Can someone explain why am I feeling this way?
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I'm always looking forward to saturdays , I don't know why but saturdays are the only days of the week in which I can fully have a great time out with my friends. It's like I must always go out with my friends on Saturdays.
But whenever my friends have other committments on Saturdays , I somehow become a little bit schezophrenic. I get easily agitated and start to become another person whom I'm usually not. That's when my nonsense starts coming in. I start to feel lonely. The kinda loneliness you feel when you're being single and stuff like that. The feeling of wanting to be loved so badly and that only happens when my Saturdays are ruined.
I start to silently blame my friends who are in a relationship for not sparing a thought for their friends. They're always with their other half and have no time to hang out with us on Saturdays....
Ever since my ex left me , I began to find "more value" in my friends and as a result , I began to become even more closer to them. But I think it's getting a bit out of hand now.....
I'm feeling sooooooooooo weird now and am actually disgusted with myself when I'm faced with this kinda situation....
Can some please tell me what is happening to me right now? -
hi. it's alright lah. i also felt this way when i was single.even when attached, it's not like my gf can go out during weekends. try to indulge on things on your own. it's good u know... like.. shopping alone? do some cycling or whatsoever. pick up a hobby.Originally posted by rammstein619:I'm always looking forward to saturdays , I don't know why but saturdays are the only days of the week in which I can fully have a great time out with my friends. It's like I must always go out with my friends on Saturdays.
But whenever my friends have other committments on Saturdays , I somehow become a little bit schezophrenic. I get easily agitated and start to become another person whom I'm usually not. That's when my nonsense starts coming in. I start to feel lonely. The kinda loneliness you feel when you're being single and stuff like that. The feeling of wanting to be loved so badly and that only happens when my Saturdays are ruined.
I start to silently blame my friends who are in a relationship for not sparing a thought for their friends. They're always with their other half and have no time to hang out with us on Saturdays....
Ever since my ex left me , I began to find "more value" in my friends and as a result , I began to become even more closer to them. But I think it's getting a bit out of hand now.....
I'm feeling sooooooooooo weird now and am actually disgusted with myself when I'm faced with this kinda situation....
Can some please tell me what is happening to me right now?
hope u find something to do. -
haha...I have this weird phoebia of going out alone because I don't wish to bump into any familar faces along the way and be branded as anti social. I know it's stupid but I tend to think this way....
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Maybe u can take up a course or something that keeps you busy on Saturdays? Something that you enjoy.. and who knows, you might meet someone new on it?
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Hi! You're feeling the way I feel...??Originally posted by rammstein619:haha...I have this weird phoebia of going out alone because I don't wish to bump into any familar faces along the way and be branded as anti social. I know it's stupid but I tend to think this way....
Now... SERIOUSLY... You shouldn't really worry too much about how people might brand you... As probably no matter what ya so, they would still 'brand' you in one way or another...?? I've met people who seen me enjoying myself alone and they simply asked me, "Hey! What are you doing ALONE...??" I mean... SERIOUSLY... I don't see what's wrong with that...?? 
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Understand your 'no more gf' feeling.. It's only natural to cling closer to the '2nd best'... Friends...?
But you should also understand that everybody have their own lives... Just like you when you're attached...?? HEY!! I think you really should LEARN to ENJOY YOURSELF even when you're ALONE...?? I can ALMOST ASSURE you, that would be ULTIMATELY one of the MOST PRECIOUS GIFT you can RECEIVE IN LIFE!! "
PS. The fact that you CAN ENJOY your life ALONE, doesn't necessarily make you anything like an anti-social nor anything close to being a freak!! " -
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Same here.. My gf left me on dec last year and I've been spending time alone most of the time..
Its not healthy to be overdependent on your friends. In this worl its every man for himself..
Try taking baby steps. Like cycling at night, which is so cool.. Learn to enjoy your own company first.. -
maybe mi can help
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yes.. cycling is nice.. but at night, wear reflective clothing and put lights at the back hor.Originally posted by The Den:x1
Same here.. My gf left me on dec last year and I've been spending time alone most of the time..
Its not healthy to be overdependent on your friends. In this worl its every man for himself..
Try taking baby steps. Like cycling at night, which is so cool.. Learn to enjoy your own company first.. -
take up a hobby, be it night cycling, watching animes, whatever, learn to enjoy these things
get to know more ppl. broaden your circle of friends, have fun... join a course!! -
you're not aloneOriginally posted by rammstein619:I'm always looking forward to saturdays , I don't know why but saturdays are the only days of the week in which I can fully have a great time out with my friends. It's like I must always go out with my friends on Saturdays.
But whenever my friends have other committments on Saturdays , I somehow become a little bit schezophrenic. I get easily agitated and start to become another person whom I'm usually not. That's when my nonsense starts coming in. I start to feel lonely. The kinda loneliness you feel when you're being single and stuff like that. The feeling of wanting to be loved so badly and that only happens when my Saturdays are ruined.
I start to silently blame my friends who are in a relationship for not sparing a thought for their friends. They're always with their other half and have no time to hang out with us on Saturdays....
Ever since my ex left me , I began to find "more value" in my friends and as a result , I began to become even more closer to them. But I think it's getting a bit out of hand now.....
I'm feeling sooooooooooo weird now and am actually disgusted with myself when I'm faced with this kinda situation....
Can some please tell me what is happening to me right now?
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hmmmm....cycling is fun I guess but even if I were to buy a bike now , I don't think I would have space to park a bike in my house
Hmmm....I do have hobbies like music and computer games but I can't be at them 24/7 right?
So what other loner activities do you people indulge in? -
vigorous actions using right hand or left handOriginally posted by rammstein619:So what other loner activities do you people indulge in? -
Hey i felt some of what u have described for so long.. jus tat i didn't rely bothered to articulate my thoughts & crystalize my problems .
But now aft readin ur post, it rely touched a raw nerve...
Maybe cos i have gotta used to this weekend loneliness for so so long, it didn't feel like a problem like it used to be.. -
Well...my friend brought his external hard disk and copied episodes of the show "Bleach" onto my notebook and this is the first time I've actually enjoyed jap anime. I won't say I'm hooked on it yet but rather very intrigued by the exaggerative and interesting storyline....Originally posted by smudgey:take up a hobby, be it night cycling, watching animes, whatever, learn to enjoy these things
get to know more ppl. broaden your circle of friends, have fun... join a course!! -
maybe i should add the word "Healthy" in it....Originally posted by alexkusu:vigorous actions using right hand or left hand -
whats schezophrenic?
Try to plan before hand what you gotta do on saturday to prevent yourself from feeling very alone. Be the one to organise an outing with friends! e.g. cycling at pulau ubin! Have to learn to be more independent in making yourself happy everyday, we are responsible for our own happiness. You gotta make your own day, not others! As friend gets older, alot will get attached le, I didnt expect my friends would be single all the time. you have to learn to live with it. Theres alot more to do with life than feeling lonely.
The way you feel is so normal. You not alone in feeling this way. I experience this kinda feeling myself too. especially when my bf just broke off wit me, when I am alone at home alot, I will think alot, I tend to forget to make myself happy, I am so engrossed in my own sadness that I cant help feeling drown in it and have depressions. Even people around me gets affected. I even wished that I never had bf before man.
Before that when I never had bf before, my life is so happy even when I was alone at home, I can happily read a book whole day, play computer games, watch vcds, drawing, playing my harmonica~ Find a hobby! this month I stay at home every saturday because I am so broke man, even my friends also miss me le but no choice. Then I plan on what to do this weekend, which is reading my favourite book! so I doesnt feel sad on a satuday at home le. Make yourself think happy first. -
Yup I agree , plan everything before the coming of the weekends which also includes a backup plan as well
Wow , I did not know that many people stay at home during saturdays....
Oh by the way , schezophrenic is sometimes known as split personality syndrome. You know gollum from LOTR? That's schezophrenic!!!!
Maybe I'm just exaggerating.... -
Wahahahaha really ah?!Yeah that evil smeagol! my preciouuussss really very exaggerate leh. Maybe yours its only mood swing lah~ very normal.Originally posted by rammstein619:Yup I agree , plan everything before the coming of the weekends which also includes a backup plan as well
Wow , I did not know that many people stay at home during saturdays....
Oh by the way , schezophrenic is sometimes known as split personality syndrome. You know gollum from LOTR? That's schezophrenic!!!!
Maybe I'm just exaggerating....
A new word learnt man thanks! -
Actually there are 2 things which I would to take up as a hobby....
1) Learn the bass guitar/drum (depends on how much my idols can influence me)
2) Photography ( When pictures tell a story)
But first of all......I'm broke
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Wow not bad a musician leh. not bad you already got a goal liao then work towards it. save up now!Originally posted by rammstein619:Actually there are 2 things which I would to take up as a hobby....
1) Learn the bass guitar/drum (depends on how much my idols can influence me)
2) Photography ( When pictures tell a story)
But first of all......I'm broke
learn drum bah, more cool! since you already know guitar is it.
photography is really fun! especially going in the darkroom and develop the photos. I learnt it in school.
I learning singing and dancing now. learn until very broke also -
no actually I'm a pianist but I started off with the guitar but had a rather short interest span on it sad to say. But after listening to this band called X Japan , I guess my interest in guitars and drums have resurfaced
I also want to learn MIDI recording but that's definitely gonna cost a bomb buying equipments and stuff like that as compared to taking up photography which ain't that bad.... -
Originally posted by rammstein619:Actually there are 2 things which I would to take up as a hobby....
1) Learn the bass guitar/drum (depends on how much my idols can influence me)
2) Photography ( When pictures tell a story)
But first of all......I'm broke
I wld like to pick up a hobby too... i like singing thou my voice suck. Tod of learning guitar..Originally posted by Tier:learning singing and dancing now. learn until very broke also
Btw why do NO ONE EVER reply or acknowlege any post i make in this forum... It seems like whenever i post somethk, no one seems to be readin.. like i'm invisible or somethk -
Really meh? you like singing too! thats good. singing is an enjoyment even kids like! You can try learning guitar. I learnt classical guitar for a year plus at yamaha and stop cause of brokiness of a student. sad I will continue after my singing class. but maybe to acoustic guitar now. classical take 5 years, I will be so old liao man!Originally posted by Prince Cumming:I wld like to pick up a hobby too... i like singing thou my voice suck. Tod of learning guitar..
Btw why do NO ONE EVER reply or acknowlege any post i make in this forum... It seems like whenever i post somethk, no one seems to be readin.. like i'm invisible or somethk
No lah you are not invisible, got read leh. -
Wow a pianist! I wanna to learn to play piano when young but mama dun let meOriginally posted by rammstein619:no actually I'm a pianist but I started off with the guitar but had a rather short interest span on it sad to say. But after listening to this band called X Japan , I guess my interest in guitars and drums have resurfaced
I also want to learn MIDI recording but that's definitely gonna cost a bomb buying equipments and stuff like that as compared to taking up photography which ain't that bad....
I only heard X-japan - good bye. nice~
MIDI recording I am sure in future you will get to learn when save up enough. seems like you got so many things you wanna learn man. kee it up! haha I got a lot of things I wanna learn also man, now working and saving up so I can continue to learn whatever I want. -
The first few months after breakup is indeed miserable when weekend is approaching and there is no plans and no calls from friends. You just need time to re-adjust yourself and just try not to think too much as in who to go out with. Think abt what to do on Saturday and Sunday. Be it going out with friends or doing something else alone, make sure that ever weekend will not be put to waste.