Should I carry on?

• troubled-gal81

  15 Sep 05, 00:10

  I am married but i realised that my marriage is not blissful at all. My husband and I have so much differences. We are supposed to sign for our flat this coming monday and I dunno if i should go.
  
  What should I do? Should I carry on the relationship?
• confusedboi

  15 Sep 05, 00:19

  me underage
  
  all i can say is try having a one to one talk with your hubby
  
  
• drx

  15 Sep 05, 00:23

  I need some info before I advice
  
  1) define "not blissful"
  
  2) What are the differences between u 2?
  
  3) Is there a 3rd party?
  
  4) Have you ROM?
  
  5) Why did you get married in the first place?
• the mimic

  15 Sep 05, 00:26

  Marriage life is diff compared to dating days.. there are bound to be some problems that you may never encountered before.. or some misunderstanding and stuff.. talk to him and see where the problem lies.. try to solve this problem together rather than giving up the love juz like that.. remember why do u guyz married at the first place.. and what pulls u guyz together..
• maxcp

  15 Sep 05, 01:10

  Originally posted by troubled-gal81:

  I am married but i realised that my marriage is not blissful at all. My husband and I have so much differences. We are supposed to sign for our flat this coming monday and I dunno if i should go.
  
  What should I do? Should I carry on the relationship?

  how long hv u been married ?
• kiekie

  15 Sep 05, 01:21

  Originally posted by troubled-gal81:

  I am married but i realised that my marriage is not blissful at all. My husband and I have so much differences. We are supposed to sign for our flat this coming monday and I dunno if i should go.
  
  What should I do? Should I carry on the relationship?

  Blissfulness is created by ourselves.
  
  Having differences and conflicts doesn't neccessarily means that u both r not compatible at all.
  
  Remember? It's hard to clap w/o 2 hands. Signing ur names for ROM is the decision that u both have undergone and have came to an agreement that u wana be together for life. So.... y hold on till now then u regret??
  
  In life, there are many routes for us to choose... u can choose to go straight or take a U-turn. Quarrels & miscommunications are common issues that every couple will encounter. I cannot stand in ur position to visualise or feel what u both have being thru but... every one should try to salvage their marriage before giving up hope.
  
  All the best and the decision is yours..
• boy in blues

  15 Sep 05, 01:55

  Originally posted by troubled-gal81:

  I am married but i realised that my marriage is not blissful at all. My husband and I have so much differences. We are supposed to sign for our flat this coming monday and I dunno if i should go.
  
  What should I do? Should I carry on the relationship?

  nobody will ever know who you are. after you get your answers, you can just register another nickname and discard this one forever. your info too brief. can't tell anything
• Xcert

  15 Sep 05, 08:51

  Originally posted by troubled-gal81:

  I am married but i realised that my marriage is not blissful at all. My husband and I have so much differences. We are supposed to sign for our flat this coming monday and I dunno if i should go.
  
  What should I do? Should I carry on the relationship?

  I think U shouldnt sign for your flat until U decided what to do with ur marriage.why bring in a flat to complicate matters when U are already having problems with just the marriage alone,not to mention a flat by itself is not cheap...HDB flat or resale flat?
  
• macjoe

  15 Sep 05, 09:59

  
  don't anyhow sign especially for a hdb flat.
  
  your differences (and heartache) will only become bigger and wider.
  
  just tell him so. dont do something important mindlessly. 8
  
  
• gerrykoh

  15 Sep 05, 10:18

  Buying a HDB is easy but selling can be a headache esp. since prop. mkt is languishing. Moreover u have to pay lawyer's fee + maintenance + prop. tax etc.
  Think twice. Better settle your personal problems first.
• FeowFeow

  15 Sep 05, 10:29

  Trouble Gal,
  
  If you were in my position, what would you advise yourself? If you knew that a girl was Not happy in her marriage, would you advise her to sink deeper into the marriage with a purchase of a big-ticket item?
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by troubled-gal81:

  I am married but i realised that my marriage is not blissful at all. My husband and I have so much differences. We are supposed to sign for our flat this coming monday and I dunno if i should go.
  
  What should I do? Should I carry on the relationship?

• Kennerve

  15 Sep 05, 10:40

  Originally posted by troubled-gal81:

  I am married but i realised that my marriage is not blissful at all. My husband and I have so much differences. We are supposed to sign for our flat this coming monday and I dunno if i should go.
  
  What should I do? Should I carry on the relationship?

  Hi, i believe is about commitment from both parties. Before you get married.. Things out to be sorted out. Is not WHEN you are married.. Finding out differences when you are married.. Is that something to late?
  
  There are many definations to the word blissful here.. What do you expect or want from your husband?
• babyreyes

  19 Sep 05, 12:52

  maybe delay getting ur flat?
  
  Settle the problems existing 1st lors. Anyway, flat anytime can buy one. =)
  
  I dont know wat to say coz im still in dilema on whether to leave him nots. haix.
• browniebaobao

  19 Sep 05, 22:14

  What's ur definition of 'blissful'?
  
  Every individual is different. To me, a perfect relationship should be like two jigsaw puzzles.. complementing each other. It will be very boring if u face someone like u everyday.. juz like looking at the mirror, isn't it?
  
  Learn to accept the differences.. coz it's the differences that makes life more interesting.