Long distance relationship
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been together with a Klang(near KL) girl for 2 months. went down only twice only. we contacting each other thru phone every nite for abt 30mins to 1 hr.
sometimes i feel like giving it up. sometimes feel like it wont work out. phone conversation get more and more silent. does anyone has long distance relationship before care to share ur opinons? -
Ask "The Emperor" and "Rainee"
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Ah yes, a prime example of a pair of long distance lovebirds.Originally posted by HunterKiller86:Ask "The Emperor" and "Rainee"
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You better put in alot of effort into a relationship if you really feel that she's worth your time. When I say alot, I mean a f*cklot.
With a normal relationship, you should seek to be boyfriend and husband material at the same time. but with a long distance relationship, you got to do that and multiply that presence by almost 2 times.
To be in love is a wonderful thing, so don't ever give up because you're not physically together. It's a test, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and it does. Beyond conversations, there's video conferencing, love letter sending (see yea i know there's email, but there's nothing half as magically romantic as pen and paper; it doesn't have to be words, it can be a cute drawing, to origami). Send her gifts and presents, there are many ways to do that, you can buy in SG and send up, or you can just pick up the phone and call someone in the region to deliver and charge to your card.
Let her know you miss her, and be open with her, you know that this girl is special when you can look her in the eye and be yourself; do not be afraid to show any side of you, even you doing er xin stuff like farting or burping .. an sms periodically, once in the morning, out of the blue, just to let her know that you think of her.
Then when it comes to being reliable and secure, let her know that you'll put in all the effort in the world to make sure it works out, bring yourself down to earth and tell her to never ever leave you.
Hey I'm telling you all this not to teach you how to sian charboh ok, but do it only because you truely feel it .. but then again, in any case .. unless you truely feel that way, you probably wouldn't be able to do it anyway .. don't ever lead her on for nothing, if you don't feel that way, end it now, save yourself the time pain and trouble; and her too.
All the Best,
SupaFatty -
If you don't know how to run a LDR, it'll just run FLAT in NO TIME...Originally posted by LocalGod:been together with a Klang(near KL) girl for 2 months. went down only twice only. we contacting each other thru phone every nite for abt 30mins to 1 hr.
sometimes i feel like giving it up. sometimes feel like it wont work out. phone conversation get more and more silent. does anyone has long distance relationship before care to share ur opinons?
PS. Don't rely too much on the PHONE CALLS alone... PHONES are DEAD OBJECTS. -
supafatty just said it all.
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I completely agree, but everyone starts somewhere, so make sure you learn how to keep the flame going don't rely on anyone else.Originally posted by Devil1976:If you don't know how to run a LDR, it'll just run FLAT in NO TIME...
PS. Don't rely too much on the PHONE CALLS alone... PHONES are DEAD OBJECTS. -
so torture leh.wonder u do cyber sex on phone
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it'll work if u work at it enuf
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well you will have to put in tons of effort as long distance relationship is the hardest to maintain... but if she's the one go for it....
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today was at central library ..
saw a book "how to survive a long-distance relationship"
dont know who wrote it but flipped it and found it rather helpful...
talked about how you feel like giving up etc and how to go about maintaining the relationship.
go find it ! -
erm..... long distance hor... actually i wun do it myself, cos i know i cannot do the "absence makes the heart fonder" thing.
but for you, it will depend on whether you really love the girl, and whether you will put in triple the effort for this r/s to work out. it's going to be tough. and you have tobe prepared for it. -
effort..and lots of it..to make up for the physical absence.
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Mmm... I actually thought of writing a book on that...?Originally posted by nuchio:today was at central library ..
saw a book "how to survive a long-distance relationship"
dont know who wrote it but flipped it and found it rather helpful...
talked about how you feel like giving up etc and how to go about maintaining the relationship.
go find it !
Maybe I should start to write articles one day...? -
it work for me...
last time singapore - sabah...
now singapore - jb... -
i've been through too.Originally posted by LocalGod:been together with a Klang(near KL) girl for 2 months. went down only twice only. we contacting each other thru phone every nite for abt 30mins to 1 hr.
sometimes i feel like giving it up. sometimes feel like it wont work out. phone conversation get more and more silent. does anyone has long distance relationship before care to share ur opinons?
been with a girl at KL(Cheras) too..
never make it out well though...
lasted for 1.5 yrs and i've only visited her 6 times.
last time, been talking on long distance also, everyday for an hour. (So you can roughly work out my cost)
**sideline: i recommend using XT2 card, it seems the most affordable calling card.
well, to put you back on the real world. Is SHE or YOU are going to make a move to singapore or msia? meaning migration?
If neither of you are willing, then you can jolly well forget this relationship, find a time to go KL again, then have a talk and sort it out. DO NOT sort this kind of matter over phone. it'll be better to talk face to face on the above point. -
Absence makes the heart go yonder..Originally posted by supafatty:You better put in alot of effort into a relationship if you really feel that she's worth your time. When I say alot, I mean a f*cklot.
With a normal relationship, you should seek to be boyfriend and husband material at the same time. but with a long distance relationship, you got to do that and multiply that presence by almost 2 times.
To be in love is a wonderful thing, so don't ever give up because you're not physically together. It's a test, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and it does. Beyond conversations, there's video conferencing, love letter sending (see yea i know there's email, but there's nothing half as magically romantic as pen and paper; it doesn't have to be words, it can be a cute drawing, to origami). Send her gifts and presents, there are many ways to do that, you can buy in SG and send up, or you can just pick up the phone and call someone in the region to deliver and charge to your card.
Let her know you miss her, and be open with her, you know that this girl is special when you can look her in the eye and be yourself; do not be afraid to show any side of you, even you doing er xin stuff like farting or burping .. an sms periodically, once in the morning, out of the blue, just to let her know that you think of her.
Then when it comes to being reliable and secure, let her know that you'll put in all the effort in the world to make sure it works out, bring yourself down to earth and tell her to never ever leave you.
Hey I'm telling you all this not to teach you how to sian charboh ok, but do it only because you truely feel it .. but then again, in any case .. unless you truely feel that way, you probably wouldn't be able to do it anyway .. don't ever lead her on for nothing, if you don't feel that way, end it now, save yourself the time pain and trouble; and her too.
All the Best,
SupaFatty
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Just to share my experience with you. I have been going steady with my ex for about 3.5 years before i left for my degree overseas. Since day 1 when we are together, we are on the phone for almost 1hr everyday in S'pore. Even when i go overseas, our daily chatting session is still on-going. Everything seems so fine, till he met another gal when im about to come back 1.5 years later.
So what do you think about long distance relationship? His reason is he's kind of lonely when im not ard... -
Haha....my ai ai and me are separated by an ocean and more, but we still manage to talk to each other everyday for an hour at least. It all depends on how much effort you are willing to put into it. Of cos, the other party must be a willing participant as well...Trust and faith are very important as well, because without those the r/s would have nothing to support it and will crumble...
Try to communicate with each other everyday, if you want to save on phone bills, I recommend using skype, it is like talking to each other thru phone but it is free. Just need to download the software at www.skype.com and of cos, get yourself a mic. And better still get yourself a webcam...
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long distance never works
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not true la.. majority dun but theres still the minority tat worksOriginally posted by borgkilla:long distance never works -
cannot just generalize like dat wor...it does work for some couple...Originally posted by borgkilla:long distance never works
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True love knows no distance. Don't make the mistake to reject a girl only becasue of a distance. It's the biggest mistake ever, to reject the person who loves you and who you love too.
The distance doesn't have to last forever. If you both really love each other, then you should start to make plans how to get together. Either she moves to your place, or you move to her place, or you both move to some other place together. Everything is possible when there is the will. Good luck -
rainee is so going to prove you wrong.Originally posted by borgkilla:long distance never works