I wonder if there is fate in marriage?
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Do you believe in fate? I wonder if there is fate in marriage?
Some people are just so lucky in relationship, and others are just keep searching? Some are just so happy smiling and others are just crying in silence...
Do you know how we can nurture relationship to keep passion for each other? -
Certain people are fate to stay single for the rest of their life and die lonely.
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yeah like me ......Originally posted by Manager433:Certain people are fate to stay single for the rest of their life and die lonely. -
ask Fugue
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Originally posted by transaihien:Do you believe in fate? I wonder if there is fate in marriage?
Some people are just so lucky in relationship, and others are just keep searching? Some are just so happy smiling and others are just crying in silence...
Do you know how we can nurture relationship to keep passion for each other?
Everyone is constantly searching for companion and even if you are in a satisfied relationship and you long ceased the search... people search for you instead. Sourcing and temptation is part and parcel of having (not having) a relationship.
This is a constant. Your question seemed to bend towards spiritual aspect of Love, where you question about fate.
I sincerely believe that no one is destined to be alone. The word 'DESTINED' is a word not found in Western Astrology because we believe in freewill. Hence I often substitute the word 'DESTINED' to 'Tendency'. It was also commonly mention that if you manage to change your fate - you are DESTINED to change it. So it is possible to change your destiny and this word 'DESTINED' is actually a negative attitude to perceive situation, for one often adopt a passive and nonchalant way of handling things.
In all my studies and humble opinion, chances are, you have yet to grasp the full understanding of why you have landed in such plight. Please note that we all have the POWER to change any aspects in our life. This is so fringing` true - the human mind, heart and soul TOGETHER can achieve things beyond your imagination. Trouble is, most people don't know that they have the innate power to perform all that. It was believed that 'only' certain people could have it. To make things worst, we often do not know WHY it is like that and HOW to go about doing it. Other people may have NO problem with it because they discover a way/method that works for them and they understand certain logics faster than you do.
But they are human like yourself. They are not deity and do not possess supernatural powers. What they know... you have the ability to know as well.
In simple: (1) There is something that they understand and you have yet to... (2) something good that they possess and you have yet to... or (3) something negative that you have acquired unknowingly and it wasn't found on them. I cite you one good example: When I talk to people and probably share one Love theory from CloUdiSm, say, 'Love and Relationship is but two separate entity. You can love someone, but it doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship with him/her.'
Logically speaking, everyone understands this. But when you do a little application here, there will be this distinct group of people who don't understand, even logically speaking they understood (You have to think deeper... slightly chim here, but I hope you get the drift). For example, you talk to this guy who showed all the signs and symptoms of a possessive man. He is likely to be AWARE that possessiveness is a negative trait, but when circumstances trigger the natural possessive nature in him, nothing make sense to him.
This man tightened his claws because he felt that he is losing the relationship. He never stop. In fact, he tightened his grip even further as there are strong evidence that his woman is fleeing from him. His grasp gets stronger and stronger.... until the relationship snap forcefully. You can tell him ALL day that his possessiveness is killing the relationship and he retorts by saying 'So what you mean? She is running away from him and you expect me to release her by letting her do what she wants and watch her leave me?'
At the end of the day, the man still loses his woman and STILL doesn't understand anything. So I ask you people: who is at fault? Fate or personality? Freewill or destined? You think this is an impossible scenario? In fact, such cases are pretty common enough.
When we talk about marriage - how many people getting married can safely say that this marriage is the fruition of their Love? Settling down in a marriage completely born out of freewill, maturity and absolute clarity of what they want? In Singapore, almost (30%), for every three marriages, one would end up in divorce. Which goes to show that close to a third of these marriages, which adds up to more than 6000 marriages, probably doesn't know why the word 'marriage' in the first place and what Love actually means to the 12,000 odd individuals.
The truth is, most people married to circumstances, not exactly fruition of their Love, which is supposedly the ONLY reason why a marriage should ever happen.
Even our biological clock shouldn't be the FIRST pull factor into a marriage for real Love is spiritual - it transcend beyond emotional and physical realm. It's isn't surprising to hear stories of couple hastily getting into a marriage because they are not that 'young' anymore and only to see them getting divorce some years down the road because of incompatibility.
*** There are reasons why some people don't get it and why others seemed to have no problems in Love. The reason is yourself. Your chips to success in Love depends on how well you can absorb from your setbacks and to improve your future until you come to a stage where you blend reality with personal ideology principles. How well you handle your relationship and to keep the passion alive depends largely on how well you understand about your relationship, yourself, your Love and what is workable for you.
Fate in Love?
The reason is still yourself.
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be happy... wan your other to be happy...Originally posted by transaihien:Do you believe in fate? I wonder if there is fate in marriage?
Some people are just so lucky in relationship, and others are just keep searching? Some are just so happy smiling and others are just crying in silence...
Do you know how we can nurture relationship to keep passion for each other? -
But we should not lose our confident. Keep trying....Originally posted by maxcp:yeah like me ...... -
You LEARN...?Originally posted by transaihien:Do you believe in fate? I wonder if there is fate in marriage?
Some people are just so lucky in relationship, and others are just keep searching? Some are just so happy smiling and others are just crying in silence...
Do you know how we can nurture relationship to keep passion for each other?
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been trying very hard ...... after a fail marriage ... confident down to 0Originally posted by Manager433:But we should not lose our confident. Keep trying....
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Oh.....so sorry.Originally posted by maxcp:been trying very hard ...... after a fail marriage ... confident down to 0 -
its ok ..... not your faultOriginally posted by Manager433:Oh.....so sorry. -
Like, me, after three times...I have no passion for love anymore...
The first one could not wait when I was undertaking my degree overseas.
The second one I met overseas uni (during my depression because of the first one), he took another study in another country again, so long distance r/s, we decided to keep friendship...
The third one was playing the game ...I decided to leave....
The fourth one was just starting to be "close friend", I found out he had a secret r/s with a married woman???
What is life?
Now, just have no passion when a man aprroaches...Sometimes try to get the feelings in the old days back...Just dont see it at all...I've decided to be alone..enjoying my life and focus on my career...Others see you have no b/f , they say you have personal probems perhaps...But actually, I dont have any, three relations broke up in peace, no tension, it wasnt my fault as well.
Just feel sorry for those who come after...because I am so cold now...How can we get back the passion for love? Do you know? -
Dear Transaihien,
I believe in fate, otherwise how are we gonna explain things that have happened to us & Not to others? Perhaps it's the setbacks we've experienced that teach us how to treasure someone when the right 1 comes along.
People who're happy in a relationship are Not necessarily lucky. Chances are, they work damn hard to make the relationship work. In the past, the divorce statistics are Nowhere near where they are now. This phenomenon is partly attributed to the fact that people think they have better options, & are Not willing to put as much effort into their relationships anymore (who can blame their partners for giving up, then?).
I cried in silence many times before I finally found happiness in my current relationship. It's been sometime already, & I'm more in love than ever. I'm lucky that both sides work very hard to keep the fun & romance. It's 99% hard work for both parties, Not just sheer luck.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by transaihien:Do you believe in fate? I wonder if there is fate in marriage?
Some people are just so lucky in relationship, and others are just keep searching? Some are just so happy smiling and others are just crying in silence...
Do you know how we can nurture relationship to keep passion for each other? -
i think karma is a better word.
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Originally posted by dragg:i think karma is a better word.
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yeah ... those who break others ppl marriage ..... think twice b4 u act .... wat u did to others will happene to u one day ....Originally posted by dragg:i think karma is a better word. -
Very well I sympathise you.Originally posted by transaihien:Do you believe in fate? I wonder if there is fate in marriage?
Some people are just so lucky in relationship, and others are just keep searching? Some are just so happy smiling and others are just crying in silence...
Do you know how we can nurture relationship to keep passion for each other?
I believe in fate, and is very superstitious of phenomenons especially on those that affects me most. (Please refer to "unhappy with 23/10" thread.)
I am currently in the same boat: desirables are very difficult for me to get, while undesirables always come for me, even the DAMN FUCKING DMSS SEC 3, SEC 4 NA WHORES!
And so I also need help in nuturing relationship to keep passion for each other.
This help is essential for me especially upon nuturing relationships with the desirables, and to keep passion with that desirable.
And so I would appreciate if anyone here could help me out, by giving the tips and methods available.
Thank you.
SGEMP -
Dear id=maxcpOriginally posted by maxcp:been trying very hard ...... after a fail marriage ... confident down to 0
Please Stand Up! Try harder and harder with determination! DON'T GIVE UP!
A turnover would come one day when time is mature and by then your marriage would be successful forever permantly!
And so I would wish you a happy confident life, and a happy everlasting marriage.
Yours Sincerely
SGEMP -
Frankly speaking I am also looking very hard for even more desirable friend who could satisfy me, whenever every chance comes, for years, and trying to scrap and ditch the fucking bunch of fucking scumbags only to make me damn fucking unhappy.
But I do suspect that the fucking fate is playing on their fucking trick and only serve to waste my hard efforts, serve to pull the desirables away, not helping the poor, pity me, and only leaving the fucking incapable undesirables and whores for me, disappoint me everyday! Such situation sucks!
And so I need help on nurturing relationships with the desirables, and to remain the passion and interaction.
So I would appreciate if anyone here could help me.
Thank You
SGEMP -
I agree.Originally posted by Manager433:Certain people are fate to stay single for the rest of their life and die lonely.
That is why I am trying hard to change my fate.
All for my future sake.
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Originally posted by SGEMP:
Take your time to find and nurture a good friend...
Frankly speaking I am also looking very hard for even more desirable friend who could satisfy me, whenever every chance comes, for years, and trying to scrap and ditch the fucking bunch of fucking scumbags only to make me damn fucking unhappy.
[b]But I do suspect that the fucking fate is playing on their fucking trick and only serve to waste my hard efforts, serve to pull the desirables away, not helping the poor, pity me, and only leaving the fucking incapable undesirables and whores for me, disappoint me everyday! Such situation sucks!
And so I need help on nurturing relationships with the desirables, and to remain the passion and interaction.
So I would appreciate if anyone here could help me.
Thank You
SGEMP
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And understand that you play a part too... -
How?Originally posted by Devil1976:
Take your time to find and nurture a good friend...And understand that you play a part too...
Is it by having more interaction including talking with each other, and by understanding each other's background well? -
HI FeowFeow
I am happy for you... you get what you both deserve ...
For others, dont be so pepsimistic...We should enjoy our single moment now...Life is very short;
Although I am not lucky in r/s, I always smile...I set new goals for my life and move on...I am still very optimistic...I work harder and also play harder...hhihihi...Sometimes I find it better to be single you know... -
As in when you judge your friend, your friend may very well judges you...Originally posted by SGEMP:How?
Is it by having more interaction including talking with each other, and by understanding each other's background well?