guys dont want me.. help!
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http://sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=152129
u might wanna refer to this for some background information about me... not like my friend, im NOT preg caus i practice good protection when it comes to sex... u can say i have no guts but its the best way to keep clean and free.... and theres no possible way in getting pregnant when it comes to girl on girl.. ive had sex with guys too so i need your comment on this one...
i find it VERY hard to get a boyfriend these days.. it used to be relatively easy back then when i was 15 and was a regular in one of the clubs i frequent with my friend.... feedback i gotten from them (my jc frens) now is that im s|utty.. a loose gal.. bimbotic and very flirt.... u can tell from the way i dress... i hate those nerdy dressings and i stay trendy most of the times and this gets me into trouble quite often with school authorities.. id say i converse very well with guys but they tend to have no interest in my. only my BEST and bestest friends know about my lesbianism and ive made them promise not to reveal it to others but im very troubled right now because i know im lesbian but on the other hand i wish to get married and have kids.
if u wanna know more about it.. this is how i describe myself... ppl say im a potato and i kind of agree to that.. my chinese really sux and i dont speak like a chinese at all and that is a turn off to some chinese guys... they do not feel comfortable with me around... about my looks.. my face is quite average looking if u have seen my pic around and what attracts ppl is my boobs id say.. they are quite big in asians context as i dont usually see ppl as big as me. not bragging but my b cup looks more like a c.. really. i guess its all in the genes... that is also why my les partner loves me a lot... and about my habits.. im a fun loving gal that loves to go swimming and play vball.. pool and clubbing.... but i am not really tanned although i suntan ocassionaly. im rather wild sometimes and very crazy... if u are sincere in knowing me maybe i will contact u or something..... but right now im very very troubled because i cant get a boyfriend. im not desperate or what but i dont see myself getting one in the near future because guys dont like im serious in relationships.. they think all i am is a big flirt.. i will prove them wrong. i can be serious if a guy loves me truely. -
What I can suggest to you will make you more appealing to both men and womenÂ…
The last paragraph you wrote sounded almost like a plea to men to accept you. This hard-selling tactics must stop. You sounded almost desperate and have already created a negative impression even before you meet him.
1)First and Foremost, think of yourself as a rare commodity
Once upon a time when paper money was not even created, people practiced barter trading. Then one fine day, one smart @ss decides that maybe it would be easier to find a commodity to represent value. Instinctively, he chose gold. You see, it is a psychological fact that people tend to place more value on things that are rare and harder to find.
The first thing you must do is to convince yourself that you are a good catch to men and you are a rare commodity.
Next you put your convictions into actionsÂ…
2)Focus on your dreams and ambitions
Your dreams at this moment does not include d!cks, pussies or boobs. All these can come later. A desirable person is someone who has a passion in something in life. Find something that you believe you can continue doing for life. Your romantic life is always a reflection of your regular life. When a person has a passion in his/her life, people naturally want to be a part of it.
3)Never ever feel the need to prove yourself to anyone
When you feel the need to prove yourself, you are pretty much screwed before you can even talk about starting a relationship. Women tend to fall into the common trap of being too self conscious when they try to prove themselves.
You for instance bombard yourself with questions like “I feel our conversation went fine…why aren’t they interested in me? Why don’t they like me? I cant speak Chinese properly, that must be the problem?” When you feel the need to prove yourself, you become desperate to impress.
Look at your post for instance, if you are seriously looking for a man who will truly loves you, you believe he will be so concerned about your extraordinary boobs. Why is there a need to prove yourself?
So start doing some self-improvement, find out what you want to be and what can be the passion in your life. Work on it and you will begin to love yourself more and becomes more confident. A woman who is confident, knows who she is and has a passion in her life is appealingÂ…you will naturally become a rare commodity that men will sought after. -
you are Fucking retarded, first you say you're a lesbian, then now you are complaining that guys dont want you, what the Fuck? whats next? Iguanas? Ostriches? your father?
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anyone heard of the story where two people who always argue/compete/fight with each other usually falls in love with each other in tbe end?
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Tried to be a non-conformist?
Wanna stand out from the crowd?
All this done just to seek attention and affirmation?
Want to get a decent boyfriend?
The first step is to move away from your lesbian friend.
Words do gets around. Even among your so called 'best of the bestest' friends. They may not precieve the way you want them to.
The second step, be decent yourself.
Work more on your personality not your physical attributes. You will gain more self-repect this way. -
I think Firstly, You HAVe to decide on where your sexuality lies. If you are a 100% les, then don't you think it's unfair to whichever guy who might be really serious with you?
when I read your post, all I can hear is advertisment... you are promoting yourself. Don't.
Love, relationship comes naturally, I've friends guys and gals that are pretty nice, characterwise I give them a BIg Big Plus!!! But they just have not found someone who can fully appreciate them. It does not indicate that anything is wrong with them... just that they have not met that Special someone.
Some things cannot be rushed, when rushed, It'll only lead to heartbreaks.
so stop fretting... figure out what you want... your sexuality, and be fair to whichever guy who fall for you and be honest about your sexuality.Originally posted by daphne_1802:http://sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=152129
u might wanna refer to this for some background information about me... not like my friend, im NOT preg caus i practice good protection when it comes to sex... u can say i have no guts but its the best way to keep clean and free.... and theres no possible way in getting pregnant when it comes to girl on girl.. ive had sex with guys too so i need your comment on this one...
i find it VERY hard to get a boyfriend these days.. it used to be relatively easy back then when i was 15 and was a regular in one of the clubs i frequent with my friend.... feedback i gotten from them (my jc frens) now is that im s|utty.. a loose gal.. bimbotic and very flirt.... u can tell from the way i dress... i hate those nerdy dressings and i stay trendy most of the times and this gets me into trouble quite often with school authorities.. id say i converse very well with guys but they tend to have no interest in my. only my BEST and bestest friends know about my lesbianism and ive made them promise not to reveal it to others but im very troubled right now because i know im lesbian but on the other hand i wish to get married and have kids.
if u wanna know more about it.. this is how i describe myself... ppl say im a potato and i kind of agree to that.. my chinese really sux and i dont speak like a chinese at all and that is a turn off to some chinese guys... they do not feel comfortable with me around... about my looks.. my face is quite average looking if u have seen my pic around and what attracts ppl is my boobs id say.. they are quite big in asians context as i dont usually see ppl as big as me. not bragging but my b cup looks more like a c.. really. i guess its all in the genes... that is also why my les partner loves me a lot... and about my habits.. im a fun loving gal that loves to go swimming and play vball.. pool and clubbing.... but i am not really tanned although i suntan ocassionaly. im rather wild sometimes and very crazy... if u are sincere in knowing me maybe i will contact u or something..... but right now im very very troubled because i cant get a boyfriend. im not desperate or what but i dont see myself getting one in the near future because guys dont like im serious in relationships.. they think all i am is a big flirt.. i will prove them wrong. i can be serious if a guy loves me truely. -
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what i worry is that most guys are superficial.. its a known fact.. and they go for looks.. that is why i am very concerned about how i look in front of them.
but honestly, if u were a guy, will u accept a girl who have relationships with other girls and have been doing intimate stuff with her girlfriends such as petting, french kiss etc.. because that is what i have done... -
If you are superficial, people will precieve you as supedficial too.Originally posted by daphne_1802:what i worry is that most guys are superficial.. its a known fact.. and they go for looks.. that is why i am very concerned about how i look in front of them.
but honestly, if u were a guy, will u accept a girl who have relationships with other girls and have been doing intimate stuff with her girlfriends such as petting, french kiss etc.. because that is what i have done...
Regardless of gender.
Stop going to those 'House Of Fun'. You will only attract people who are out to have just that - fun.
If a girl changes for the better, why not?
Who dun have a past? -
like attract like ... maybe you find a guy who hangs out everyday in a strip xlub.Originally posted by daphne_1802:what i worry is that most guys are superficial.. its a known fact.. and they go for looks.. that is why i am very concerned about how i look in front of them.
but honestly, if u were a guy, will u accept a girl who have relationships with other girls and have been doing intimate stuff with her girlfriends such as petting, french kiss etc.. because that is what i have done... -
ive to acknowledge that everybody has a past but im not sure if most guys will accept me being a lesbian and at the same time their girlfriend. about the 'house of fun', i love clubbing and it has become one of my hobbies.. my parents are quite open and leave it all to me.. i think my dad knows about me going to clubs but he's keeping quiet about it.... he always plays the good guy in my family anyways.. all the slaughtering is done by my evil mom so my sis and i are very afraid of her. come to think about it, there isnt any harm clubbing, is it? its part of socialising, getting to know more ppl and also enjoying youself to the beats and chilling out with your favourite drinks and dancing. as long as i dont do drugs, the police cant arrest me.Originally posted by Magnus:If you are superficial, people will precieve you as supedficial too.
Regardless of gender.
Stop going to those 'House Of Fun'. You will only attract people who are out to have just that - fun.
If a girl changes for the better, why not?
Who dun have a past? -
From what you describe, you are just confused and not a lesbian.
If you stop those sexual activites, you can stop calling yourself that and remove that label on you perpetually. It's up to you.
There's always a solution/s to a problem. It's only whether you wanna to accept it or not.
If clubbing is your lifestyle, guess, so be it. Just open your eyes big big.
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magnus is a gay
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I am evey inch a hot blooded Alpha Male.Originally posted by reverant_:magnus is a gay
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i dont care who's a gay and who's not. i accept and listen to all comments and feedback given to me and that's how i learn from my mistakes...
do u think gals that go clubbing very often are loose? ive got 'friends' saying that im a loose gal and have sex with many ppl just because they heard rumours that i visit this particular club and is a regular. going clubbing does not mean getting laid.. although its true that im quite sexually active in the past, they shouldnt have made this assumption that a clubber must definately be a loose and dirty gal. i think that its not deserving of them to make such remarks! i feel quite hurt when some of them call me a s|ut.
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ops my tongue slipped ....Originally posted by Magnus:I am evey inch a hot blooded Alpha Male. 
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Guess you will get use to it ... because you are acting like a s|ut !!! not in the club but also in here ... guess in everywhere elseOriginally posted by daphne_1802:i dont care who's a gay and who's not. i accept and listen to all comments and feedback given to me and that's how i learn from my mistakes...
do u think gals that go clubbing very often are loose? ive got 'friends' saying that im a loose gal and have sex with many ppl just because they heard rumours that i visit this particular club and is a regular. going clubbing does not mean getting laid.. although its true that im quite sexually active in the past, they shouldnt have made this assumption that a clubber must definately be a loose and dirty gal. i think that its not deserving of them to make such remarks! i feel quite hurt when some of them call me a s|ut.
if s|uting is the only way for you to get noticed guess you will have to think of something else if you hate that label ... -
why are u lauching personal attacks on me? firstly u havent seen me and u dont know me. and please justify why u think i should be called a s|ut and if its reasonable enough, i might consider to accept it when ppl call me that... in my opinion.. there is not reason ANYONE should call me a s|ut as i'm not one.. and i don't behave like one. please check the dictionaryOriginally posted by reverant_:Guess you will get use to it ... because you are acting like a s|ut !!! not in the club but also in here ... guess in everywhere else -
please check the bible ... if you got any sense you will know that it is right and wise to follow it ...
having sex with the opposite sex is a terrible sin. -
just a question
can you accept a guy who is a bi who had slept with both guy and gal? -
Simple. Those are the 'superficial' friends.Originally posted by daphne_1802:i dont care who's a gay and who's not. i accept and listen to all comments and feedback given to me and that's how i learn from my mistakes...
do u think gals that go clubbing very often are loose? ive got 'friends' saying that im a loose gal and have sex with many ppl just because they heard rumours that i visit this particular club and is a regular. going clubbing does not mean getting laid.. although its true that im quite sexually active in the past, they shouldnt have made this assumption that a clubber must definately be a loose and dirty gal. i think that its not deserving of them to make such remarks! i feel quite hurt when some of them call me a s|ut.
Anyway, if you still wanna go clubbing. Just moderate yourself a bit. Be mindful about that.
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furthermore, if you think you are darn right in what you do, you would not have to post here to try to prove that you are right. Ten wrongs doesn't make one right.
Why do gay and les have to group together hiding from the general crowd and acting like they are right ?
Because they are darn right !!! -
reverant do u mean same or opposite sex?
drx.. u must understand that males and females are very different and they have completely differnt mindsets and perspectives... as a gal myself.. i believe most gals find it hard to accept a gay as their boyfriends but im not very sure about guys... i dont know if its true but i heard that guys like lesbians.. is it true? -
typo error sorry
having sex with the opposite sex is a terrible sin. sorry -
techincally speaking i didn't 'have sex' with her. its impossible for a girl to have sex with another girl. all i did was french kissing, fondling her breasts, heavy petting occasionaly and sometimes licking.. the rest are too explicit and i choose not to disclose them. as far as i am concerend, i dont classify them under sex as no egg is fertilized in this case.. both of us are gals and there is no way any of us can get pregnant. so are we still having sex?