I am not happy....
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I hate myself. I really dunno why?
I used to be someone knowing what I want for my study, career, and life. Friends always envy me of what I have in term of getting good results and recommendations and rewards based on my real hardwork. (by the way, I am not bosses and lecturers' pet, so can't get any special treatment from them)
Few months back, I really dunno what had happened to me. I have no mood in my career... hate going to work... feeling very stress and it seems that it isn't going anywhere... and have quited without a job... so currently jobless.
Thought I will spend the time to concentrate on my exam at the end of the year, but it seems that I can't concentrate well on my study. Worry about no income and the monthly expenses that I had to bear and whether will I be able to get a job after my exam, etc...
Recently, I started to stay away from my friends, not sure if it is due to my inferior complex... cos in their eyes, I have always been the strong one to help them solve problems and any problems that I faced won't defeat me easily. My close friends don't even know that I am now no longer working cos I dun want them to worry for me.
I really hate myself on why I have to cause myself to this disastrous stage which I sometimes hope that I will never get up from my sleep. Sucide is not in my mind cos I am afraid of pain but I can't assure that as one of my fren who is afraid of pain has actually slashed the wrist when not in the right state of mind.
I really dunno what I shd do or what i want in my life. It seems that the path infront of me is no longer there.
Can someone help me? -
you are sinking into depression. it would be best if you consult professional help. but this is what you can do in the meantime to help you feel better.
1) sleep no later than 11pm every night
2) have regular intake of chocolates (dark)
3) exercise. have regular jogging sessions
4) pick up yoga
5) drink at least 2 litres of water everyday
6) get a good online friend and pour your soul into him/her. you need an outlet and a forum isnt good enough
7) believe in a god
some of these measures are scientifically proven to alleviate emotions, and when it happens, maybe things will come back into perspective. -
Dear Corals,
Perhaps you're simply burnt out? It looks to me that you're working & studying, in the hopes of achieving your goals. Perhaps the pressure at work is exacerbated by the stress of your class work? I love my job, but sometimes I also feel like quitting.
After quitting your job, the stress of Not having any income stresses you out, which affects your studies. It seems like a vicious cycle
Perhaps you may want to look into part-time work, so that you still have time for your studies, AND you have at least some spending money? Even tuition will help. You may register with the tuition agencies online...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by corals88:I hate myself. I really dunno why?
I used to be someone knowing what I want for my study, career, and life. Friends always envy me of what I have in term of getting good results and recommendations and rewards based on my real hardwork. (by the way, I am not bosses and lecturers' pet, so can't get any special treatment from them)
Few months back, I really dunno what had happened to me. I have no mood in my career... hate going to work... feeling very stress and it seems that it isn't going anywhere... and have quited without a job... so currently jobless.
Thought I will spend the time to concentrate on my exam at the end of the year, but it seems that I can't concentrate well on my study. Worry about no income and the monthly expenses that I had to bear and whether will I be able to get a job after my exam, etc...
Recently, I started to stay away from my friends, not sure if it is due to my inferior complex... cos in their eyes, I have always been the strong one to help them solve problems and any problems that I faced won't defeat me easily. My close friends don't even know that I am now no longer working cos I dun want them to worry for me.
I really hate myself on why I have to cause myself to this disastrous stage which I sometimes hope that I will never get up from my sleep. Sucide is not in my mind cos I am afraid of pain but I can't assure that as one of my fren who is afraid of pain has actually slashed the wrist when not in the right state of mind.
I really dunno what I shd do or what i want in my life. It seems that the path infront of me is no longer there.
Can someone help me? -
First of all.. you said u were the guy everyone kinda envied and that u have good sense of direction in your life n now u become like this. I dun think its the inferior complex.. if it really is.. you would have the inferior complex issue long time ago. Look into urself and ask yourself n think what has made u feel this way. Maybe its the boring routine... maybe its the people u socialise with do not have the same intelluectual properties as u..
You may be at a stage where u suddenly lose ur sense of direction. Ur goals. U question urself and ur very being. U wonder why? and u wonder how .. just focus, stick to ur original plan. Look for the problem that is plaguing ur thoughts.. talk to ur good close buddies.. if all else fails man.. go to the nearest club, buy a bottle JW or Chivas n down it n u will be all good.. temporarily . A few b52 shots is not bad too.. quite kick..fast n sweet. good luck ma man.
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my suggestion
come with terms with yourself. until you do tat, you will find pebbles in ur path. -
Make new directions in your life...Originally posted by corals88:I hate myself. I really dunno why?
I used to be someone knowing what I want for my study, career, and life. Friends always envy me of what I have in term of getting good results and recommendations and rewards based on my real hardwork. (by the way, I am not bosses and lecturers' pet, so can't get any special treatment from them)
Few months back, I really dunno what had happened to me. I have no mood in my career... hate going to work... feeling very stress and it seems that it isn't going anywhere... and have quited without a job... so currently jobless.
Thought I will spend the time to concentrate on my exam at the end of the year, but it seems that I can't concentrate well on my study. Worry about no income and the monthly expenses that I had to bear and whether will I be able to get a job after my exam, etc...
Recently, I started to stay away from my friends, not sure if it is due to my inferior complex... cos in their eyes, I have always been the strong one to help them solve problems and any problems that I faced won't defeat me easily. My close friends don't even know that I am now no longer working cos I dun want them to worry for me.
I really hate myself on why I have to cause myself to this disastrous stage which I sometimes hope that I will never get up from my sleep. Sucide is not in my mind cos I am afraid of pain but I can't assure that as one of my fren who is afraid of pain has actually slashed the wrist when not in the right state of mind.
I really dunno what I shd do or what i want in my life. It seems that the path infront of me is no longer there.
Can someone help me?
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For the time being, I could provide you a few ways to help you out:Originally posted by corals88:I hate myself. I really dunno why?
I used to be someone knowing what I want for my study, career, and life. Friends always envy me of what I have in term of getting good results and recommendations and rewards based on my real hardwork. (by the way, I am not bosses and lecturers' pet, so can't get any special treatment from them)
Few months back, I really dunno what had happened to me. I have no mood in my career... hate going to work... feeling very stress and it seems that it isn't going anywhere... and have quited without a job... so currently jobless.
Thought I will spend the time to concentrate on my exam at the end of the year, but it seems that I can't concentrate well on my study. Worry about no income and the monthly expenses that I had to bear and whether will I be able to get a job after my exam, etc...
Recently, I started to stay away from my friends, not sure if it is due to my inferior complex... cos in their eyes, I have always been the strong one to help them solve problems and any problems that I faced won't defeat me easily. My close friends don't even know that I am now no longer working cos I dun want them to worry for me.
I really hate myself on why I have to cause myself to this disastrous stage which I sometimes hope that I will never get up from my sleep. Sucide is not in my mind cos I am afraid of pain but I can't assure that as one of my fren who is afraid of pain has actually slashed the wrist when not in the right state of mind.
I really dunno what I shd do or what i want in my life. It seems that the path infront of me is no longer there.
Can someone help me?
1) Listen to music
2) Set yourself reasonable timeframe
3) Set yourself a further goal
4) Voice out to your loved ones, hopefully they could help you out.
5) think about all the advantages in your current position
AND HEY PLEASE DO NOT WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING POST-EXAM FOR THE TIME BEING!!!
Finally, wish good luck for your exams!
Cheers!
SGEMP -
hi, i take it that u r 17 this year and u r juggling both working and studying together? i think the main reason behind all this is that u might be bored of everything. You have just lost all intrest in everything. Perhaps u can take up some new activities and maybe concentrate more on ur studies rather than working. i hope i did not go out of pointOriginally posted by corals88:I hate myself. I really dunno why?
I used to be someone knowing what I want for my study, career, and life. Friends always envy me of what I have in term of getting good results and recommendations and rewards based on my real hardwork. (by the way, I am not bosses and lecturers' pet, so can't get any special treatment from them)
Few months back, I really dunno what had happened to me. I have no mood in my career... hate going to work... feeling very stress and it seems that it isn't going anywhere... and have quited without a job... so currently jobless.
Thought I will spend the time to concentrate on my exam at the end of the year, but it seems that I can't concentrate well on my study. Worry about no income and the monthly expenses that I had to bear and whether will I be able to get a job after my exam, etc...
Recently, I started to stay away from my friends, not sure if it is due to my inferior complex... cos in their eyes, I have always been the strong one to help them solve problems and any problems that I faced won't defeat me easily. My close friends don't even know that I am now no longer working cos I dun want them to worry for me.
I really hate myself on why I have to cause myself to this disastrous stage which I sometimes hope that I will never get up from my sleep. Sucide is not in my mind cos I am afraid of pain but I can't assure that as one of my fren who is afraid of pain has actually slashed the wrist when not in the right state of mind.
I really dunno what I shd do or what i want in my life. It seems that the path infront of me is no longer there.
Can someone help me?