Meet the Parents Good Or Bad?
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Hmmm...
This has been bothering me quite a while...
My Gf's parents wants to meet me,
They kinda know that she and me are together.
She and I are already 2 weeks and going,
Know each other for 3 months+...
Her mum was like anything,
Though her dad was kind of objective....
Somehow, I'm quite lost in the situation.
is this a good thing or a bad ? -
this is your chance to bedazzle her parents and make them love you more than your gf love you.
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there is both good and bad... depending on why they wan to see you...
good luck... -
two weeks nia???
so fast meet parents liao?? wah kao... -
Well...
Here's the happening.
Her dad gave her a 45min lecture on having Relationship at such a age.
Since she just entered poly too.
Her mum only knew she and I was really a item last friday.
Her Parents say she should ask me to her house,
just because her Grand Ma said i was a decent guy.
>.<...
So... What should i do ? lol.. My first time in this kind or situation.
I'm afraid the parents would dislike me ... geez..
I'm thinking too much ? -
Erm... yea... She and I have been out together for a month...Originally posted by starblue:two weeks nia??? so fast meet parents liao?? wah kao...
Sending her home, smsing, going out having fun...
for almost 2 months. -
got use condy??Originally posted by Sekundes:Erm... yea... She and I have been out together for a month...
Sending her home, smsing, going out having fun...
for almost 2 months. -
it is a time where you will Make or Break.
I think it is quite rushing but it also show that the gal is serious in this relationship.
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Erm... I mean by having fun is normal fun...Originally posted by sgboy2004:got use condy??
Non-sexual stuffs.
Geez...
I never even dreamed of doing that to her.
Holding her hands is more then enough for me. ^^,
Yea.. we're both serious about the relationship.Originally posted by 798:it is a time where you will Make or Break.
I think it is quite rushing but it also show that the gal is serious in this relationship.
Just that wat should i do about the parents? Kind of nervous and excited at the same time. Well... i'm also afraid of doing wrong things. -
nervous and show it - honest boi..
nervous but never show - depends on hw they perceive/judge.
nt nervous no show or show it - confirm bad boi..like croco.
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haha, my guy is also nervous abt meeting my parents, but that will only happen abt a year more from now. But I have been preparing him for that day cos...my parents are not exactly the easiest parents on earth
Well, it is a good thing, show that you are a nice person, dress presentably, preferably get a small gift to bring to the parents when you visit them...then they will prolly question you abt your background (academic, family, etc) so be prepared to get questioned quite a bit...but be honest wif ur answer and show dat u r serious abt her
Actually it is a good way to get the parents to like you, her dad might no longer object once he sees what a nice guy you are -
yeah, dont try too hard to impress them though.. just be calm and composed.. wait for more pros to help you on this one.. they'll be coming on soon i guessOriginally posted by rainee:haha, my guy is also nervous abt meeting my parents, but that will only happen abt a year more from now. But I have been preparing him for that day cos...my parents are not exactly the easiest parents on earth
Well, it is a good thing, show that you are a nice person, dress presentably, preferably get a small gift to bring to the parents when you visit them...then they will prolly question you abt your background (academic, family, etc) so be prepared to get questioned quite a bit...but be honest wif ur answer and show dat u r serious abt her
Actually it is a good way to get the parents to like you, her dad might no longer object once he sees what a nice guy you are -
Actually it wud be good if he can find out some of the preferences of her parents, so that they can have sth to talk abt during the meeting...to prevent awkward silence
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wah 2 weeks only wanna have meet-the-parents session already ah. fast sia. hope if u really meet her parents, everything will go well. i've yet to meet my gf's parents and i dont think i'm gonna meet them for the next 3 years?? we're keeping our rltnshp secret frm her parents. she's in jc1 and her parents disapprove her of having rltnshps. conservative family mah.Originally posted by Sekundes:Well...
Here's the happening.
Her dad gave her a 45min lecture on having Relationship at such a age.
Since she just entered poly too.
Her mum only knew she and I was really a item last friday.
Her Parents say she should ask me to her house,
just because her Grand Ma said i was a decent guy.
>.<...
So... What should i do ? lol.. My first time in this kind or situation.
I'm afraid the parents would dislike me ... geez..
I'm thinking too much ? -
If u are serious about her, then go & meet her parents to reassure them that u are ok. It is better to get their approval than meet her secretly.
No parents like to be lied to.
It is a good opportunity for u to know more abt her family background. Remember your manners, buy some fruits or chocolate/ cakes for her mum.
It is easier to work on her mum cos dads are more protective. -
haha.. this reminds me of the 1st time i met my gf's dad.. her mum i met alot of times in the past(cos we r poly classmates and her dad works in malaysia comes back in the weekend only) and when we are together officially, of course her mum knows.. i still remember it was a sat afternoon i am in my gf's bedroom fixing her computer when her dad suddenly came back..
i was like omg.. how? and i was thinking wat shd i do? i felt like hidding in her cupboard all of a sudden haha.. and the 1st time i saw her dad.. cos he is v big size and tall.. 1/2 a head taller than me(p.s i quite short only 1.68m only) so in the end i only managed to call her uncle only.. chatted for a while and found out that although her dad v big size and look quite fierce, but he is v v v friendly! hehe so dun be afraid, your gf's parents might look fierce or unfriendly, but it depends on how u present yourself to them, if u are decent type dun worry it will turn out a nice meeting de!
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reminds me of my fren. His japanese n have a korean gf. Last year he visited korea..stayed at his gf house. Well..most korean dislike japanese cos of the past. And the thing is, his gf's dad is an army general of the korean army. Everytime when he and the gf dad at home, the atmosphere very quiet. both minding their own thing
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Just be yourself, no parents like their children to marry an "actor/actress". And watever u do, don lie. There is a living lie detector in the house and we cannot possibly lie without being detected
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heh heh heh
sounds exciting -
Since you're both serious in this relationship, might as well just face it now..?Originally posted by Sekundes:Yea.. we're both serious about the relationship.
Just that wat should i do about the parents? Kind of nervous and excited at the same time. Well... i'm also afraid of doing wrong things.
Show to them.. If you really LOVE their daughter, you should have nothing to hide and be PROUD of it?
No doubt, it could possibly spell a little trouble or such for you... But you'll never know if you never meet up with them? Even at this point, I think AVOIDING would only pulls in MORE COMPLICATIONS...?
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Just a little tip or advice:
if your gf's father ever offer you a handshake, always give a good tight grip in return... not those nua nua grip types... tt shld give confident impression to the person giving you the handshake...
good luck -
Don't be too cocky and always err on the side of caution.
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Originally posted by Sekundes:Hmmm...
This has been bothering me quite a while...
My Gf's parents wants to meet me,
They kinda know that she and me are together.
She and I are already 2 weeks and going,
Know each other for 3 months+...
Her mum was like anything,
Though her dad was kind of objective....
Somehow, I'm quite lost in the situation.
is this a good thing or a bad ?
Finally I am back! *Wipe sweat*
*** Actually, I will not advice people to meet each other's parent so soon, although if the situation doesn't allow you to push this to a latter date, you just have to work around it. Never reject a parental meet-up, however, it is best to PLAN it instead of LEAVING it to nature.
Reason being Insurance - a significant percentage of relationship wouldn't even make it to the one year mark, so the meet-the-parents-session (MTPS) is pretty unnecessary, unless you foresee this relationship, very strongly, beyond the first year. Next thing: does it matters whether MTPS is held within the first year or not? Objectivity speaking, it's more like a customary approach, which would be executed naturally when a relationship attains certain 'level'. However, two weeks relationship to me is still far too raw.
Although, nothing wrong at all but I would prefer to plan it on a latter schedule, to set more important priorities first, like settling down for a new relationship with a new person, adapting to new personality, enjoy honeymoon period, etc.
Cheers -
thanks for all the advice people apprieciate it.
^^,
I'm really trying to think of what not to do in her house tat day.