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im sad.. im geting fatter..n lonier... i see all my frds attached.. giving birth and i do feel certainly lonely.. my tummy getting bigger and i eat lesser n lesser and excerise once a wk...but still have a tummy... part of the reason due to tis,, i dare not koe gals.. and owas alone... keep myself busy with work....how i wish i am more handsome and mricher and not fat.
i just wish to have someone i can go for and go out with and care for.. but nowdays charbor seems to look for handsome, rich and fit hunk,..guys like us,, owas go out alone.. and haiz.... how to lose weight... and b more outgoing? im sincere and wants to koe nice guai guai ladies to spend my life with,,but i just cant do it... esp after my last relationship....i feel so weird.... more n more like a ah pek.... -
start frm ur internal 'beauty'
oh try kao gals online..they cant see how u look so u can dazzle them with ur personality -
i am 40 years old, unemployed, single, unattached, short (1.60) and fat (75kg)Originally posted by marineguy:im sad.. im geting fatter..n lonier... i see all my frds attached.. giving birth and i do feel certainly lonely.. my tummy getting bigger and i eat lesser n lesser and excerise once a wk...but still have a tummy... part of the reason due to tis,, i dare not koe gals.. and owas alone... keep myself busy with work....how i wish i am more handsome and mricher and not fat. i just wish to have someone i can go for and go out with and care for.. but nowdays charbor seems to look for handsome, rich and fit hunk,..guys like us,, owas go out alone.. and haiz.... how to lose weight... and b more outgoing? im sincere and wants to koe nice guai guai ladies to spend my life with,,but i just cant do it... esp after my last relationship....i feel so weird.... more n more like a ah pek....
i am not good looking too.
SO WHAT? i am sure there are people who are worst on than i am. but they still continue to live. learn to live with what you have and make the best out of it.
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learn to enjoy things on your own...
What is your hobbies?
What do you like to do?
What makes you happy?
When you answer all these qns, then look for ppl your own age or with similar interest.
As in, if you like to take photos, go and take up a course where youÂ’ll be pursuing what you like and getting to know new friends tooÂ…
Key thing is to start as friends. Get to know them, show that you really care, and are not just interested in being more than friends. Be nice, be YOU!!! Unlike what you said, not all gals only go for looks. In fact most of my friends are attached to guys who are average looking but have great personalities.
I realized from personal experiences, when you go all out looking for love, it often eludes you or youÂ’ll find something that looks like love but is not love. However if you do not look for love, youÂ’ll find it in the most unexpected places. -
In life.. Its NOT about finding a gf.. Get settled down blah blah blah...
You can enjoy life even when you are single.. Go out with your single guy friends.. Socialise more.. It plays an important factor in your confidence level instead of you sulking in one cornor and hoping for money to drop from the sky.
Dare not know girls? Why not? I believe your school or work place will have female friends/colleagues.. Get to know them and talk to them.. Getting to know them does not mean that you need to get attached with them.. Maybe the right one has not come your way.
CHeer up.. Its not the end of the world..
Cheers
P.S. How you eat less and your tummy gets bigger? We are interested to know..Originally posted by marineguy:im sad.. im geting fatter..n lonier... i see all my frds attached.. giving birth and i do feel certainly lonely.. my tummy getting bigger and i eat lesser n lesser and excerise once a wk...but still have a tummy... part of the reason due to tis,, i dare not koe gals.. and owas alone... keep myself busy with work....how i wish i am more handsome and mricher and not fat. i just wish to have someone i can go for and go out with and care for.. but nowdays charbor seems to look for handsome, rich and fit hunk,..guys like us,, owas go out alone.. and haiz.... how to lose weight... and b more outgoing? im sincere and wants to koe nice guai guai ladies to spend my life with,,but i just cant do it... esp after my last relationship....i feel so weird.... more n more like a ah pek.... -
he drinks?
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notice u focus a lot on looks. why should that be on your agenda? are you a teen??
instead, focus on attaining inner peace and peace with the world. go with the flow and heck about not having a gf. it's not all there is to life... hope you attain enlightenment soon..
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your advice very divine.Originally posted by starblue:notice u focus a lot on looks. why should that be on your agenda? are you a teen?? instead, focus on attaining inner peace and peace with the world. go with the flow and heck about not having a gf. it's not all there is to life... hope you attain enlightenment soon..
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tat shows u no understand the psychology of the desparates and the have-notsOriginally posted by starblue:notice u focus a lot on looks. why should that be on your agenda? are you a teen?? instead, focus on attaining inner peace and peace with the world. go with the flow and heck about not having a gf. it's not all there is to life... hope you attain enlightenment soon..
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Man... u have this defeated attitude.. u aint gonna get NO ONE!
I give u some tipsy..confirm boost your morale .. mind n body. I cannot gurantee u gonna look like Takashiro or what.. but yeah.
1)Get that defeatist attitude away.. start going gym to de-stress. It de0stresses. SO what if u got no friends to go gym with..HEY! 50 % of the ppl there go themselves!
2)Boost ur morale by telling urself u are not the only loser out there. So what if ur friends are all happy, attached n handsome. U live a healthy life..earn ur money.. in maybe 20 yrs time..half of them will die of cancer n most of them wont look so good anymore..but u still got 1 thing.. $$$$
3)YES MONEY IS EVERYTHING! 50 yrs old n rich like a mofo..u can have any chick u want k.. so what if u are fat n ugly.. this f*ked up word..money can buy u almost everything. I stress ALMOST.. about 90% he he he...
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The O lvl 'nia' guy speaks.Originally posted by sgboy2004:tat shows u no understand the psychology of the desparates and the have-nots
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The most most most practical advice. To me, is not about correcting your self confidence and esteem or even mindset.Originally posted by marineguy:im sad.. im geting fatter..n lonier... i see all my frds attached.. giving birth and i do feel certainly lonely.. my tummy getting bigger and i eat lesser n lesser and excerise once a wk...but still have a tummy... part of the reason due to tis,, i dare not koe gals.. and owas alone... keep myself busy with work....how i wish i am more handsome and mricher and not fat. i just wish to have someone i can go for and go out with and care for.. but nowdays charbor seems to look for handsome, rich and fit hunk,..guys like us,, owas go out alone.. and haiz.... how to lose weight... and b more outgoing? im sincere and wants to koe nice guai guai ladies to spend my life with,,but i just cant do it... esp after my last relationship....i feel so weird.... more n more like a ah pek....
You should start -
Exercise more regularly
Get to go outings more and mix with people, get your social life going.
Draw a line between work and personal well being, it's healthier.
Handsome, look better? Work on it.
Do something about it. What makes you happy? What makes you feel good and be confident.
Throw all your expectations away and start doing the things you should.
p.s: Stress leads to weight gain(to some).
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just be yourself marineguy, everyone is unique......if you think you got problem, find a solution..
i used to be very fat too,...155cm and 86kg.....i used 6 weeks to lose 17kg....how i do it....determination and discipline....these are the two things you need to lose weight.....and to build up your confidence...
so don despair.....just do what you suppose to do...
btw, look is not important as one will grow old...look is not permanent....i think personality is the key things....maybe for some gals there go for look first but not all gals are like this......your Ms Right will come to you soon...so just wait patiently ok...
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hey... relax ya dude? nothing's gona end... my frd once told me this... "once u got a pair of hands, legs, eyes etc..." you're considered handsome man! n hey.. take shake hiker (haha dunno how to spell) as a model to follow after... look at him... he isn't any gd looking...but his wife is totally HOT! smiles ya?
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well, if u keep sitting on the butt and dreaming away, nothing is gg to happen right? in fact the way u put it, no one is in the wrong except ur lazy self. so wat's stopping u since u realize ur own folly?Originally posted by marineguy:im sad.. im geting fatter..n lonier... i see all my frds attached.. giving birth and i do feel certainly lonely.. my tummy getting bigger and i eat lesser n lesser and excerise once a wk...but still have a tummy... part of the reason due to tis,, i dare not koe gals.. and owas alone... keep myself busy with work....how i wish i am more handsome and mricher and not fat. i just wish to have someone i can go for and go out with and care for.. but nowdays charbor seems to look for handsome, rich and fit hunk,..guys like us,, owas go out alone.. and haiz.... how to lose weight... and b more outgoing? im sincere and wants to koe nice guai guai ladies to spend my life with,,but i just cant do it... esp after my last relationship....i feel so weird.... more n more like a ah pek.... -
Originally posted by marineguy:im sad.. im geting fatter..n lonier... i see all my frds attached.. giving birth and i do feel certainly lonely.. my tummy getting bigger and i eat lesser n lesser and excerise once a wk...but still have a tummy... part of the reason due to tis,, i dare not koe gals.. and owas alone... keep myself busy with work....how i wish i am more handsome and mricher and not fat. i just wish to have someone i can go for and go out with and care for.. but nowdays charbor seems to look for handsome, rich and fit hunk,..guys like us,, owas go out alone.. and haiz.... how to lose weight... and b more outgoing? im sincere and wants to koe nice guai guai ladies to spend my life with,,but i just cant do it... esp after my last relationship....i feel so weird.... more n more like a ah pek....
Your last relationship seemed to have reduce your morale and self esteem by a huge chunk.
My suggestion is that if you take what subconscious message your previous relationship had instil in you and have you ACCEPTED them - you will continue to grow fatter, think worse and worst of all... feel worse.
You got to defy what damage your previous relationship has cause you. You got to stand up against your ex and to PROVE to her that you will be so much stronger without her existence and that the next girl that comes along - she will be so much better than your ex.
But before that could happen - how much effort are you willing to improve your overall self image, esteem and confidence? Just how much?
If you wanna change something, you cannot have a half hearted way of doing it. You must stir an emotional drive and muster all your energy into improving yourself.
P.S: I have seriously seen this woman who lost more than half of her weight because of powerful emotional drive. The reason is simple: she wants to make her boyfriend's decision to be a correct decision... to be with her and that Love has transformed her completely. She doesn't want her boyfriend to regret having a relationship with her... and this creates a powerful force that became unstoppable. (She isn't tall, but her weight was 80++ - now, 42kg)
Just how much effort are you willing to improve yourself?
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thanka lot guys! every kind advise is a encouragement,, every critisim is an advise.... thanks..will heed and improve...thanks once again.
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haha imho u are not really very fat lah and u are oli 26.. plenty of time to slim down.. haha and u got car which means u are not too poor... and btw... no disrespect, just complements, ur ex looks nice hahahaOriginally posted by marineguy:thanka lot guys! every kind advise is a encouragement,, every critisim is an advise.... thanks..will heed and improve...thanks once again.
cheers