Do you think this relationship can work out?
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I got to know my bf from an online chat. We never run out of things to chat.
But when we are together. We just can't talk anything deep. All that will be reserved for our chats when we are back home.
Now, I feel we are starting to run out of things to chat and talk about.
Next, he has a cool attitude. His thinking is very different from others.
He keeps things to himself too and I have a hard time understanding him.
Seems like I have a communication problem here...
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its possible if both of u put work to communicate... this u have to tell him... explain to him how u feel lo... then work thigns out from there... u wont know how far it will go...Originally posted by sweetlips:I got to know my bf from an online chat. We never run out of things to chat.
But when we are together. We just can't talk anything deep. All that will be reserved for our chats when we are back home.
Now, I feel we are starting to run out of things to chat and talk about.
Next, he has a cool attitude. His thinking is very different from others.
He keeps things to himself too and I have a hard time understanding him.
Seems like I have a communication problem here...
Do you think this relationship can work out? What can I do to make it better? -
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This is a typical problem of not learning enough communication skills when too much time is spent on the internet.
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Let him be. He needs breathing space.Originally posted by sweetlips:I got to know my bf from an online chat. We never run out of things to chat.
But when we are together. We just can't talk anything deep. All that will be reserved for our chats when we are back home.
Now, I feel we are starting to run out of things to chat and talk about.
Next, he has a cool attitude. His thinking is very different from others.
He keeps things to himself too and I have a hard time understanding him.
Seems like I have a communication problem here...
Do you think this relationship can work out? What can I do to make it better?
You're hugging him too close for comfort.
Chatting is very tedious for a guy.
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How about just try having fun not chatting ? Enjoying yourself doesn't revolve around chatting. Maybe you can just find some quiet time together enjoying each others warmth and company ?
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my cousin knew her bf from the IRC too.. now they are happily married with two kids.. so of cos.. this relationship can work out..Originally posted by sweetlips:I got to know my bf from an online chat. We never run out of things to chat.
But when we are together. We just can't talk anything deep. All that will be reserved for our chats when we are back home.
Now, I feel we are starting to run out of things to chat and talk about.
Next, he has a cool attitude. His thinking is very different from others.
He keeps things to himself too and I have a hard time understanding him.
Seems like I have a communication problem here...
Do you think this relationship can work out? What can I do to make it better?
anyway simple bear is right.. most guys find it hard to communicate.. verbal communication & typing in online chat is completely different.. -
Any common interest??Like bowling,clubbing etc?Create more fun & activities btw both of u can strengthen ur relationship & it doesn't involve much talking!!Dun expect everyday to hav topics,sometimes w/o talking,jus enjoys each others' company..
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Try to 'discover' him. And enjoy the process of 'discovering' him...?Originally posted by sweetlips:I got to know my bf from an online chat. We never run out of things to chat.
But when we are together. We just can't talk anything deep. All that will be reserved for our chats when we are back home.
Now, I feel we are starting to run out of things to chat and talk about.
Next, he has a cool attitude. His thinking is very different from others.
He keeps things to himself too and I have a hard time understanding him.
Seems like I have a communication problem here...
Do you think this relationship can work out? What can I do to make it better? -
let him open up slowly...
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her nick "sweetlips" is very enticing too,Originally posted by Devil1976:Try to 'discover' him. And enjoy the process of 'discovering' him...? -
My worry is: Is he trying to 'discover' her too? Will he enjoy the process.Originally posted by Devil1976:Try to 'discover' him. And enjoy the process of 'discovering' him...?
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hmm wat if he suddenly bcome chatty? will u think he has changed?
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thats what usually happens to technology girls and boys in the modern days. word seems to flow out easily when typing in the computer because you dun have to look at a person face. Its a kinda fear seeing the reaction of how people react to what you speak. in computer we can speak out our mind without worry whether the person maybe bored or what. Long hours coping in front of computer has causes us to have problems expressing ourselves verbally in real life.Originally posted by sweetlips:I got to know my bf from an online chat. We never run out of things to chat.
But when we are together. We just can't talk anything deep. All that will be reserved for our chats when we are back home.
Now, I feel we are starting to run out of things to chat and talk about.
Next, he has a cool attitude. His thinking is very different from others.
He keeps things to himself too and I have a hard time understanding him.
Seems like I have a communication problem here...
Do you think this relationship can work out? What can I do to make it better?
Imagine when two person married and have to use two computer chat. I saw it happening theres this husband even uses email to inform his wife something about household matter.
There is really a need to solve this communication thing, try not to use too much technology to transmit your message to each other. Try to communicate face to face more. talk to him, tell him this problem, try to solve it together. This way then can you know whether are you two really suitable in every way. its important to find someone that you enjoy talking to. cause this then will last for a lifetime. -
I concur. haha... i totally agree to this...Originally posted by Tier:thats what usually happens to technology girls and boys in the modern days. word seems to flow out easily when typing in the computer because you dun have to look at a person face. Its a kinda fear seeing the reaction of how people react to what you speak. in computer we can speak out our mind without worry whether the person maybe bored or what. Long hours coping in front of computer has causes us to have problems expressing ourselves verbally in real life.
Imagine when two person married and have to use two computer chat. I saw it happening theres this husband even uses email to inform his wife something about household matter.
There is really a need to solve this communication thing, try not to use too much technology to transmit your message to each other. Try to communicate face to face more. talk to him, tell him this problem, try to solve it together. This way then can you know whether are you two really suitable in every way. its important to find someone that you enjoy talking to. cause this then will last for a lifetime.
Some ppl avoid face to face contact with the "latest" tech,
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Think too much? Possibilities are beyond our imagination.. Especially with little information told...?Originally posted by M©+square:My worry is: Is he trying to 'discover' her too? Will he enjoy the process.
Cheers
On personal note... He is 'cool' and seems more like one who is more refrained from 'communication' compared to this girl we're speaking to...
At this point.. Her mentality and move are consider 'crucial' as facts have cultivated thoughts, and her thoughts already triggered her imagination... -
As like have said. She's in the situation.Originally posted by Devil1976:Think too much? Possibilities are beyond our imagination.. Especially with little information told...?
On personal note... He is 'cool' and seems more like one who is more refrained from 'communication' compared to this girl we're speaking to...
At this point.. Her mentality and move are consider 'crucial' as facts have cultivated thoughts, and her thoughts already triggered her imagination...
I am thinking alot. But it's not me who's going to solve the problem. -
Yes. Can work out
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do u really like him? or u simply love to yakity yak?
soon, u'll grow outta him and find another interesting person and all over again. -
Hmm...well, maybe can try talking to him over the Net? Or on the phone?
I believe every r/s needs some sort of "real" communication. As in those that will involve both parties' voices
Cos typing out words can be different from talking...
Let him know that you are bothered about this, and hear what he has to say reg. this issue
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Mmm... Yes, true.Originally posted by M©+square:As like have said. She's in the situation.
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You must differentiate between Chat and Communication...Originally posted by sweetlips:I got to know my bf from an online chat. We never run out of things to chat.
But when we are together. We just can't talk anything deep. All that will be reserved for our chats when we are back home.
Now, I feel we are starting to run out of things to chat and talk about.
Next, he has a cool attitude. His thinking is very different from others.
He keeps things to himself too and I have a hard time understanding him.
Seems like I have a communication problem here...
Do you think this relationship can work out? What can I do to make it better?
you use brain to chat, and u use heart to communicate.
Certainly you dun wan to get married in a manner where each of you holds a laptop to say "i do"...