u mentioned above, u oredi admitted chris is the one u love..parents stage can be overcome slowly and tactfully...so it shd not be a problem...
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hmm, maybe after sometime, ur dip holder guy will feel the pressure unless he upgrade himself..
imagine, u r a honour degree with bright future n earning big bucks..he's only a dip holder earning barely enuff...at 1st maybe ok, but then after a period of time, he will feel inferior and problems will come
not that me wanna compare qualification in a r/s, but sometime society view it that way..we cannot help it lor.. -
ic...u are an honours degree holder.. are u sure ken is good enough too as he only has a degree? what happens if mr masters degree and mr phd comes along and they treat u really nicely too?
try to find out who u like more, although i will agree u might put a strain on the relationship if u were to choose the diploma holder, especially if u make more money. moreover u did hint tat u would lead a more comfortable life if u ended up with the degree holder. -
wow, i like this reply.. yup, since u are weighing the 'love' with qualifications, and now u choose a degree holder.. n somedays, when u get to noe another PhD or masters, so u gona ditch this degree holder?Originally posted by userid:ic...u are an honours degree holder.. are u sure ken is good enough too as he only has a degree? what happens if mr masters degree and mr phd comes along and they treat u really nicely too?
perhaps if u really love the diploma holder, u can encourage him to study further.. it's possible... -
qualifications is not eberything
u are marrying the person for who he is, not marrying his certificate!!
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~~Evi|Ger~~
more affectionately known as...
tHe eXtrA-oRdiNaRy eCCenTriC PaRanOid BiTch wiF thE PaiZaBor aTTiTudE
(who is a Prata-natic...and a loyal supporter of Quickly and Qoo~)
A hiaK~ is a sarcastic laugh
***It's a sin to be unobjective*** -
FireIce:
in the ideal world it is..but sadly we're living in the real world where qualification creep into love..
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e one tt i LOVE... i cant imagine myself nt followin my heart..Originally posted by babygal:there's two guy in my life. firstly ken. he's a degree holder n been together for 2 yrs. other is chris,diploma holder, together for 4 mths. I m honour degree holder. Ken came b4 chris. Both guys love me a lot. I am not sure as both r very nice to me. However, chris n i r going thro a very difficult test. if pass the test we'll be together. wat's more chris n i faces parental disapproval. Ken on the other hand, was well loved by my parents. However, we broke off already. Now he's pursuing me back. I know tat with ken i be more fortunate. However now tat me n chris are seperated for a while, i miss chris a lot. I know tat my future may be quite bumpy, but he luvs me a lot. Ken oso loves me a lot. Jus tat the feeling is more of companion and comfortable life ahead.i oso not sure if it's love. If u were me, who would u choose? -
then im not living in this world???Originally posted by Inzaghi:FireIce:
in the ideal world it is..but sadly we're living in the real world where qualification creep into love..
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~~Evi|Ger~~
more affectionately known as...
tHe eXtrA-oRdiNaRy eCCenTriC PaRanOid BiTch wiF thE PaiZaBor aTTiTudE
(who is a Prata-natic...and a loyal supporter of Quickly and Qoo~)
A hiaK~ is a sarcastic laugh
***It's a sin to be unobjective*** -
FireIce:
u r living in the world protected by ur daddy.. :p -
YEAH.... follow your heart!!! Erm.. if not take BOTH?Originally posted by ciara:e one tt i LOVE... i cant imagine myself nt followin my heart..
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not really la....Originally posted by Inzaghi:FireIce:
in the ideal world it is..but sadly we're living in the real world where qualification creep into love.. -
it's not jus easy to consider cos as a parent, u would most prob wan yr child to choose Ken. And hence my parents obect strongly to the r/s of me and chris and inisist on locking me in my room if she found out. Now even when i jus go out, she would ask my sis or ask someone else to go wif me. Sometimes i jus lied to them n say i go sch which in fact i was wif chris. Wat shld i do?
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How old are you? Despite the fact that your parents are against you and Chris and the two of you are having a hard time defending your relationship, such an approach shouldn't be CONFUSED with love... Before you decide if you should be fighting for your relationship with Chris, MAKE SURE that he's what you REALLY want... Though nobody can really predict the future, knowing what you want and making sure that you're walking in the CORRECT DIRECTION would probably HELP ALOT for now...?Originally posted by babygal:it's not jus easy to consider cos as a parent, u would most prob wan yr child to choose Ken. And hence my parents obect strongly to the r/s of me and chris and inisist on locking me in my room if she found out. Now even when i jus go out, she would ask my sis or ask someone else to go wif me. Sometimes i jus lied to them n say i go sch which in fact i was wif chris. Wat shld i do?
If Chris is who you really want, then let your parents UNDERSTAND it...? Your own happiness is in your HAND... Though it might also be your own hands that would ultimately destroy it? At least you've got your say? Easier said than done? Let your parents know what you REALLY WANT... And though they might be around now to STOP you from doing whatever and perhaps in a sense have the ability to stop you from doing what you want... BUT the thing would END one day? Let them UNDERSTAND your determination(?) for love.... And when that day comes, you would still BEND your ways? Whatever they're trying to do now is not gonna help if that's the case... You would just need more time to readjust yourself when that day come...? Creating more unneccessary trouble(s) in that sense?
Ken or Chris, you decide? Who knows your parents might have their point? Who knows your parents might be RIGHT? But what are you after? LOVE? Marriage? A STABLE relationship? What are you seeking for my friend...?
Mistakes... Are you READY for them?