Should I Ask Her?

• kuckuc

  8 Sep 05, 17:16

  Hi,
  
  I'm very confused on whether I should ask her if I have the chance to be with her... coz I do not want to waste my time waiting.
  
  She already has a bf, but I seldom heard from her talking about her bf.
  
  We've been seeing each other & also chatting alot.
  
  Please advice.
• thinger

  8 Sep 05, 17:20

  the uncoolest thign would be to break anyone up.
  
  my vote goes to wait till she leaves him. if she does.
• mohawkan10

  8 Sep 05, 17:21

  if u really wan her....ask her....if she gives u an ans..good for u...else....forget her....cos she is most prob just 2 timing...tats all ..good luck!
• kuckuc

  8 Sep 05, 17:24

  Originally posted by thinger:

  the uncoolest thign would be to break anyone up.
  
  my vote goes to wait till she leaves him. if she does.

  You're right... I always thought about that.
  
  But somehow my heart so pain... every moment also think of her.
  
  Very pain... it's like I can't wait any longer.
• babyreyes

  8 Sep 05, 17:27

  if her bf and her relationship is at the point where even deity oso can not help, u can consider trying to get closee to her.
  
  Of course, u should take note if she has any interests in you.
  
  U dont have to tell her now. Maybe just give hints lors.
  
  Only start to woo when she has broken up with her bf. Ask her to be ur gf unless she is single and ready for another bgr.
  
  Before u start any relationship..make sure u end the previous one 1st. woo her only when she is single.
• thinger

  8 Sep 05, 17:29

  but...if shes like all pissy with him and such, and if hes an arsehole
  
  GO FOR IT.
• kuckuc

  8 Sep 05, 17:35

  Originally posted by babyreyes:

  if her bf and her relationship is at the point where even deity oso can not help, u can consider trying to get closee to her.
  
  Of course, u should take note if she has any interests in you.
  
  U dont have to tell her now. Maybe just give hints lors.
  
  Only start to woo when she has broken up with her bf. Ask her to be ur gf unless she is single and ready for another bgr.

  Actually she already knows I'm interested on her... and somehow my friend helped me ask her... what she replied is it's not the right time yet.
  
  I can sense she has some interest on me... but I'm not sure if it's just normal friend / whatever feeling she has on me, that's why I wanted to ask... ask whether I have any slightest chance & not to be bgr at the moment.
• thinger

  8 Sep 05, 17:40

  go for it.
  
  shut up and go kiss her.
  
  good luck
• starblue

  8 Sep 05, 17:53

  there is horrific use of prepositions in here...
  
  never a nice thing to cause a breakup... if i knew someone is attached already, i'll try to forget about that guy and wait for another fish to swim by...
• thinger

  8 Sep 05, 17:58

  what starblue meant to say is
  
  its a horrific thing to cause a breakup, unless she wants it.
• kuckuc

  8 Sep 05, 20:01

  Its such a pain in the heart... when you keep thinking of the person that you cant get close to.
  
  Don't know how long this feeling can lasts...
• Hele1668

  8 Sep 05, 20:06

  jus go ahead & tell her u luv her & ask can we be 2gether
• c0ol_blu3z

  8 Sep 05, 20:12

  Originally posted by Hele1668:

  jus go ahead & tell her u luv her & ask can we be 2gether

  think tats too suddenly liao....sumthing like " i think i hav fallen for U"
• usck

  8 Sep 05, 22:21

  Originally posted by kuckuc:

  Actually she already knows I'm interested on her... and somehow my friend helped me ask her... what she replied is it's not the right time yet.
  
  I can sense she has some interest on me... but I'm not sure if it's just normal friend / whatever feeling she has on me, that's why I wanted to ask... ask whether I have any slightest chance & not to be bgr at the moment.

  u sense only hor~ so not confirm loh. pls lah, dun assume. u think u deity ar!
  and u fcuking asshole, wanted and trying to break other ppl. next time careful other guy want and try to snatch ur gf. no need thanks me. u fucking monk gou!
• kuckuc

  8 Sep 05, 22:33

  Originally posted by usck:

  u sense only hor~ so not confirm loh. pls lah, dun assume. u think u deity ar!
  and u fcuking asshole, wanted and trying to break other ppl. next time careful other guy want and try to snatch ur gf. no need thanks me. u fucking monk gou!

  lol... no need to get so heat up.
  
  All I'm asking is just your wise opinion. Not trying to screw anybody's r/s.
  
  That's why I'm still wondering around haven't action.
• aslk

  9 Sep 05, 01:05

  i think u don have to bother if she got bf or not......
  just do wat u wan to do...
  don let the fact tat she is attached affect u
  got bf does not mean cannot break up....
  it also cannot prove tat u no chance.....
  never try never know...
  
  think in this way, a begining of something is a end of another....
  
  but if she really reject, don force urself...
  
  must learn to accept n take it...
  
  Yao Dong De Kan de Kai, Xiang De Tong he Fang De Xia....
  
• drx

  9 Sep 05, 04:00

  My question for you is
  
  If she got bf and she is so willing to break up with him so easily, would she be a good and loyal gf to you anyway?
  
  Yeah yeah i know u love her and willing to die for her and you will say you will not mind.. come on lar bro... you know i know that ever this girl chats with you so much does not mean she likes you. I got so many girls who can chat with for hours does that mean they all love me?
  
  I am not stopping you from snatching her away from her bf but just want you to consider the fact that is this girl worth so much effort?
• kuckuc

  9 Sep 05, 08:14

  Originally posted by drx:

  My question for you is
  
  If she got bf and she is so willing to break up with him so easily, would she be a good and loyal gf to you anyway?
  
  Yeah yeah i know u love her and willing to die for her and you will say you will not mind.. come on lar bro... you know i know that ever this girl chats with so much does not mean she likes you. I got so many girls who can chat with for hours does that mean they all love me?
  
  I am not stopping you from snatching her away from her bf but just want you to consider the fact that is this girl worth so much effort?

  Maybe this is my first time going after a girl, that I put too much effort in it, makes me hard to let go.
  
  Sometimes I've already decided just to be good friend, but my stupid feeling just tell me gogogo... for it.
• drx

  9 Sep 05, 08:23

  understand hi u feel bro... first love ....just remember she is not the only girl in the world and u can live your life without her.. Be brave do not let your feelings get to your head.
• FeowFeow

  9 Sep 05, 16:28

  KucKuc,
  
  I don't talk about my guy with quite many people, but that doesn't mean I don't love him. Truth be told, I'm head over heels in love with him! There're some who'll tell you to go for it.
  
  But my personal view is, don't.
  
  If you ask her, & she says yes, then what? Wouldn't that put you in a predicament too? What if you're labelled as a relationship-wrecker? And worse, how would you be able to look at yourself in the mirror? Lastly, what if she gets stolen away by someone else? When will you get together? How will you get together? So many questions, so many doubts...
  
  If you ask her, & she says No, then what? You're heartbroken, but you may cling on to the hope that she only said No to you because she didn't want to betray her bf's trust.
  
  Either way, it's lose-lose.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by kuckuc:

  Hi,
  
  I'm very confused on whether I should ask her if I have the chance to be with her... coz I do not want to waste my time waiting.
  
  She already has a bf, but I seldom heard from her talking about her bf.
  
  We've been seeing each other & also chatting alot.
  
  Please advice.

• kuckuc

  9 Sep 05, 17:56

  Your post meant something to me. After reading some other posts, I've decided to not ask her, trying to be a gentlemen & see what happens in the future... heh.
  
  I'm already single for 20+ years, I can still wait.
  
  But heart so pain, need to control & not to let my feeling to get over me.
  
  How I wish this feeling can dissipate away at this moment.
  
  

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  KucKuc,
  
  I don't talk about my guy with quite many people, but that doesn't mean I don't love him. Truth be told, I'm head over heels in love with him! There're some who'll tell you to go for it.
  
  But my personal view is, don't.
  
  If you ask her, & she says yes, then what? Wouldn't that put you in a predicament too? What if you're labelled as a relationship-wrecker? And worse, how would you be able to look at yourself in the mirror? Lastly, what if she gets stolen away by someone else? When will you get together? How will you get together? So many questions, so many doubts...
  
  If you ask her, & she says No, then what? You're heartbroken, but you may cling on to the hope that she only said No to you because she didn't want to betray her bf's trust.
  
  Either way, it's lose-lose.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

• 105090

  9 Sep 05, 17:57

  well.. if ppl dun talk bout their BF, we may not even know if she have anot..
• choco B

  9 Sep 05, 18:25

  Don't ask if you "have the chance to be with her"
  
  Instead, you ought to get her to talk about her relationship, the current status, is she happy, is he nice to her, etc.
  
  Then you will have a better idea of your next move

  Originally posted by kuckuc:

  I'm very confused on whether I should ask her if I have the chance to be with her... coz I do not want to waste my time waiting.

• kuckuc

  10 Sep 05, 08:50

  Originally posted by choco B:

  Don't ask if you "have the chance to be with her"
  
  Instead, you ought to get her to talk about her relationship, the current status, is she happy, is he nice to her, etc.
  
  Then you will have a better idea of your next move

  Seriously I wanted to ask that, but I don't know how to initiate the topic... sometimes she just feel like do not want to mention about it.
  
  I got feedback from female friends that when one fancy you, he/she wouldn't want to talk about their gf/bf in front of you, coz he/she fear it might spoil the r/s.
  
  Is that true? Come to think of it... hmm, maybe.
• drx

  10 Sep 05, 17:13

  There is another reason that girls refuse to talk about their bf.
  Just imagine your gf and you went out for 8 hrs liao, finally got some free time to go out with friends, will you still want to talk about your gf?
  
  stop thinking about her only lar...
  
  U mean she is the only girl in your life?