How do I ask her out?
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background: We used to be in the same sch and claz... but sadly we separated into different sch after graduating. I seldom tok to her, I seldom tok to anyone. Its only last year that I got her number I started SMSing her by sending forward msgs... and gd nights... she does reply frequently...
How do I ask her out? I already asked her out several times but...
1st time was during New Year, she didn't reply.
2nd time was during the 1st Monday of June holidays, she didn't reply, I did some investigations and found out she was camping the day before.
3rd time was during the 1st Sunday of June holidays, I shouldn't have asked on that day, she had her usual extra lessons on that day as usual and its not like I dunno it... she replied "She had lessons"
4th time was after Mid Year, she didn't reply again, but she forwarded me "cheer up" message on the following Monday.
5th time was right after her prelims, She said she was not free.
And i dun even get to see her at all... cos we are in different sch and hav no chance to meet...
Maybe now is not the time for her since A Levels starts in 6 weeks time... I wished I knew her schedule... but I noe from the looks of thing... she may be just lying to me that she is busy.... But I realli can't do without her... I need help, teach me how to woo her... get close to her... just dun tell me to giv up okay? -
get the hint.
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Be honest and simple. Beating round the bush gets you nowhere.
"Is it alright if I ask you out this so and so for so and so?" -
Sorry, I can't do without her, I rather die.Originally posted by mistyblue:get the hint. -
then go.
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hmmm pal i think u should try to ask her again after her As, like what u said the A levels is just 6 weeks away and she would probably be mugging hard for it..thats n0t to say she wont go out at all but i feel she would prefer to go hang out with her girl cliques for now...
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Then you should just grow some balls and talk to her face to face lah.Originally posted by Big Bot:Sorry, I can't do without her, I rather die.
You are a man hor...if she rejects you face to face, take it like a man and move on.
A wise old man in a kopitiam once told me this in hokkien...
" A man must die a few times in his life before he finally understands what it means to be a man"
So grow some balls and go do your thing lah
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I WOULD IF I COULD! I don't even have any chances to meet her at all...Originally posted by curiousOrange:Then you should just grow some balls and talk to her face to face lah.
You are a man hor...if she rejects you face to face, take it like a man and move on.
A wise old man in a kopitiam once told me this in hokkien...
" A man must die a few times in his life before he finally understands what it means to be a man"
So grow some balls and go do your thing lah
Updated: I just found out she had school and a project to pass up the week after on the last time I asked her out...
dunno I damn sway or what.... -
my question is if she likes you will she be hiding from you?
seems likes she is afarid of meeting with you and you are finding excuses for her not to meet you.
Is she really worth it?
I can teach you many methods but in the end if the gal does not like you at all, you and I could not do anything.
If you still want to go after her, I will respect your decision..
But remember always that if she reject you please respect her decision, -
Hehe, can teach? If all else fail... then I...Originally posted by drx:my question is if she likes you will she be hiding from you?
seems likes she is afarid of meeting with you and you are finding excuses for her not to meet you.
Is she really worth it?
I can teach you many methods but in the end if the gal does not like you at all, you and I could not do anything.
If you still want to go after her, I will respect your decision..
But remember always that if she reject you please respect her decision,
Yes, she is worth it, she is worth every single drop of tears and blood in my body... -
Open ur mouth to ask!! As if she is a mind-reader. Talk out... gt 50% chance. Dun tok out... KNS!! Wasting time, might as well go kopitiam la kopi.
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Open mouth just ask..
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Ask what?Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd:Open ur mouth to ask!! As if she is a mind-reader. Talk out... gt 50% chance. Dun tok out... KNS!! Wasting time, might as well go kopitiam la kopi.
I was told not to rush things...
And I said b4..I dun get to see her at all...how to do anything...I need her to come out... -
Gt HP number ritz?? SMS nvr reply... use calling function lor! Chit chat first lah! Nvr tell u so eager, open mouth immediately ask "I wana date u, pls cum out with me!" Thru tok cok, kan koe when she free liao mah!Originally posted by Big Bot:Ask what?
I was told not to rush things...
And I said b4..I dun get to see her at all...how to do anything...I need her to come out...
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Den wat time call?Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd:Gt HP number ritz?? SMS nvr reply... use calling function lor! Chit chat first lah! Nvr tell u so eager, open mouth immediately ask "I wana date u, pls cum out with me!" Thru tok cok, kan koe when she free liao mah!
Monday to sunday which day call?
Actually I call her b4...Then she ask why? why?... but I dunno how to answer.... then 'i say nth....then bye bye...
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Kai Bu Liao Kou Ruang Ta Zhi Dao....Originally posted by Big Bot:Den wat time call?
Monday to sunday which day call?
Actually I call her b4...Then she ask why? why?... but I dunno how to answer.... then 'i say nth....then bye bye...
as quoted from Jay Chou's song Kai Bu Liao Kou
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Tat u hve to ask urself. i koe nuts abt her, so i wun koe wat day and time u shld kall. Predict a time tat she will be free to entertain kalls.
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To Bot
You seem to have so much inside information about her…surely it’s not difficult to know when you can “accidentally” bump into her one day rite? I’m assuming you know her well enough for her not to mistake you for a stalker hor.
Try not to “bump” into her outside her school when she is with her mates…because if you do so, you will have the extra task of trying to isolate her from the crowd. I don’t think you have the confidence to pull that off at this point of time.
Approach her when she is aloneÂ… make eye contact straight away.
Tell her in a serious and polite manner (you are intruding her privacy when you make an approach, so be polite)
“I know it’s probably not a good time for this, we are all busy with our studies right now, but whatever I do in my life, I give a 100% so that I will not have any regrets afterwards”
Pause at this point, let her digest what you said and maintain eye contact, “I know of [insert name of a place] where we can relax after the exams, I would like to take you there. It would be fun. Would you be interested?”
Maintain eye contact throughout the conversation. She might not give you a direct answer but from her eyes and her body language, you should be able to tell whether she is interested at all.
Most importantly, there is no need to “vomit” your emotions all over the place by telling her how much you like her…she already knew. If she is really interested, she will make things easy for you.
If you get rejected, move on and donÂ’t dwell on what happened. The problem does not lie in you. You have tried your best and done your part so that you will not have any regrets about the matter. You can jolly well feel proud of yourself. -
i think you're rather weird, you have the courage to die if you cannot do without her, but u cant ask her out? you seriously need room for thinking straight.Originally posted by Big Bot:Sorry, I can't do without her, I rather die. -
Instead of asking her out on that day itself, ask which day she is free, that you two can go out together. If this way she tell you everyday she is busy, then what she is trying to say is really too obvious liao right?
Are you also having your 'A' levels? Ask if she wants to study together?
Just my $0.02
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Hi Big Bot,
If Not for your last sentence, I would've asked you to give up. However, I'm kinda disturbed by your claims of Not being able to live without her. How much do you know about her as a person, & as a gf? Chances are, whilst you may THINK you do, you don't. I might be wrong, but until you've been in a relationship with a person, it's unlikely you'll know exactly what kinda gf she's gonna be.
Still, if you're determined to be persistent, perhaps you should take note of timing when it comes to asking her for a date. As you've noted, it's close to her A's, she's Not likely to go on a date with you if she has her priorities straight. Afterall, she's still young, & there's plenty of time for her to go dating after she's made it to the uni/faculty of her choice.
You may wanna wait till after the A's, particularly if she's confident that she's done well. Try & ask her out then? You may wanna tell her you've bought tickets to a movie, but your friend couldn't make it at the last min. & you thought perhaps she'd be nice enough to help you out so your $ wouldn't be wasted.
If she still rejects your advances, then perhaps you might want to take the hint. You would still wanna preserve some form of friendship, rather than have her spell it out clearly to you what she thinks.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Big Bot:background: We used to be in the same sch and claz... but sadly we separated into different sch after graduating. I seldom tok to her, I seldom tok to anyone. Its only last year that I got her number I started SMSing her by sending forward msgs... and gd nights... she does reply frequently...
How do I ask her out? I already asked her out several times but...
1st time was during New Year, she didn't reply.
2nd time was during the 1st Monday of June holidays, she didn't reply, I did some investigations and found out she was camping the day before.
3rd time was during the 1st Sunday of June holidays, I shouldn't have asked on that day, she had her usual extra lessons on that day as usual and its not like I dunno it... she replied "She had lessons"
4th time was after Mid Year, she didn't reply again, but she forwarded me "cheer up" message on the following Monday.
5th time was right after her prelims, She said she was not free.
And i dun even get to see her at all... cos we are in different sch and hav no chance to meet...
Maybe now is not the time for her since A Levels starts in 6 weeks time... I wished I knew her schedule... but I noe from the looks of thing... she may be just lying to me that she is busy.... But I realli can't do without her... I need help, teach me how to woo her... get close to her... just dun tell me to giv up okay? -
"Hehe, can teach? If all else fail... then I...
Yes, she is worth it, she is worth every single drop of tears and blood in my body.."
I would like to declare first that the below advice is for Big Bot alone only. Please do not try to use it to as a dating guide to date gals cos is tailor made for him only.
Humm lets go back to the basic dating tatics..
Lets see why u fail.
1) Courage
Seems that u really lack a lot of it. U seems to have the guts to call her once but do not know what to say.
2) information
You have tons of it but it seems like u do not know know to use it properly.
3) dating
Girls tend to be shy and you are asking her for a one to one date so fast? no wonder she reject.
4) talking skills
Seems like you do not understand the girl well to chat with her... Is she your first target? u seems so tougue tied when u chat with her.
5) Image
how did she view you when u 2 meet in school? Did she feel comfortable looking at you? did she run away asap when she meets you in the past?
6) Finally
I want to tell me why you think you failed.
think of many possible ideas why you fail.
I need to study why you fail in order to help you out. -
Bot .. Wake up ur idea la !!Originally posted by Big Bot:Sorry, I can't do without her, I rather die.
U would rather die ??
Tell me she is more important than ur parents ??!!?
Are u kidding or what ??
U seemed liked those kind that would threaten the other party with their own lifes.. if they can't be with them...
Jus chill out those ideas ...
And as for asking for opinions, yes.. i would agree on that...
But asking directions on each and everything.. says alot on how independent you are...
Grow a mind of your own.. No offense.. -
you ought to be more realistic.Originally posted by Big Bot:Sorry, I can't do without her, I rather die. -
Come on! dun b silly can? project n exams dun need to eat or go out meh? if u r a person she would not mind hanging out with, then seriously she WILL at least sms u back or something... i dun tink a sms reply is very hard, unless she is purposely ignoring u. geddit??
