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i 1st got to know tis gal a month ago, 1st impression was that what a lian. then did not really talk to her then. however my impression of her started to change for e better after mitin up wif our grp of frens 2 weeks later. We manage to break the ice between us and all of sudden i find myself able to chat with her about almost eveything under e sun.
After chattin wif her for a few days in a row, me decide to ask her give me a chance to woo her. she gave in a positive answer then. Things was going smoothly, so i was like thinkin "hey..mayb i shd pop e qns now" well....wrong move coz she told me that she not as gd as in my pt of view n that we shd b frens only. she said that she did try to find tat kinda of feelings but fail to do so. After tat felt really down..coz really like her alot...kinda of like she always pop up in my mind.
then told my closest frens..they told me that mayb she's playin hard to get n tat i shd carry on chasing her if i like her. tats wat i did. then bought a belt that i noe she like v much, plannin to surprise her, but she found out, n ask me y i bought it for her, sayin it felt weird tat some1 bought somethin for her out of e blue. i juz reply "can't a fren buy something for e fren?" but deep down..wat i really wanted to say was "coz i stil like u." going to pass it to her in a few days time n really dunno wat response will i get from her. really can't bear to give up coz i really like her alot...
was wonderin after readin tis long story, wat do u guys view it? do u tink she playin hard to get or really no chance le...kinda confused now.. -
maybe she has no intention to get into a r/s ba..
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she likes someone else and if my advise for u is to give up on her now or learn the hard way out...
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when she dun like u, better dun push it... theres plenty other gal out there...
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her friends close with u meh?
they may be playing with u... Sometime frends want the best for her...even though it may not be what she wants. -
since U bought the gift...might as well give it to her...let her know that u are still interested but if she still dont give U any indications that u should carry on...back off...I think the most important thing is knowing when to back off and not be a pest...Originally posted by snooZ|r:i 1st got to know tis gal a month ago, 1st impression was that what a lian. then did not really talk to her then. however my impression of her started to change for e better after mitin up wif our grp of frens 2 weeks later. We manage to break the ice between us and all of sudden i find myself able to chat with her about almost eveything under e sun.
After chattin wif her for a few days in a row, me decide to ask her give me a chance to woo her. she gave in a positive answer then. Things was going smoothly, so i was like thinkin "hey..mayb i shd pop e qns now" well....wrong move coz she told me that she not as gd as in my pt of view n that we shd b frens only. she said that she did try to find tat kinda of feelings but fail to do so. After tat felt really down..coz really like her alot...kinda of like she always pop up in my mind.
then told my closest frens..they told me that mayb she's playin hard to get n tat i shd carry on chasing her if i like her. tats wat i did. then bought a belt that i noe she like v much, plannin to surprise her, but she found out, n ask me y i bought it for her, sayin it felt weird tat some1 bought somethin for her out of e blue. i juz reply "can't a fren buy something for e fren?" but deep down..wat i really wanted to say was "coz i stil like u." going to pass it to her in a few days time n really dunno wat response will i get from her. really can't bear to give up coz i really like her alot...
was wonderin after readin tis long story, wat do u guys view it? do u tink she playin hard to get or really no chance
le...kinda confused now.. -
yeah i agree....Originally posted by Xcert:since U bought the gift...might as well give it to her...let her know that u are still interested but if she still dont give U any indications that u should carry on...back off...I think the most important thing is knowing when to back off and not be a pest...
it's a thin line between "oh he wooed me once.... but no chemistry although he's a great guy" and "oh he wooed me once.... Really annoying, won't take no for an answer. i think he stalked me before..."
really thin line.
IF you really like her, give the gift to her. let her know that you still like her but am willing to be her friend for now. meanwhile BE her friend. if she's touched she'll let u know -
Originally posted by snooZ|r:i 1st got to know tis gal a month ago, 1st impression was that what a lian. then did not really talk to her then. however my impression of her started to change for e better after mitin up wif our grp of frens 2 weeks later. We manage to break the ice between us and all of sudden i find myself able to chat with her about almost eveything under e sun.
After chattin wif her for a few days in a row, me decide to ask her give me a chance to woo her. she gave in a positive answer then. Things was going smoothly, so i was like thinkin "hey..mayb i shd pop e qns now" well....wrong move coz she told me that she not as gd as in my pt of view n that we shd b frens only. she said that she did try to find tat kinda of feelings but fail to do so. After tat felt really down..coz really like her alot...kinda of like she always pop up in my mind.
then told my closest frens..they told me that mayb she's playin hard to get n tat i shd carry on chasing her if i like her. tats wat i did. then bought a belt that i noe she like v much, plannin to surprise her, but she found out, n ask me y i bought it for her, sayin it felt weird tat some1 bought somethin for her out of e blue. i juz reply "can't a fren buy something for e fren?" but deep down..wat i really wanted to say was "coz i stil like u." going to pass it to her in a few days time n really dunno wat response will i get from her. really can't bear to give up coz i really like her alot...
was wonderin after readin tis long story, wat do u guys view it? do u tink she playin hard to get or really no chance le...kinda confused now..
Only a month of knowing her and you declare every single thing that render you so naked emotionally?
Everything is happening too fast; you can't blame her for being defensive and reject your advances. Being hard to get... is not really the correct term here cause if I was her, I will probably prefer to know someone better before deciding on anything. And this stand applies to many people out there - reason being insurance.
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i think she not playing hard to get, juz stop trying to chase her, cuz she already to tell you that she cannot find the feelings... if she really playing hard to get then she will try to talk to you again in the end after you ignore her for awhile/..
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Girls like that don't know how to be direct in fear of hurting you. I suggest you take the hint and move back a few steps. I know its hard because you like her, but for now I think just try to resume to normal, and if she really is worthy of your feelings, she'll initiate further contact. Otherwise, should be pretty obvious she's not interested.