How do you handle tis???
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I've got a boyfriend and he has been lying to me.. He was two timing me and I found out about it.. also, he got an ex who keeps on messaging him.. and trying to sow discords between us.. I've already settled things wif tt ex of his and thou my bf claimed he never contact her, I know tt e gal still got msg him and call him those things.. then keep telling mi stories... As for tt other gf of his, he claimed tt he had already broken off with that gal.. I know it is not ez to find out whether is he lying abt it a not.. but somehow i can't bring myself to leave him.. when i do and never answer his calls, he'll threaten mi wif suicide and all... What am i supposed to do?? carry on till he willing to change or do i juz try to end everything?? But i really can't let go and i've really given him lots of chances liao... haiz... actually juz wan someone to listen nia..
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If you feel that you had given him enough chances already, u juz had to let go even if u dun wanna do so, ok? No point hurting yourself further if you continue to hold on...Believe me, in the end you will have a deeper wound...Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:I've got a boyfriend and he has been lying to me.. He was two timing me and I found out about it.. also, he got an ex who keeps on messaging him.. and trying to sow discords between us.. I've already settled things wif tt ex of his and thou my bf claimed he never contact her, I know tt e gal still got msg him and call him those things.. then keep telling mi stories... As for tt other gf of his, he claimed tt he had already broken off with that gal.. I know it is not ez to find out whether is he lying abt it a not.. but somehow i can't bring myself to leave him.. when i do and never answer his calls, he'll threaten mi wif suicide and all... What am i supposed to do?? carry on till he willing to change or do i juz try to end everything?? But i really can't let go and i've really given him lots of chances liao... haiz... actually juz wan someone to listen nia..
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he canx even take care of himself... wat for??
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i hate 2 timers... forget abt him unless u gave urself to him long ago.. then i got nuthing to say...
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SeEmEd hArMlEsS LikE a ChILd'S SmILe
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Suicide??? hahaha~ get real manz.. if he can be in contact with so many girls, I doubt he will be willing commit suicide.. I really hope to see a guy jump manz.. Girls maybe, but I would say most guys just say that so that they can retain back the relationship..
Furthermore you in Sg, not too many males will attempt suicide. And besides most will just cut their wrist which is so pathetic, coz when you do that you're also making an excuse to delay your death only... Romantic arhz?? big deal manz.. if really willing to die, at least should really do something big, and really show it out...
Not encouraging people to commit suicide, but just coming to a point that commiting suicide is usually used by guys to get their gf back. but not necessary if he says that means he will love you too, coz chances is that it can be said to other girls too. Just to win their hearts like I said.
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big?? like wat? rape the gals in the world then commit suicide? or wat? kekekeke
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ThEsE wOrDs YoU SaId lAsT NigHt
SeEmEd hArMlEsS LikE a ChILd'S SmILe
BuT dId YoU kNoW It StUng My EvErY nErVe?
ShAtTeReD mY PrIde,
LeFt mE ScArReD
i MiGhT nEvEr bE tHe sAmE aGaiN
fOr tHeSe wOrDs YoU sAiD
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if someone really want to commit suicide, he wont come and tell you. he juz immediately do it liao. if he come and tell you, means he not serious.
anyway what right has he to want to keep you. he cheated you already. even if now he not together with the other girl, he still has betrayed you. you just bring this up and shout at him and break up lor. this type of guy not worth it lah. -
u can help fasten the process by pushing him down
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Guys,
Lets all be sensitive about this topic ok? There are for fact, guys who have committed suicide over girls. So do not simply laugh over it. It is a serious matter.
If the guy loves the girl so much to the extend he threatens with suicide, he is capable of doing anything. It would be worse if the girl actually dares him to commit suicide (jump off building etc)
The poor guy is already so sad/depressed, you are making him worse by challenging him, hurting his ego. So girls, you should know what to do rite. heh
NOTE: PLEASE DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE OVER ANYTHING, EPSECIALLY OVER WOMEN/GIRLS. THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR LIFE. Don't be stupid if you think the line, "I'd die for you" is romantic, by dying or doing something reckless, you will only cause the girl to be guilty for the rest of her life. -
Originally posted by Solitude-:Guys,
Lets all be sensitive about this topic ok? There are for fact, guys who have committed suicide over girls. So do not simply laugh over it. It is a serious matter.
If the guy loves the girl so much to the extend he threatens with suicide, he is capable of doing anything. It would be worse if the girl actually dares him to commit suicide (jump off building etc)
The poor guy is already so sad/depressed, you are making him worse by challenging him, hurting his ego. So girls, you should know what to do rite. heh
NOTE: PLEASE DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE OVER ANYTHING, EPSECIALLY OVER WOMEN/GIRLS. THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR LIFE. Don't be stupid if you think the line, "I'd die for you" is romantic, by dying or doing something reckless, you will only cause the girl to be guilty for the rest of her life.
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A guy who's sensible enough to handle a relationship properly shouldn't be using suicide as a reason to retrieve the relationship however the relationship might mean to him.... Like MOST others have said, chances of him committing suicide is SLIM though not impossible. Other factors to take into consideration would be whether he's experiencing other sources of stress in his life and how your relationship with him is (only the two of you know the better)....Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:I've got a boyfriend and he has been lying to me.. He was two timing me and I found out about it.. also, he got an ex who keeps on messaging him.. and trying to sow discords between us.. I've already settled things wif tt ex of his and thou my bf claimed he never contact her, I know tt e gal still got msg him and call him those things.. then keep telling mi stories... As for tt other gf of his, he claimed tt he had already broken off with that gal.. I know it is not ez to find out whether is he lying abt it a not.. but somehow i can't bring myself to leave him.. when i do and never answer his calls, he'll threaten mi wif suicide and all... What am i supposed to do?? carry on till he willing to change or do i juz try to end everything?? But i really can't let go and i've really given him lots of chances liao... haiz... actually juz wan someone to listen nia..
From the SURFACE of the way you described him he seems to have a flirty nature?
From your point of view, you also mentioned that you can't let go of the relationship? So you have doubts in him.... Give chances to him... Still love him...
Think you're uncertain of his true intention? You can just avoid some things and see how things go like MOST couples would do...? Or if you want a more confrontational one, you might want to ask him HOW is he going to resolve the matters revolving around the 2 above mentioned ladies? And perhaps you might also want some form of assurance from him? This, I don't know...? Depends on how FAR in this relationship would you wanna go...?
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if i were u, i believe i will give him up once n for all..although it will hurt alot.. but then it's better than being constantly hurt by such a fellow.. if u really believe he will change, go ahead n continue this r/s, and see how he change for u.. if he is unable to change, hmm.. there will be a better man out there for u! *smile*
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Think about this, do you want to live your life this way forever? I don't think u wanna be consistently worried about him two timing again etc.
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Hi Crysania!!
To Astrogal:Firstly,| really hate guys who stepped his foot on two vessels.Sms doesn't really matter to me in bgr,just a form of modern people's communication,no big deal.But
if the contents were something that were daring,u shld really take some actions.|'m not sure whether he truely loves you or not,
but the thing is,you should really BEWARE of
that slut who's the main issue to the whole
thing.Sometimes violence helps.You can try
to talk business with that woman,which serves
as a form of threathen,which at least makes
a worthy effort.| don't understand why this
guy "threathens" you with suiciding himself
as an excuse.(Old-school drama lyrics) Try
replying to him,:"Since you have that girl,
why the hell do you expect me to answer yer
damn calls?Don't you think it's a little too much?Atrocious!What in yur mind do you treat
me as?|f you think |'ll gonna pick up yur calls whenever you wanted while you've been fooling around behind my back,you r WRONG!"
Don't worry astrogal,he'll not have the balls
to commit suicide or whatever..That's just a
lame excuse.Inspire him a better one like if
you never did answer his calls ever again,try
asking him to go get blowjobbed by buayas!
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My thoughts exactly.Originally posted by Crysania:Think about this, do you want to live your life this way forever? I don't think u wanna be consistently worried about him two timing again etc. -
Since you gave him so many chances and he has disappointed you.My advise is to just leave him lah.He is just using the threat of suicide as a form of emotional blackmail,heehe
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do something b4 it's too late.. my bf drove me insane.. n i did alot of stupid things that make me regretz deeply..
get out while ur still on ur mind!
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Not saying you are wrong..Originally posted by Solitude-:NOTE: PLEASE DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE OVER ANYTHING, EPSECIALLY OVER WOMEN/GIRLS. THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR LIFE. Don't be stupid if you think the line, "I'd die for you" is romantic, by dying or doing something reckless, you will only cause the girl to be guilty for the rest of her life.
Actually to die in the sense of sacrificing for your loved one is a very noble thing to do.. Sacrifice not saying that you commit suicide lahz.. that is stupidity. Sacrifice is to be willing to risk your everything including life just to for a worthwhile cause, like making sure the person you love will be alive. Just like why would most parents go all out ensure the safety and the future of their children. It may seem like a hassle when they scold you or nag at you, but it's because they are seeing the money that they earn go to waste if you just waste your life away, and not appreciating their sacrifice.
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Originally posted by ^FeRRoCiOuS^:do something b4 it's too late.. my bf drove me insane.. n i did alot of stupid things that make me regretz deeply..
get out while ur still on ur mind!
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kekekkekekee.... thanx pals... anyway... I had already broken off wif that stupid bastard... On e day we ended, he pleaded for another chance.. barely a week and he went back to a woman tt was married... Anyway.. getting him out of my life was a relief.. so sad that he never made it in dying anyway.. The last time he called n threatened me suicide, I juz off my phone... kekekekkeke... Now life is juz so much happier without him...
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Yah , i agree and your bf say want to commit suicide really make us guy lose face !Originally posted by Malbordus:if someone really want to commit suicide, he wont come and tell you. he juz immediately do it liao. if he come and tell you, means he not serious.
anyway what right has he to want to keep you. he cheated you already. even if now he not together with the other girl, he still has betrayed you. you just bring this up and shout at him and break up lor. this type of guy not worth it lah.
Anyway , it's all depend on your decision on whether you bear to break up with him .
We outsider can only give you advice , all depend on you .
Good Luck in your love life !
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Hey girl,Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:kekekkekekee.... thanx pals... anyway... I had already broken off wif that stupid bastard... On e day we ended, he pleaded for another chance.. barely a week and he went back to a woman tt was married... Anyway.. getting him out of my life was a relief.. so sad that he never made it in dying anyway.. The last time he called n threatened me suicide, I juz off my phone... kekekekkeke... Now life is juz so much happier without him...
How are you?? Long time no hear from you.. and finally saw your post after so long, I was thinking, "wahz!!! crazy arhz.. all so sudden this thing happened to you..."
anyway, I'm really happy that everything is over... happy for you to get over the little hump in your life.. well, I know have not been contacting you, but now I'm in the States, finally going my course on psychology =). If you still want to keep in contact, can get me at my email or icq @ 19569168.
Take care...
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nice to heard u pushing forward happy .Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:kekekkekekee.... thanx pals... anyway... I had already broken off wif that stupid bastard... On e day we ended, he pleaded for another chance.. barely a week and he went back to a woman tt was married... Anyway.. getting him out of my life was a relief.. so sad that he never made it in dying anyway.. The last time he called n threatened me suicide, I juz off my phone... kekekekkeke... Now life is juz so much happier without him...
Take care
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Yup, that's the way, forget about this bastard and continue on with your life, you are still young mah, time heals all wounds...Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:kekekkekekee.... thanx pals... anyway... I had already broken off wif that stupid bastard... On e day we ended, he pleaded for another chance.. barely a week and he went back to a woman tt was married... Anyway.. getting him out of my life was a relief.. so sad that he never made it in dying anyway.. The last time he called n threatened me suicide, I juz off my phone... kekekekkeke... Now life is juz so much happier without him...
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Maybe he has reasons? Maybe is the girl which pesters him and he also can't bear to see the girl sad? Thats why keep in contact to let her feel better? Coz they once steady b4, so he might just wan her to feel better in anyways?
As long as he is not holding her hands, and not siaming u, give him some time. Let him settle things betweem him and his ex. Don give up easily...
Good luck.. =)