lack of motivation in life
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k. this post is seriously not about me, but about my friend. posting here cause i've ran out of ideas to talk to her
basically. my friend has no idea what she wants in her life and has no motivation to push her on. she's getting frustrated by school work, parents, piano (lessons) and everything. all these seems to be getting too much for her..
her studies aint that good, but she's in a good school. because of her (poor)results, her parents have been strict with her and scold her pretty frequently. and she's lost her parents' trust in her as well (not totally i gues), due to certain events and also her school work.
hmm. need help here guys.. -
go look for pok gua lou. maybe can change something...
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if she can't even motivate herself for her own life.. then i think it is pointless to offer any sort of help or advice to her..
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haiz, lots of people feel that way.
in singapore we worry about how to sustain life. not many people have the luxury of having motivations.
maybe to earn a living is motivation. -
think positively stay cool..
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i'm suffering the same problem cause i'm a bummer..i even lack the motivation to go out and enjoy myself..
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she has to learn to cope, my 2ct is she is underpressure becos she is unable to cope.Originally posted by mystiv:k. this post is seriously not about me, but about my friend. posting here cause i've ran out of ideas to talk to her
basically. my friend has no idea what she wants in her life and has no motivation to push her on. she's getting frustrated by school work, parents, piano (lessons) and everything. all these seems to be getting too much for her..
her studies aint that good, but she's in a good school. because of her (poor)results, her parents have been strict with her and scold her pretty frequently. and she's lost her parents' trust in her as well (not totally i gues), due to certain events and also her school work.
hmm. need help here guys..
scolding her is the wrong set of disciplinary rules to use. the better root-cause is to understand her problems and able to relate to them to help and guide her through.
i think she needs to hv herself or some1 to talk to her parents. perhaps dropping piano for now mebbe a good thing to reorganize and recoup her confidence. -
She needs my love.
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Better her relationship with her parents...Originally posted by mystiv:k. this post is seriously not about me, but about my friend. posting here cause i've ran out of ideas to talk to her
basically. my friend has no idea what she wants in her life and has no motivation to push her on. she's getting frustrated by school work, parents, piano (lessons) and everything. all these seems to be getting too much for her..
her studies aint that good, but she's in a good school. because of her (poor)results, her parents have been strict with her and scold her pretty frequently. and she's lost her parents' trust in her as well (not totally i gues), due to certain events and also her school work.
hmm. need help here guys..
Let her parents understand that in order for her to 'benefit' from their 'teachings', they should have a POSITIVE EFFECT on her to better move things along... No matter how slow she might be picking up... It's almost always better than giving negative putting down all the time...? -
how? i dont have the chance to talk to her parents, and there's no chance that she can talk calmly to her parents. usually end up shoutingOriginally posted by Devil1976:Better her relationship with her parents...
Let her parents understand that in order for her to 'benefit' from their 'teachings', they should have a POSITIVE EFFECT on her to better move things along... No matter how slow she might be picking up... It's almost always better than giving negative putting down all the time...? -
life without motivation is a fullstop.
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sounds like me...Originally posted by mystiv:how? i dont have the chance to talk to her parents, and there's no chance that she can talk calmly to her parents. usually end up shouting
can't talk peacefully with my parents for longer than 10mins.. -
i also no motivation to do anythign i going to graduate le also dunno what to do and feel too lazy to write resume and also dunno where to send the resume to
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Well.. One way or another, they'll have to learn to have a session which can last with at least some sensible mins so that things can work for the better...Originally posted by mystiv:how? i dont have the chance to talk to her parents, and there's no chance that she can talk calmly to her parents. usually end up shouting
It's really a mentality thing.. If at least one party tries hard enough, often it would just work out a minor path... The rest is about how they walk from there... -
Is it possible to talk to the teacher about this.. Maybe teacher can help to talk to parents directly. The parents wont shout and more respectful to the teacher at least...
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yea
comfort her -
i have no motivation in life too.
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some adult have to mediate between them.
Teacher, pastor or even MP. *grin*
(teachers r best cos they've ample experience with past cases and can explain to parents the consequences when the persistent pressure have forced many girls to give up)
If your parents/teacher don't mind your friend putting up temporarily (1 mth) at their place, that would let both sides to cool down and think. If 1 mth no improvement, another mth. At least this way, your friend can find the comfort and peace to study.
Does her parents want her to fail, run away and end up hanging out at some pub and gang company? Does her parents want her to become bad?
Both sides need real changes. But putting them together like that now aint going to work but just continue to explode.
A little distance and peace may calm down both sides and hopefully the missing feeling will bring them together.
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another case of overloading...haizzz...poor kids....
totally nothing to do...bored to death...
too many things to do...overload....
if only all of us can strike a balance.....
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1) mystiv bring your gal friend to the ICU unit in any hospital and show her how people are fighting each day to breath one last breath..
2) next do this test ask her to get out of her house for 24 hours with not a single cent on her. she is not allow to ask for a single cent from u or her friends.
She is only allowed to ask people for money..
3) cover herself with a blindfold and try to go downstairs to but some food and eat blind folded..
The above ideas are to show that life is not that easy as many people thought. having a good body and love ones beside you is very bless thing in life.
Do not wait till the day when everything is lose then regret it.
if u want to motivate your friend ask her to help motivate others to improve their lifes... -
try speaking to her again. basically, u need to find out what are the areas in her life she's been missing out.. and also, spend time sowing seeds into her life - meaning, spend ur time together with her encouraging her and if possible, give her some tuition??Originally posted by mystiv:k. this post is seriously not about me, but about my friend. posting here cause i've ran out of ideas to talk to her
basically. my friend has no idea what she wants in her life and has no motivation to push her on. she's getting frustrated by school work, parents, piano (lessons) and everything. all these seems to be getting too much for her..
her studies aint that good, but she's in a good school. because of her (poor)results, her parents have been strict with her and scold her pretty frequently. and she's lost her parents' trust in her as well (not totally i gues), due to certain events and also her school work.
hmm. need help here guys..
i dun know how r u going to do it, but by spending ur time building the frenship and sowing faith and encouragement will help ur fren in a long run.
however, imho, she needs another understanding party such a teacher or a pastor. such people may come in as a useful help for ur fren.