Trying to just find somebody to talk to
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Basically been in very bad relationship with my close group of friends, i m that type of people that people will simply forget. Nobody would really cares about my existance. Been very bore and really trying hard to find some great friends that i can hang out with or talk to.
During one of my outing with them, i told them that i was going to toilet, nobody actually remember that i went to the toilet and all of them went off it was until i called them when i return to the toilet then they remember me.
as time goes by i m not asked to any of the gathering already. i admit that i dont look good and is also fat, but do being friends really take look into consideration. Yesterday, bum into them in a pub, tat's when they suddenly remember that, "correct hor, we forgot to sms u leh" do they take into consideration on how i felt......................
After they said that, i turn my head and went off....... i really felt very hurt inside, but there's nothing much i can do............... -
my advice is to ignore them and not mix with them le unless they call you, its obvious you are not part of the group. go and look for other friendsOriginally posted by monstar83:
Basically been in very bad relationship with my close group of friends, i m that type of people that people will simply forget. Nobody would really cares about my existance. Been very bore and really trying hard to find some great friends that i can hang out with or talk to.
During one of my outing with them, i told them that i was going to toilet, nobody actually remember that i went to the toilet and all of them went off it was until i called them when i return to the toilet then they remember me.
as time goes by i m not asked to any of the gathering already. i admit that i dont look good and is also fat, but do being friends really take look into consideration. Yesterday, bum into them in a pub, tat's when they suddenly remember that, "correct hor, we forgot to sms u leh" do they take into consideration on how i felt......................
After they said that, i turn my head and went off....... i really felt very hurt inside, but there's nothing much i can do............... -
ya lor, what for forcing your way in when they have already made it so clear liao. they do not even regard you as anything.Originally posted by hisoka:my advice is to ignore them and not mix with them le unless they call you, its obvious you are not part of the group. go and look for other friends
relax man. you have just mix with one wrong group of people, doesnt mean you are lousy or whatever, and certainly not because you are fat. i am fat too but i have some great friends. -
I'm a bit confused. If they really are your "close group of friends", I doubt they would even do the things you've mentioned they did. And even if they they, they'd make up for it.
I'm an anti-social so I can't say much for myself, but from what I've seen from my other "more popular" classmates when we hang out as a group, if such incidents occur, everything's met with apologies, hard but friendly whacks on the back and then an offer to buy whatever the said person wants, as means of apology. It's all done in a very light-hearted, but sincere manner.
Also, don't worry too much about your physical appearance, that isn't all that makes a person nice to know. I know of someone who's really large and all, but he's a very pleasant, fun-loving guy who's damn optimistic and all, in the end you don't even care that he's fat. He's one of the people whom I really admire because of his spirit.
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sorry to say that ,i think u r fat n ugly,find new fend
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sorry to say...go to hell...Originally posted by bin:sorry to say that ,i think u r fat n ugly,find new fend -
make new friends..
see the various activities planned by the various groups with open invitations? just drop a message in and join in
most are very friendly people -
sheesh... its dis kind of ppl who shouldn't be surfing Aunt Agony forum n causing depression to alrdy troubled ppl.Originally posted by bin:sorry to say that ,i think u r fat n ugly,find new fend
well, u always haf us to listen to yr troubled heart -
hey! that's exactly how i feel too! so dun worry.. you are not the only one... maybe you have to make extra effort to let them notice you.. like call them up instead of waiting for them
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edit: RARRRRGH $%#^*$ing servers. Deleted my message when I tried submitting. Grrr. *makes mental note to always hit control+c before posting*
sorry to say that ,i think u r fat n ugly,find new fend
Hey, thanks for the encouragement. [/sarcasm]
monstar83: D'you have any hobbies or likes and stuff like that? From what I gather from your first entry, you don't sound like a very social person. (This is coming from someone who spends nearly all her time glued to the computer. XD; *gets whacked* ) Why not try out online friendships? If you have meeting-people-face-to-face-phobia (like me), it's a great way to start off. Join a few communities that have people who share your interests and just talk away? At least if they "forget you", you can always harass them via private messages. < -
I used to be like this too when I was in primary and secondary school. I realise after a while its not others who treated me badly but its me myself who never make myself known to others, I was too reserved and dun voice out my opinion in the conversation in a group. I was so afraid to speak out because I scare of people thinking I made a cold joke. They would forget me everywhere they go, even asking opnion also nobody will care about what I think. I start to think I am too stupid or not pretty enough thats why nobody like me enough to care about what I think.
I realise as I grow up that people forget about one's existence, its not because of any of looks or intellectual. its because theres no contribution to friends about your thinking, and you are always keeping quiet when everybody are talking and laughing, its close to invisible you will become.
Be the one to start a conversation, be the one who organise an outing. learn to give more opinion about things people say. Friends are about sharing thoughts, enjoying each other company, helping each other and more. start by observing how people converse with each other, how they get people to attract to them, how they make themself so known to people, why people enjoy talking to them.
Remember its not about looks fatness or intellectual. its just about communication. How you present yourself in talking. Attract people with your personality and be you. -
if you want to make a true friend just pm me anytime
i am overseas though .. so ..
but my friends back home and all over the world still call me and email me very regularly and vice versa -
well stay cool... i suppose those friends of yours doesn't treat you as a friend but don't worry there are also sincere people in this forum that can make friends with you
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life is never about friends.. they are only part of it..
everyone comes and goes... -
Originally posted by m)phosis:life is never about friends.. they are only part of it..
everyone comes and goes...
LONE RANGER??!!
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I agree with the others... find your new click.
sometimes certain gps of ppl just can't click.... nothing particular is wrong with any of them... the only prob is that they don't click, don't have much to say to each other, and generally don't feel comfortable with each other.
you can't blame them for not contacting you or for you not calling them in this case... cos honestly if you didn't enjoy a company of a "friend" you just got to know, will you call him/her out on outings?
they just do not happened to be your click. find some other friends -
Look at tt sadist, he only noe how to be happy when seeing other ppl suffering...Originally posted by bin:sorry to say that ,i think u r fat n ugly,find new fend
Yup, l was like Tier too. An introvert u can say. my lower secondary school days were haunt by people PRETENDING to be my friends... After 2 yrs of torture, l tell myself, l maybe a pushover, but not anymore. From there l build up my esteem and confidence even l was out and alone. After tt, l slowly found new friends...
There is no problem being fat or ugly, as it is only important tt u be happy... Smile... now where is the smily emocon 
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monstar83, looks like there's this certain bin who needs counselling, nt u...
u can join the fun events n outings here anytime... -
this is my first post in someone else's problem, but well.
i think u shldn't try too hard to force yourself into a grp of friends. firstly cause if they don't like you (or don't realli care abt), you will only look like a fool trying so desperately to get into a circle of friends, impressions r hard to change. and even if the rest of your "friends" are okie towards you. there might be someone (or a few of them) that realli hates you (human r like that, they can hate pple for no reason), then chances of you being invited to their gathering wud be xtremely slim.....
and also, if you try to make new friends, don't act cool or try to impress everyone in that new grp so quickly. just try to blend in with interest. common interests is why friends get together. (usually)...
...or you can always go with the old school style/anime-style, "can we be friends?". lolz... -
Well guess they're not even fit to be called your friends. Find a new group to chill with. Anyway it may be more of how you think of your appearance than how you actually are. If you say you're fat and stuff, why not do something constructive? I'm not in the best shape myself, so I workout to keep myself in shape. Perhaps you can start by finding a training partner, so that you can motivate each other along the way! Believe in yourself more dude!