Is there a third chance??
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What happens when your bf betrayed you? He found another gal, reason being you are overseas and he is lonely. He wanted companion for just that short few months that you are away?
I forgive him as i still love him very much. I came back hoping to start everything afresh with him and we did... But things isn't as wonderful as last time. He tried his best but his feelings for me is no longer there.
An sms to him a day and meeting up with him only for a few hrs a week, seems too much for him to bear. He feels pressurised. He requested for his own personal space.
He says he wants to be fair to me and for him to have his own space. We have been together for close to 6 years. I just can't bear for us to part this way..
How come a person can change so fast without a reason? Is there really eternality love?? Why does one person commit fully whereas another can just let it go just like that??
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I think girls are also like that one
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Sorry to hear that. I had the same experience.
I feel that there is nothing you can do if the other party's love is not strong enough. Hope you can move on with your life. -
In the very 1st place, his excuse is very disrespectful to you. Selfish as much as he can be. And to note, you love him, but he do not love you. He wants companionship (sexual desire included)...So, what do you love him for???Originally posted by xiaoling:What happens when your bf betrayed you? He found another gal, reason being you are overseas and he is lonely. He wanted companion for just that short few months that you are away?
I forgive him as i still love him very much. I came back hoping to start everything afresh with him and we did... But things isn't as wonderful as last time. He tried his best but his feelings for me is no longer there.
An sms to him a day and meeting up with him only for a few hrs a week, seems too much for him to bear. He feels pressurised. He requested for his own personal space.
He says he wants to be fair to me and for him to have his own space. We have been together for close to 6 years. I just can't bear for us to part this way..
How come a person can change so fast without a reason? Is there really eternality love?? Why does one person commit fully whereas another can just let it go just like that??
It's like that...6years's long but considered short when compared to your lifetime...you'll find a better one.... -
Sorry to hear such a sad problemOriginally posted by xiaoling:What happens when your bf betrayed you? He found another gal, reason being you are overseas and he is lonely. He wanted companion for just that short few months that you are away?
I forgive him as i still love him very much. I came back hoping to start everything afresh with him and we did... But things isn't as wonderful as last time. He tried his best but his feelings for me is no longer there.
An sms to him a day and meeting up with him only for a few hrs a week, seems too much for him to bear. He feels pressurised. He requested for his own personal space.
He says he wants to be fair to me and for him to have his own space. We have been together for close to 6 years. I just can't bear for us to part this way..
How come a person can change so fast without a reason? Is there really eternality love?? Why does one person commit fully whereas another can just let it go just like that?? 
How come a person can change so fast without a reason?
When there is no communcation between a couple, their hearts will get lonely and long for someone to care about them and they get distant with each other slowy day by day
Is there really eternality love??
there is if u find the right person and that also includes that both of ur love is strong to withstands the tests of time
Why does one person commit fully whereas another can just let it go just like that??
Its on how the couple's mindset react...one might take it too seriously whereas the other will take it too easy
But still overall lack of the communcation often results in this kind of ending I feel that...in my own opinon, that u should let go and move on, u have done ur part but the feeling is not there anymore.....love is not about forcing each other to love but its voluntary
Cheers
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from the description here, sounds like its over... if he love u he would stood by u all the while... 6yr is long but how ur relationship is ran in this 6yr nobody noe... can only take it tat he lost the love for u liao.. so let it go gal... u tried but its lost so walk away from this 6yr n rebuild this new life... y he changed so fast? probably things started changing afew yr ago but at a slow rate where u didnt noticed it n it accelerated while u were away... cheersOriginally posted by xiaoling:What happens when your bf betrayed you? He found another gal, reason being you are overseas and he is lonely. He wanted companion for just that short few months that you are away?
I forgive him as i still love him very much. I came back hoping to start everything afresh with him and we did... But things isn't as wonderful as last time. He tried his best but his feelings for me is no longer there.
An sms to him a day and meeting up with him only for a few hrs a week, seems too much for him to bear. He feels pressurised. He requested for his own personal space.
He says he wants to be fair to me and for him to have his own space. We have been together for close to 6 years. I just can't bear for us to part this way..
How come a person can change so fast without a reason? Is there really eternality love?? Why does one person commit fully whereas another can just let it go just like that?? 
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hmm..starpuppy copy yuhaier style of posting
to threadstarter Ur too needy and he takes you for granted. Thats the easiest way to lose a guy. -
hes my AA idol, cannot arh?Originally posted by alexkusu:hmm..starpuppy copy yuhaier style of posting
hes the first AA person to give me solid advice when i first came in
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may the heavens forgive your soul.. YUNHAIER is a HER.. lolOriginally posted by StarPuppy:hes my AA idol, cannot arh?
hes the first AA person to give me solid advice when i first came in -
and yes, Yunhaier is damn cool. her advice is so good and meaningful, love the stories tooOriginally posted by StarPuppy:hes my AA idol, cannot arh?
hes the first AA person to give me solid advice when i first came in -
oh? let me tryOriginally posted by StarPuppy:hes my AA idol, cannot arh?
hes the first AA person to give me solid advice when i first came in
if copy must give credit to her
Playgiarising is frowned upon
Cheers,
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Originally posted by coffeeortea:may the heavens forgive your soul.. YUNHAIER is a HER.. lol Does it matter? anyway,its a sketchy info....we dun even know if Ditzy is a confirm male or female
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If my gf betray me, I rather say byebye asap..
No point lar hold on for the sake of wat? kena betray again?
for your case is seems that u r holding back cos u have been together six years liao.
but my questions is will u be happy if you saw your bf kiss someone or sleeping in bed with another girl?
Come on you try to patch up he reject saying give more time more time.. I say is crap.. You are so lucky leh at least u know that he is heartless type before u get married to him. Just imagine if both of u get married and he slept with other girls outside pengz then u will know the pain and the shame....
A person can change any day anytime.. I am not surprise. I think the question is whether he wants to give u any chance at all or not.
You want to patch but he is sainz of you liao what do u think of your chances? -
Only he knows the answer.Originally posted by xiaoling:How come a person can change so fast without a reason? Why does one person commit fully whereas another can just let it go just like that??
Why one person commit fully whereas another can let go just like that?
I guess it's because love is fading or he dun u as much as u love him.
I really can understand how you feel, coz I been thru it before too.
/me pat pat xiaoling* -
Aiyah maybe its not true love yet..Cause sometimes while away from each other the term they tend to miss each more..Not your fault,not my fault..Just ur bad luck..
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let go of this guy. but learn an important lesson from it... guys need their personal space, no matter how close you two are... when he asks for it, give it to him, or he will draw back anyway, feeling misunderstood... when love fades, it is almost impossible to rekindle it...
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i thk u shld let him go...there would be a better one for u
feelings once gone is gone, regardless how close both of u last time, human r selfish..of coz u wil v sad, but time wil heal. cheer up gal ! -
There is NO third chance.
Given a second chance is good enough.
Some how there are gals out there who is willing to forgive their bf for unlimited times. I dont know why. -
Thanks for all your advices. I really don't know how long i will take to heal this broken heart of mine. I know i have to let go and move on. I have been trying very hard to....
My mind will think about him every now and then which is really a torture to me. Whenever i ask myself, how cum he can take it so lightly and i can't? I feel myself so useless...
Sigh.... -
"My mind will think about him every now and then which is really a torture to me. Whenever i ask myself, how cum he can take it so lightly and i can't? I feel myself so useless..."
He took it so lightly cos he never love you very much at all..
Is it really worth to think so much for a guy who never cares about u?
YOu are not useless in fact you did all the things you can for the one you love.
In fact you should be proud of yourself, as you have done your best and why should you waste your time on someone who does think about u when he is kiss another girl?
Be brave girl, we are here to support you. Breaking up is never easy it takes time to forget the pain. Give yourself more time go and have fun, stop thinking so much.
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b'cos from that moment he found a subsituition, Your heart is no longer with him.Originally posted by xiaoling:...Whenever i ask myself, how cum he can take it so lightly and i can't? I feel myself so useless...
Sigh....
He got a headstart. -
No one knows how long it'll heals...and it's not really a factor that need to be concerned about. Like what you've said above, let go n move on...yea...Move On....Originally posted by xiaoling:Thanks for all your advices. I really don't know how long i will take to heal this broken heart of mine. I know i have to let go and move on. I have been trying very hard to....
My mind will think about him every now and then which is really a torture to me. Whenever i ask myself, how cum he can take it so lightly and i can't? I feel myself so useless...
Sigh....
To heal a broken heart - Hang out more with your friends or make new friends to make your time useful n meaningful.
You can also hang out yourself alone at any cafe, browsing magazine, free your thoughts...but would be better if with friends..
You think abt him is becoz for the past 6yrs, he has always been a character in your heart which has already been a part of you.
Ask yourself this question: What do you love in him?
Frankly speaking, you don't even need to understand "how come he can take it so lightly whereas you can't". -
i think the relationship is not worth continuing if he treats u this way. what is the point of being with him if he doesnt mind your existance? if i were u i'd have ignored him or dump him.
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A person can change his feelings as fast as within a day. A moment could take to change a person's life.Originally posted by xiaoling:What happens when your bf betrayed you? He found another gal, reason being you are overseas and he is lonely. He wanted companion for just that short few months that you are away?
I forgive him as i still love him very much. I came back hoping to start everything afresh with him and we did... But things isn't as wonderful as last time. He tried his best but his feelings for me is no longer there.
An sms to him a day and meeting up with him only for a few hrs a week, seems too much for him to bear. He feels pressurised. He requested for his own personal space.
He says he wants to be fair to me and for him to have his own space. We have been together for close to 6 years. I just can't bear for us to part this way..
How come a person can change so fast without a reason? Is there really eternality love?? Why does one person commit fully whereas another can just let it go just like that??
The main issue for his departure is your physical absence. Person of Loneliness is a very very easy victim.
One might have thought leaving the feelings on the shelf for awhile, and go look around.
However, When one cannot control and maintain his/her feelings. He/her is unable to retrack back to the feelings which was left on the shelf.
That is when one needs to decide whether to let go, or relearn how to love again.
When he have requested for his own personal space. Have you considered or observed if there were any change in your r/s before leaving overseas?
Could it be that he wasn't satisfied in certain manners?
It could be that 6 years is a long time. Some r/s gets better when they age. Some turn into vinegar.
Again.
Eternal is subjective. As well as love. Also subjective. It depends on your expectations and how you look at it.
Lastly. Think about it carefully.
I don't think this is a sudden departure case.
You may not be aware that he might have left you spiritually and emotionally long before you realise.
Take care.
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If i'm her. The guy is not worth it.Originally posted by drx:"My mind will think about him every now and then which is really a torture to me. Whenever i ask myself, how cum he can take it so lightly and i can't? I feel myself so useless..."
He took it so lightly cos he never love you very much at all..
Is it really worth to think so much for a guy who never cares about u?
YOu are not useless in fact you did all the things you can for the one you love.
In fact you should be proud of yourself, as you have done your best and why should you waste your time on someone who does think about u when he is kiss another girl?
Be brave girl, we are here to support you. Breaking up is never easy it takes time to forget the pain. Give yourself more time go and have fun, stop thinking so much.
pats pats
But the six years and those effort, is worth the thinking man.
Cheers