My best friend or I think its my best friend...
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Its not really problem, just a...
See, I have this, I don't want to label him as my best friend, but its a fact, that he is my best friend. I confine in him, share our interests, he gets me to go out with the group even when the others didn't invite me.
But the truth is I don't really like him.
Perhaps I am an ungrateful guy? I knew him for many years already. Initial, I didn't really liked him, he didn't looked very normal, he feels low class to me, has bad breath, and likes to sprout nonsence till it looks very logical. Not that I am a no-nonsence guy, I dare say I say even more nonsence, its just that I can't stand him.
But then, he always does things that touches me. Btw, I am guy and not gay. For example, he is loyal, he would willingly quit his project group to join me becoz I didn't have a group, he would always speak up for me becoz I seldom speak up for myself and even if I did, it would be unheard.
I used to avoid him but he would always get close to me, no he is not gay, there is a girl he likes... I gradually learned to accept him even though I must say we have completely different mindsets and we always dun agree with each other. He more honest and righteous and I am more on the dark side, not tat dark, just normal human mindset. Example, he doesn't have the word "lust" in his dictionary like most of us hav.
Sometimes, I tok to him, I wonder if its me that hasn't seen the world or its him that hasn't seen the world. In practical terms, he sees the world more than me, coz he's more sociable, but I can't help but feel he is very conservative and I am more open...
I dunno wats the prob, it just feels uneasy... -
Are you coming out of the closet?
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hehe if you do not realise it that he is indeed your best friend..
cos from the way u speak i can feel that he is very close to you.
try to accept him more ....humans are full of flaws thats what make them unqiue// -
I know how you feel. I was in the same situation.
I have a very good buddy when I was taking my diploma. We never let each other down. No matter wat we always produce projects & results together and we made it through to get out diploma.
But when not involving school life...we have nothing much in common.
Same goes to my working buddy. we work very well hand in hand...ppl see us as an unbeatbale pair...but we have nothing else to talk about other than work...
Perhaps I am a freak in life, except I am a good partner and team player.
When not involving work or studies, I act alone...
I can only say...when you can help him in any way, repay his kindness... -
Never easy to get a GOOD frenz... argument or different ideas is bound to have... Do not try to break such frenzship, frenz r easy to get, but a frenz to share ur sorrow and difficulties, helping u along th eway is very tough to grab.
I gt a guy and girl as my best frenz... argue a lot, yet still close!!
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He's a friend? Help to groom him a bit and teach him a little of personal hygiene in a polite manner?Originally posted by Big Bot:Its not really problem, just a...
See, I have this, I don't want to label him as my best friend, but its a fact, that he is my best friend. I confine in him, share our interests, he gets me to go out with the group even when the others didn't invite me.
But the truth is I don't really like him. Perhaps I am an ungrateful guy? I knew him for many years already. Initial, I didn't really liked him, he didn't looked very normal, he feels low class to me, has bad breath, and likes to sprout nonsence till it looks very logical. Not that I am a no-nonsence guy, I dare say I say even more nonsence, its just that I can't stand him.
But then, he always does things that touches me. Btw, I am guy and not gay. For example, he is loyal, he would willingly quit his project group to join me becoz I didn't have a group, he would always speak up for me becoz I seldom speak up for myself and even if I did, it would be unheard.
I used to avoid him but he would always get close to me, no he is not gay, there is a girl he likes... I gradually learned to accept him even though I must say we have completely different mindsets and we always dun agree with each other. He more honest and righteous and I am more on the dark side, not tat dark, just normal human mindset. Example, he doesn't have the word "lust" in his dictionary like most of us hav.
Sometimes, I tok to him, I wonder if its me that hasn't seen the world or its him that hasn't seen the world. In practical terms, he sees the world more than me, coz he's more sociable, but I can't help but feel he is very conservative and I am more open...
I dunno wats the prob, it just feels uneasy... -
well everyone is different. that's a fact. it is good that you do not see eye to eye about everything. that way you'll have more to talk about. you'll be able to see what other ppl thinks...Originally posted by Big Bot:Its not really problem, just a...
See, I have this, I don't want to label him as my best friend, but its a fact, that he is my best friend. I confine in him, share our interests, he gets me to go out with the group even when the others didn't invite me.
But the truth is I don't really like him. Perhaps I am an ungrateful guy? I knew him for many years already. Initial, I didn't really liked him, he didn't looked very normal, he feels low class to me, has bad breath, and likes to sprout nonsence till it looks very logical. Not that I am a no-nonsence guy, I dare say I say even more nonsence, its just that I can't stand him.
But then, he always does things that touches me. Btw, I am guy and not gay. For example, he is loyal, he would willingly quit his project group to join me becoz I didn't have a group, he would always speak up for me becoz I seldom speak up for myself and even if I did, it would be unheard.
I used to avoid him but he would always get close to me, no he is not gay, there is a girl he likes... I gradually learned to accept him even though I must say we have completely different mindsets and we always dun agree with each other. He more honest and righteous and I am more on the dark side, not tat dark, just normal human mindset. Example, he doesn't have the word "lust" in his dictionary like most of us hav.
Sometimes, I tok to him, I wonder if its me that hasn't seen the world or its him that hasn't seen the world. In practical terms, he sees the world more than me, coz he's more sociable, but I can't help but feel he is very conservative and I am more open...
I dunno wats the prob, it just feels uneasy...
My best friend and I does not see eye to eye on certain things too and we have fun debating about it... if you have a friend that agrees with everything and thinks the same in every way as you, you'll be bored and probably wont hang out as often. -
U are a lucky prick to hav such a loyal fren stickin to ya... u shld be grateful instead!
what's there 2 trouble? everyone has their unique shortcomings or some bad habits... u are not perfect either..
i hav a old fren i know for 12 yrs... he nv ever call me 2 hang out, he smoke drink visit prostitute & scolds his mom vuglarity... but i stil value him as a fren cos of his only virtue "Loyalty"...
Once i gt into troublle with some scumsbags &called him 4 help, he straightaway rush down with a lorry of gang members to save me... -
I think you like him very much as a friend...based on what you have wrote here.Originally posted by Big Bot:Its not really problem, just a...
See, I have this, I don't want to label him as my best friend, but its a fact, that he is my best friend. I confine in him, share our interests, he gets me to go out with the group even when the others didn't invite me.
But the truth is I don't really like him. Perhaps I am an ungrateful guy? I knew him for many years already. Initial, I didn't really liked him, he didn't looked very normal, he feels low class to me, has bad breath, and likes to sprout nonsence till it looks very logical. Not that I am a no-nonsence guy, I dare say I say even more nonsence, its just that I can't stand him.
But then, he always does things that touches me. Btw, I am guy and not gay. For example, he is loyal, he would willingly quit his project group to join me becoz I didn't have a group, he would always speak up for me becoz I seldom speak up for myself and even if I did, it would be unheard.
I used to avoid him but he would always get close to me, no he is not gay, there is a girl he likes... I gradually learned to accept him even though I must say we have completely different mindsets and we always dun agree with each other. He more honest and righteous and I am more on the dark side, not tat dark, just normal human mindset. Example, he doesn't have the word "lust" in his dictionary like most of us hav.
Sometimes, I tok to him, I wonder if its me that hasn't seen the world or its him that hasn't seen the world. In practical terms, he sees the world more than me, coz he's more sociable, but I can't help but feel he is very conservative and I am more open...
I dunno wats the prob, it just feels uneasy...
But you do not know if he also treats you as his best friend or not. So this puzzling question-mark will sometimes make you feel like you don't like him that much. And I'm not suggesting that you're gay, so don't get me wrong.
Simple...just keep a distance from him for a while and observe him. It can be physically keeping a distance or it can be keeping a distance from his friendship...up to you to decide which one is more appropriate. The reason for keeping a distance from him for a while is to take a step back to see if he's treating you as his best friend or not...and you will also be able to see his intentions clearly. And I'm not telling you to ignore him ok? Do the above and you'll be able to get the answers you seeks in 3 weeks or less if both of you see each other everyday. Remember to make your own decision after that, and trust your own instinct.
One more advice for you...remove all your expectations of your friends and don't have expectations for them. Cos they will definitely disappoint you one way or the other and you're going to waste your moods and frustrations dwelling on it. Just thought that it'll make you happier in the future.
Good Luck. -
'Zhen Xi' the friendship. Once gone, its hard to get it back.
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coz u are not accepting him for what he is?
if he has bad breadth, juz let him know about it.. and offer advice on what he can do about it?
back in my ITE days, every class sure have someone like that.. looks normal or handicapped in certain ways.. but definitely an 'outcast' to the other classmates. But then it's always these people that give us a deep impression and bring back memories, isn't it? -
despising a friend. wow....
i'll get back to you once i figured out a way not to despise someone who despises a friend. -
Hey man, l can only say this... if u really gonna treasure him as a friend, help him change his flaws and at the same time, change urself for the better. I have a friend, we know each other since primany school days. We r more or less opposite from each other too. l am a devoted person, he is a flirt. but one thing is we help each other out...
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if you don't like him just avoid him.
one day you'll not be able to bear putting up with him anyway
better sooner than later. -
all i can say is, i can never be friends with people that are like me.
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you seems to be jealous of him or you are distorting the facts as you are contradicting yourself all the way in the message Read the message you have post do you really know what you are posting ?
Jealous Or Pure ............. -
hi bigbot, it doesn't truly matter what you call him. a soulmate, a best friend, a pest... what matters more is if you feel if he's truly someone u could talk to, someone u can trust much, someone whom u can entrust...
think about it, and take your time.