things came to an end
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a river now.
he decided to leave le. He felt tat theres no way to solve our current problems. But i dont feel the same as him.
we decided to give things another go. However, due to our misunderstandings and expectations of each other(too eager for thigns to improve), Our r/s suffered another severe blow. Im so sad now.
I love him very much. I always tot he will never leave no matter wat.
Even though we cleared our misunderstandings, he still wishes to leave.
im very sad now........how do i move on?
he has been in my life for 3 yrs. Everything reminds me of him nows. sobs. -
since cant solve things then better not to make each other suffer... 3yr is long... definitely will have the good old times... let it be since he wanted out for watever reason he see... move on? admit its over n start making new plans for tomorrow... get some friends out for shop or chat... good luck...Originally posted by babyreyes: a river now.
he decided to leave le. He felt tat theres no way to solve our current problems. But i dont feel the same as him.
we decided to give things another go. However, due to our misunderstandings and expectations of each other(too eager for thigns to improve), Our r/s suffered another severe blow. Im so sad now.
I love him very much. I always tot he will never leave no matter wat.
Even though we cleared our misunderstandings, he still wishes to leave.
im very sad now........how do i move on?
he has been in my life for 3 yrs. Everything reminds me of him nows. sobs. -
/patz babyreyes' head...Originally posted by babyreyes: a river now.
he decided to leave le. He felt tat theres no way to solve our current problems. But i dont feel the same as him.
we decided to give things another go. However, due to our misunderstandings and expectations of each other(too eager for thigns to improve), Our r/s suffered another severe blow. Im so sad now.
I love him very much. I always tot he will never leave no matter wat.
Even though we cleared our misunderstandings, he still wishes to leave.
im very sad now........how do i move on?
he has been in my life for 3 yrs. Everything reminds me of him nows. sobs.
One day you'll look back... And understand that all these are just part and parcel of life... Since he has decided to let you go, why don't you let him go too...? Look around you.. Look around things... There're better things to look at and look forward to...
And YOU KNOW THAT... -
/pats pats devil's head..Originally posted by Devil1976:/patz babyreyes' head...
One day you'll look back... And understand that all these are just part and parcel of life... Since he has decided to let you go, why don't you let him go too...? Look around you.. Look around things... There're better things to look at and look forward to... And YOU KNOW THAT...
good boy...givin sensible advise this time -
care to share what happen in a bit of detail?
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breakups hurt. give yourself some time gal. dun need to force yourself to forget one. let yourself think of him. to cry over him.
just make sure it doesnt last too long... -
love suxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Wasted Time by Eagles... the lyrics of this song... really strike a chord in my heart when I ended a 3 yr relationship a few years ago.
Well baby, there you stand
With your little head, down in your hand
Oh, my god, you canÂ’t believe itÂ’s happening
Again
Your babyÂ’s gone, and youÂ’re all alone
And it looks like the end.
And youÂ’re back out on the street.
And youÂ’re tryinÂ’ to remember.
How will you start it over?
You donÂ’t know what became.
You donÂ’t care much for a strangerÂ’s touch,
But you canÂ’t hold your man.
You never thought youÂ’d be alone this far
Down the line
And I know whatÂ’s been on your mind
YouÂ’re afraid itÂ’s all been wasted time
The autumn leaves have got you thinking
About the first time that you fell
You didnÂ’t love the boy too much, no, no
You just loved the boy too well, farewell
So you live from day to day, and you dream
About tomorrow, oh.
And the hours go by like minutes
And the shadows come to stay
So you take a little something to
Make them go away
And I could have done so many things, baby
If I could only stop my mind from wondrinÂ’ what
I left behind and from worrying Â’bout this wasted time
Ooh, another love has come and gone
Ooh, and the years keep rushing on
I remember what you told me before you went out on your own:
Â’sometimes to keep it together, we got to leave it alone.Â’
So you can get on with your search, baby, and I can
Get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find , that it wasnÂ’t really
Wasted time -
Originally posted by babyreyes: a river now.
he decided to leave le. He felt tat theres no way to solve our current problems. But i dont feel the same as him.
we decided to give things another go. However, due to our misunderstandings and expectations of each other(too eager for thigns to improve), Our r/s suffered another severe blow. Im so sad now.
I love him very much. I always tot he will never leave no matter wat.
Even though we cleared our misunderstandings, he still wishes to leave.
im very sad now........how do i move on?
he has been in my life for 3 yrs. Everything reminds me of him nows. sobs.
/me pat pat
Cheers -
Originally posted by alexkusu:/pats pats devil's head..
good boy...givin sensible advise this time 
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i miss him a lot..sobs..my heart still bleeding...Originally posted by drx:care to share what happen in a bit of detail?
The guy who helped me love again is the same guy who left me in the cold.
He just felt that he doesnt know how to handle bgr r/s well and decided to be single. We did have misunderstandings. Though we cleared those misunderstandings, he didnt wish to turn back.
I felt our current problem still could be solved. It just nds a little more paitence and sacrifice. He didnt wish to sacrifice. He just didnt like to tell me what he is doing.
The nite b4 we quarrelled over a misunderstanding. I called him many times but he didnt answer it. Then he told me his hp low batt. i told him to charge hte phone. But he didnt. I didnt know tat he was outside then. Tats 12am in the nite. I waited till 2am for him to reply me.yea..i got really upset. I tot he didnt wanna reply me at all.
I decided to kiss n make up the next day. But when i woke up in the morning to call him, then he ended the r.s. And tats when i realised that he was acutally out hte whole nite. Such misunderstandings could be prevented. haix. Its not tat i want him to tell me everything in details. At least let me know for courtesy sake.
Sometimes he plans to meet his frens without telling me. Mostly wkends we meet up. So i assumed he would be meeting me. and most of the time he told me tat he wasnt free at the last min. sigh.
drx...me dont understand...
me love a guy with my heart n soul..never been unfaithful....yet everytime my heart and r/s head for a downfall. -
Its rather obvious already that you carried very little importance to him. Its better to let him go. Its take time to really willing to let go after you think it through.
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Is he the type who won't burden his gf with his problems and the best thing to do is to break off and not get her involved so he can concentrate and settle the problem by himself?
He loves you but doesn't want to get you burdened with his problems?
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hi babyreyes thanks for sharing...
i will list the problems to your relationship ..
1) you love your bf a lot to the extend of gripping him so hard that he had no personal space .. sorry hor from your passage i can feel the heat from u too... and i understand waht your bf is going through...
2) love is about trust, not about holding him so close by your side all the time...if he wants to run he can run anytime but if you can change your mindset and trust him a little more then maybe your relationship can be saved,
3) he is still young and do not wish to settle down with you yet he still wants to play..he thought he could have the same kind of freedom he have when he is with you...but soon found out that relationship is too much work to maintain.
4) i understand u love your guy with heart and soul. i am willing to vouch for that. But you totally forget a few things which make a good relationship
a) freedom - you never give him the space he needs for his friends.
b) trust - you never trust him that he is with his friend and you are always thinking that she is with another gal.
c) understanding - when he told u that his hp has low batt means he really have low batt.. i also kena this myself before and i know how painfull it is not to call my love one...
d) independance - he expects you to lead your own life style and not constantly sticking so close to him... you should plan your life ,like studies, dreams and outing with your friends....
Can u ask your self honestly if you can change your mindset and not grip him so tightly? Ask yourself why your bf should return to you? Can you seriously say that u can change and trust your bf more and not cling on to him so closely?
if you can change then my advise for you is to go back to him say you are sorry and show to him that you are willing to work hard to prove it to him that you can change.
If you still cannot change your mindset then you had better let him go. I know your heart feels hurt but is better then to see him suffer and betray u in the end. -
Bin wrote : love suxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
What a reply. If love sucks, you must have a thing for hatred. I suggest you shoot yourself. Pretty soon, you'll grow a beard and make news. -
I did give him space. The only thing i wasnt happy about is that he makes plans with his frens and didnt let me know until the very last min. Most of the time i wld leave my wkends free for him.Originally posted by drx:hi babyreyes thanks for sharing...
i will list the problems to your relationship ..
1) you love your bf a lot to the extend of gripping him so hard that he had no personal space .. sorry hor from your passage i can feel the heat from u too... and i understand waht your bf is going through...
2) love is about trust, not about holding him so close by your side all the time...if he wants to run he can run anytime but if you can change your mindset and trust him a little more then maybe your relationship can be saved,
3) he is still young and do not wish to settle down with you yet he still wants to play..he thought he could have the same kind of freedom he have when he is with you...but soon found out that relationship is too much work to maintain.
4) i understand u love your guy with heart and soul. i am willing to vouch for that. But you totally forget a few things which make a good relationship
a) freedom - you never give him the space he needs for his friends.
b) trust - you never trust him that he is with his friend and you are always thinking that she is with another gal.
c) understanding - when he told u that his hp has low batt means he really have low batt.. i also kena this myself before and i know how painfull it is not to call my love one...
d) independance - he expects you to lead your own life style and not constantly sticking so close to him... you should plan your life ,like studies, dreams and outing with your friends....
Can u ask your self honestly if you can change your mindset and not grip him so tightly? Ask yourself why your bf should return to you? Can you seriously say that u can change and trust your bf more and not cling on to him so closely?
if you can change then my advise for you is to go back to him say you are sorry and show to him that you are willing to work hard to prove it to him that you can change.
If you still cannot change your mindset then you had better let him go. I know your heart feels hurt but is better then to see him suffer and betray u in the end.
And if he is going out with his frens, he could kindly let me know earlier and not wait till the day itself to let me know.I feel very upset especially when our r/s hasnt been gd and i really wanted to meet up with him to rekindle our love.
Its not that i m dependent on him. I do have my own circle of friends.But he is my bf so naturally i gave him the priority. Even if my frens ask me out, i would let him know a day or two earlier so he can plan wat to do for his wkends.
Its not that i do not trust him. I do.I know he wont be hte kind who will cheat on me. I dont really know his army frens well. Not sure what htey do all the time too. He didnt feed me any information at all. And never liked sharing with me wat they do during their outings. I just casually asked what htey do all the time and he just said chit chat. Sometimes he just didnt say anything.
I often misudnerstood him especially when he likes to keep mum about everything. I told him that if he has anythign that he wasnt happy with, he could let me know. But usually he kept quiet and most of hte time i have to tell him how i feel if he does this this this that that htat. But still he kept quiet. And his silence drove me crazy.
he is a very very quiet person. haix.
He never lets me know wats bothering him. So sometimes i just have to guess here nt here. Never really shared his thoughts with me. Then i just have to try to cheer him up all the time not knowing wats wrong with him.
I know i have my flaws too. But hte recent months, i have changed myself. but still.... -
It's TIME to LET GO.....Originally posted by babyreyes:I did give him space. The only thing i wasnt happy about is that he makes plans with his frens and didnt let me know until the very last min. Most of the time i wld leave my wkends free for him.
And if he is going out with his frens, he could kindly let me know earlier and not wait till the day itself to let me know.I feel very upset especially when our r/s hasnt been gd and i really wanted to meet up with him to rekindle our love.
Its not that i m dependent on him. I do have my own circle of friends.But he is my bf so naturally i gave him the priority. Even if my frens ask me out, i would let him know a day or two earlier so he can plan wat to do for his wkends.
Its not that i do not trust him. I do.I know he wont be hte kind who will cheat on me. I dont really know his army frens well. Not sure what htey do all the time too. He didnt feed me any information at all. And never liked sharing with me wat they do during their outings. I just casually asked what htey do all the time and he just said chit chat. Sometimes he just didnt say anything.
I often misudnerstood him especially when he likes to keep mum about everything. I told him that if he has anythign that he wasnt happy with, he could let me know. But usually he kept quiet and most of hte time i have to tell him how i feel if he does this this this that that htat. But still he kept quiet. And his silence drove me crazy.
he is a very very quiet person. haix.
He never lets me know wats bothering him. So sometimes i just have to guess here nt here. Never really shared his thoughts with me. Then i just have to try to cheer him up all the time not knowing wats wrong with him.
I know i have my flaws too. But hte recent months, i have changed myself. but still....
/Patz babyreyes' head...
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3 years is not wasted... you have learnt alot from each other right? also this is one relationship you can cherish, even if it is in your heart.
he may not be the one for you after all.
as you go on into other relationships, you may find someone more right for you, someone you love more than.
whether you find this someone, you wont know until you try.
so start trying. -
im willing to give my life away in exchange for his happiness...
willing to do anything..
if he finds happiness without me, i rather be alone....though i still love him n miss him. -
what's with this exchange for happiness stuff all about? u think buy duck egg liaoz wanna change goose eggs arh?
u mean the whole world only he got happiness to trade with you? happiness n sadness is what you will find if u seek.
put him pass urself and u will find happiness immediately.
hold to him and u will hold to more misery. yes, tat has a compound interest effect. -
Very true... I love what u've said!Originally posted by Apollo_sg:what's with this exchange for happiness stuff all about? u think buy duck egg liaoz wanna change goose eggs arh?
u mean the whole world only he got happiness to trade with you? happiness n sadness is what you will find if u seek.
put him pass urself and u will find happiness immediately.
hold to him and u will hold to more misery. yes, tat has a compound interest effect.
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well you have to face the fact that he is no longer with you and move on in life.... life can still move on without him in your life... if you truely love him pray for him that he can find his true happiness and be happy for him when he finds one... love is about watching your loved ones find happiness...
The forest out there is so vast you too have to move on.... only if you move on and your dream tree move on can both of you bump into each other and start a new life and a new love together...
So i would advise you to forget him.... you can't hide yourself in the shadows of time... forget him and move on in life... i'm sure there are other better guys out there... when you grow older and find your true love, you will come to understand that it's a part of life sometimes...
Just a quote for you by Jean-Jacques Rousseau 1712-1778:
"If you do not open your heart, others heart will always remain closed to you" -
i dont know how to let go of him..
theres no hatred...no negative feelings.....he didnt let me down....
i really miss him alot. sobs.
ive been telling myself not to think about him le
but everytime b4 i fall asleep, the moment i close my eyes, i saw him.
sometimes i woke up int he middle of hte nite to cry.
im so miserable.
If we have to part one day, why must we meet in the 1st place? -
my thoughts exactly... in my first relationship. decided i could never be the same without him...Originally posted by babyreyes:i dont know how to let go of him..
theres no hatred...no negative feelings.....he didnt let me down....
i really miss him alot. sobs.
ive been telling myself not to think about him le
but everytime b4 i fall asleep, the moment i close my eyes, i saw him.
sometimes i woke up int he middle of hte nite to cry.
im so miserable.
If we have to part one day, why must we meet in the 1st place?
then i met my second bf..... it got better...
then a third after i broke up with my second bf .....
each time i thought that i could never find someone better or i would love more...
but i did. because from every relationship, i learnt more about myself and what i want in a partner.
every relationship was an experience and a learning curve.
you can if you want to
things may be tough for now... that's just part of moving on
time can mend a broken heart... and that's speaking from experience.
dont think that you are the one who knows the problem... since this is your relationship.
all of us think that our relationship is special and different and nobody will understand the way we feel.
everyone who had a broken heart will tell you the same.
be strong. you will survive. -
Originally posted by babyreyes:
Well sometimes parting can be painful... but remember that every man will die but he/she still is being born into this world... same things applies here one day your bf will leave you in search of better happiness... but unlike dieing you can still have another chance to find another happiness it's about you giving yourself this chance to open up to new happiness cheers
i dont know how to let go of him..
theres no hatred...no negative feelings.....he didnt let me down....
i really miss him alot. sobs.
ive been telling myself not to think about him le
but everytime b4 i fall asleep, the moment i close my eyes, i saw him.
sometimes i woke up int he middle of hte nite to cry.
im so miserable.
If we have to part one day, why must we meet in the 1st place?