yes, professional counsellors will help to make them compromise and understand that the r/s gg dw the drain will not beneft them in the long run.Originally posted by Peanut Butter:does counselling really helps? my parents are the type who are very sensitive to other people's help. they always think that strangers are trying to cheat them or something. it might be easier if it was only my father flaring up but the problem is both of them like to get angry from time to time, thus causing all the trouble. if i have siblings, it might be easier too, but the problem is i am the only child.
i am still schooling. my parents object to me taking a part-time job because they want me to concentrate on my studies. so i have no money of my own really since i depend on allowances. i do not feel secure at all. sometimes, i am amazed that this family is still intact today.
anyway, thanks for the advice so far. i just hope nothing really bad happens.
It is ok to mediate, but 1st U must not be emotionally effected by their quarrel. Be patient and keep a calm & clear mind, try to understand wat's their quarrel about.Originally posted by Peanut Butter:hello, people, does your parents quarrel? how do you deal with it?
my parents quarrel from time to time about all kinds of stuff. it is actually okay if they just quarrel and stop after a while. what is worse is that they quarrel, then remained angry with each other for at least a week, and in the process try to irritate one another and result in more quarrels.
i want to help solve this but everytime i tried to mediate, i will be totally ignored. what shall i do?
Originally posted by Peanut Butter:hello, people, does your parents quarrel? how do you deal with it?
my parents quarrel from time to time about all kinds of stuff. it is actually okay if they just quarrel and stop after a while. what is worse is that they quarrel, then remained angry with each other for at least a week, and in the process try to irritate one another and result in more quarrels.
i want to help solve this but everytime i tried to mediate, i will be totally ignored. what shall i do?
Get them family counselling if you can? Otherwise.. If you're serious about 'mediation', START by doing SO during NORMAL TIMES... Talk about things... Spend more time together as a family doing MEANINGFUL THINGS and talk about the QUARRELS a bit... Ways to avoid or to lessen the effects...Originally posted by Peanut Butter:hello, people, does your parents quarrel? how do you deal with it?
my parents quarrel from time to time about all kinds of stuff. it is actually okay if they just quarrel and stop after a while. what is worse is that they quarrel, then remained angry with each other for at least a week, and in the process try to irritate one another and result in more quarrels.
i want to help solve this but everytime i tried to mediate, i will be totally ignored. what shall i do?
it's even worse when you have sibling and they dun join in this sort of things...Originally posted by Peanut Butter:thanks again for the advice.
i will try and see what i do. i have tried to talk to them about this but most of the time, it ends up with being "you're still young, concentrate on your studies" etc.
i can understand the love from my parents, well, i am an only child, but it does feel demoralising that i have no siblings that can join me in this sort of thing. talking to friends doesn't really help much, except that they are always glad to hear me express my thoughts and stuff. i am grateful to them for that.
luckily, the last quarrel has ended and things are slowly going back to normal. i hope it does not get worse in the future, what with all the newspaper reports about family violence etc.
Often they could be 'hidden reasons' behind such quarrels.. If you can, perhaps you could try to find out more from one of your parents whom you're closer to...? But keep an OPEN MIND about what you hear and try to be OBJECTIVE about things... This is just a step for you to BEGIN to know of some of the things which might not have been previously known to you...Originally posted by Peanut Butter:thanks again for the advice.
i will try and see what i do. i have tried to talk to them about this but most of the time, it ends up with being "you're still young, concentrate on your studies" etc.
i can understand the love from my parents, well, i am an only child, but it does feel demoralising that i have no siblings that can join me in this sort of thing. talking to friends doesn't really help much, except that they are always glad to hear me express my thoughts and stuff. i am grateful to them for that.
luckily, the last quarrel has ended and things are slowly going back to normal. i hope it does not get worse in the future, what with all the newspaper reports about family violence etc.