People think im a bit stupid and clumsey :(

• haggard

  11 Oct 05, 06:06

  Hi,
  
  Im 18, and have left school this year after finishing 6th Form. My problem is that wherever i go, people get the inmpression that im a bit 'dosey' or dumb. I'm always mishearing things and making myself look stupid or clumsey infront of other people (this is especailly embarassing where i work)
  
  I worry that people take the piss behind my back, as i know they take the piss out of other people behind their backs...
  
  Its like im constantly having to remind myself, 'dont do anything stupid' all day long, but then my mind drifts and i forget and make myself look stupid again
  
  I know its probably nothing really much you can do to help as its not your 'normal' everyday-problem, but can anyone advise me how to play it cool?
  
  Would really appreciate some tips!
  
  Thanks!
  
  EDIT: Forgot to mention, i've only ever had this problem at work though...
• Apollo_sg

  11 Oct 05, 08:09

  1st - see a doctor, you may hv hearing problem. when pple communicate to you and you do not receive clear cues, there may b problems with ur sensory system.
  
  but I'm no doctor, so I can't help you further.
  
  
• smudgey

  11 Oct 05, 08:40

  relax. do not stress yourself out on this problem. concentrate on the job at hand and focus when you are at work.... that's all anyone can do
• rainee

  11 Oct 05, 08:45

  I think you are too tensed up that's why you are having all this problem at work. I also used to feel like this especially when my supervisor is around. Now I have changed shift and rarely see my supervisor, and no longer have this problem le...
  
  So I guess, no need to worry so much about others talking behind your back, just do your job well and be happy with that. We can't please everyone nor can we shut everyone's mouth
• Tier

  11 Oct 05, 09:50

  hey can understand how you feel man. when I first came out to work in the society, I am always look stupid and blur because I am so afraid to talk to people and when people explain something to me, I was so afraid that I cant remember all and have to ask them again and again to repeat themself. I guess it all the nerve in my cells, too nervous and afraid to make mistakes. Giving ownself too much stress that decrease your working capability.
  
  Its pretty normal to be like that because you are afraid to speak out for yourself. Being too tensed up could make you so stress that concentration on the day work became difficult.
  
  Try to be yourself and relax. Appearing confident and being able to speak out for yourself will make people give more respect towards you. Dont be afraid to make mistakes cause everybody do that to learn more and more. Dun use words like Maybe, I think, its should be~~ etc. Be sure of yourself by saying That is, it is. When you give the impression that you know what you want, people wouldnt try to "bully" you.
  
  And also nobody would talk behind your back, dun think too much ok. the reason for all is because you tend to think overmuch also. which cause all your stress and nervousness.
• BlUe G@rF|eLd

  11 Oct 05, 09:53

  Hw u define the way u look stupid??
  
  1 ) Do wrong ting at wrong time??
  2 ) Dressing sense? ( Personal Grooming ? )
  3 ) Work Attitude ( Slack, eat snake... )
  
  
• BadzMaro

  11 Oct 05, 10:06

  The more u think not to screw up .. you are going to screw up.
• choco B

  11 Oct 05, 10:30

  I think it's a problem of low self esteem and confidence
  
  If you think your work performance is not good enough, try being more prepared for work, like getting enough rest the night before so that you arrive at work refreshed and ready, reading up or improving your on-job skills.
• drx

  11 Oct 05, 11:07

  your problem seems to be day dreaming cos you work seems to be long and boring rite...?
  
  i see hummm
  is normal lar,,,,
• ghimpheng

  11 Oct 05, 13:37

  So you said that it only happen @ work,so what your job then.
• haggard

  12 Oct 05, 03:07

  Hi, thanks for the replies
  
  Yes my job is long and boring, so i tend to day dream alot Its usually only around certain people that i mess up... probably because of being tense, like many people have said already I guess i just need to relax more, ah well.
  
  Thanks people!
• newmanmback

  12 Oct 05, 23:16

  okay just be yourself. do your best in your work and matter not if you failed or achieved little.....there are many others who are so "confident" but only when they are in groups...alone they can't do much....then there is this guy so confident also got kicked by a stupidier person...some ppl are just trying to act smart but inside an empty basket.
• browniebaobao

  12 Oct 05, 23:33

  aiya i also v clumsy wan.. pple always say i v lun zhun..
  
  juz dun be too sensitive abt it.. the more u tell urself u cannot make mistakes, the more u will make mistakes.