since cant solve things then better not to make each other suffer... 3yr is long... definitely will have the good old times... let it be since he wanted out for watever reason he see... move on? admit its over n start making new plans for tomorrow... get some friends out for shop or chat... good luck...Originally posted by babyreyes:a river now.
he decided to leave le. He felt tat theres no way to solve our current problems. But i dont feel the same as him.
we decided to give things another go. However, due to our misunderstandings and expectations of each other(too eager for thigns to improve), Our r/s suffered another severe blow. Im so sad now.
I love him very much. I always tot he will never leave no matter wat.
Even though we cleared our misunderstandings, he still wishes to leave.
im very sad now........how do i move on?
he has been in my life for 3 yrs. Everything reminds me of him nows. sobs.
/patz babyreyes' head...Originally posted by babyreyes:a river now.
he decided to leave le. He felt tat theres no way to solve our current problems. But i dont feel the same as him.
we decided to give things another go. However, due to our misunderstandings and expectations of each other(too eager for thigns to improve), Our r/s suffered another severe blow. Im so sad now.
I love him very much. I always tot he will never leave no matter wat.
Even though we cleared our misunderstandings, he still wishes to leave.
im very sad now........how do i move on?
he has been in my life for 3 yrs. Everything reminds me of him nows. sobs.
/pats pats devil's head..Originally posted by Devil1976:/patz babyreyes' head...
One day you'll look back... And understand that all these are just part and parcel of life... Since he has decided to let you go, why don't you let him go too...? Look around you.. Look around things... There're better things to look at and look forward to...And YOU KNOW THAT...
Originally posted by babyreyes:a river now.
he decided to leave le. He felt tat theres no way to solve our current problems. But i dont feel the same as him.
we decided to give things another go. However, due to our misunderstandings and expectations of each other(too eager for thigns to improve), Our r/s suffered another severe blow. Im so sad now.
I love him very much. I always tot he will never leave no matter wat.
Even though we cleared our misunderstandings, he still wishes to leave.
im very sad now........how do i move on?
he has been in my life for 3 yrs. Everything reminds me of him nows. sobs.
Originally posted by alexkusu:/pats pats devil's head..
good boy...givin sensible advise this time![]()
i miss him a lot..sobs..my heart still bleeding...Originally posted by drx:care to share what happen in a bit of detail?
I did give him space. The only thing i wasnt happy about is that he makes plans with his frens and didnt let me know until the very last min. Most of the time i wld leave my wkends free for him.Originally posted by drx:hi babyreyes thanks for sharing...
i will list the problems to your relationship ..
1) you love your bf a lot to the extend of gripping him so hard that he had no personal space .. sorry hor from your passage i can feel the heat from u too... and i understand waht your bf is going through...
2) love is about trust, not about holding him so close by your side all the time...if he wants to run he can run anytime but if you can change your mindset and trust him a little more then maybe your relationship can be saved,
3) he is still young and do not wish to settle down with you yet he still wants to play..he thought he could have the same kind of freedom he have when he is with you...but soon found out that relationship is too much work to maintain.
4) i understand u love your guy with heart and soul. i am willing to vouch for that. But you totally forget a few things which make a good relationship
a) freedom - you never give him the space he needs for his friends.
b) trust - you never trust him that he is with his friend and you are always thinking that she is with another gal.
c) understanding - when he told u that his hp has low batt means he really have low batt.. i also kena this myself before and i know how painfull it is not to call my love one...
d) independance - he expects you to lead your own life style and not constantly sticking so close to him... you should plan your life ,like studies, dreams and outing with your friends....
Can u ask your self honestly if you can change your mindset and not grip him so tightly? Ask yourself why your bf should return to you? Can you seriously say that u can change and trust your bf more and not cling on to him so closely?
if you can change then my advise for you is to go back to him say you are sorry and show to him that you are willing to work hard to prove it to him that you can change.
If you still cannot change your mindset then you had better let him go. I know your heart feels hurt but is better then to see him suffer and betray u in the end.
It's TIME to LET GO.....Originally posted by babyreyes:I did give him space. The only thing i wasnt happy about is that he makes plans with his frens and didnt let me know until the very last min. Most of the time i wld leave my wkends free for him.
And if he is going out with his frens, he could kindly let me know earlier and not wait till the day itself to let me know.I feel very upset especially when our r/s hasnt been gd and i really wanted to meet up with him to rekindle our love.
Its not that i m dependent on him. I do have my own circle of friends.But he is my bf so naturally i gave him the priority. Even if my frens ask me out, i would let him know a day or two earlier so he can plan wat to do for his wkends.
Its not that i do not trust him. I do.I know he wont be hte kind who will cheat on me. I dont really know his army frens well. Not sure what htey do all the time too. He didnt feed me any information at all. And never liked sharing with me wat they do during their outings. I just casually asked what htey do all the time and he just said chit chat. Sometimes he just didnt say anything.
I often misudnerstood him especially when he likes to keep mum about everything. I told him that if he has anythign that he wasnt happy with, he could let me know. But usually he kept quiet and most of hte time i have to tell him how i feel if he does this this this that that htat. But still he kept quiet. And his silence drove me crazy.
he is a very very quiet person. haix.
He never lets me know wats bothering him. So sometimes i just have to guess here nt here. Never really shared his thoughts with me. Then i just have to try to cheer him up all the time not knowing wats wrong with him.
I know i have my flaws too. But hte recent months, i have changed myself. but still....
Very true... I love what u've said!Originally posted by Apollo_sg:what's with this exchange for happiness stuff all about? u think buy duck egg liaoz wanna change goose eggs arh?
u mean the whole world only he got happiness to trade with you? happiness n sadness is what you will find if u seek.
put him pass urself and u will find happiness immediately.
hold to him and u will hold to more misery. yes, tat has a compound interest effect.
my thoughts exactly... in my first relationship. decided i could never be the same without him...Originally posted by babyreyes:i dont know how to let go of him..
theres no hatred...no negative feelings.....he didnt let me down....
i really miss him alot. sobs.
ive been telling myself not to think about him le
but everytime b4 i fall asleep, the moment i close my eyes, i saw him.
sometimes i woke up int he middle of hte nite to cry.
im so miserable.
If we have to part one day, why must we meet in the 1st place?
Originally posted by babyreyes:Well sometimes parting can be painful... but remember that every man will die but he/she still is being born into this world... same things applies here one day your bf will leave you in search of better happiness... but unlike dieing you can still have another chance to find another happiness it's about you giving yourself this chance to open up to new happiness cheers
i dont know how to let go of him..
theres no hatred...no negative feelings.....he didnt let me down....
i really miss him alot. sobs.
ive been telling myself not to think about him le
but everytime b4 i fall asleep, the moment i close my eyes, i saw him.
sometimes i woke up int he middle of hte nite to cry.
im so miserable.
If we have to part one day, why must we meet in the 1st place?