How can i get him back??
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I was going out with a boy for almost 2 years and i was in love with him.
He had quite a few family problems (his mum and dad split up because his mum had an affair and ended up pregnant with another mans baby girl twins)
He was my whole world.
Then one day i had a text from him saying that he didnt want to go out with me anymore because the relationship was getting boring.
I immediatley went round to his house in tears, and as soon as he came out through the front door, he burst into tears to. He hugged me tighter than ever.
I didnt want to let him go.
I was so distraght and confused that i wanted to die.
All he kept saying was ' i dont want to bring you down with me' 'i dont want to end up hurting you nat'.
It has now been almost 6 months since we have split up and he has started doing drugs and seldomly smokes. Seeing him do these things breaks my heart and i really want to help him- i no it is his own life and i should let him do what he wants but me and him were like best friends, brother and sister and boyfriend and girlfriend all in one- WE WERE SO CLOSE.
I want to have some advice about talking to him (because i get shy when i am around him and i get embarressed) and maybe giving him some help to get off drugs and tostop smoking, and maybe get him back.
Please understand that i am in love with him and deep down i htink he still loves me.
Please, Please help!
Natalie Burr -
Of course, you cannot help him lah, Natalie loss her powers liao... Call Zephiris help you lah, she and Shannon together very powerful de...
Btw... u alreadi wat to do rite? Courage is the word... -
clone? dun spam here...
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In AA forum alot of clone one,cause they don't wana reveal their true identity..Originally posted by BrUtUs:clone? dun spam here... -
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Originally posted by XxNataliexX:I was going out with a boy for almost 2 years and i was in love with him.
He had quite a few family problems (his mum and dad split up because his mum had an affair and ended up pregnant with another mans baby girl twins)
He was my whole world.
Then one day i had a text from him saying that he didnt want to go out with me anymore because the relationship was getting boring.
I immediatley went round to his house in tears, and as soon as he came out through the front door, he burst into tears to. He hugged me tighter than ever.
I didnt want to let him go.
I was so distraght and confused that i wanted to die.
All he kept saying was ' i dont want to bring you down with me' 'i dont want to end up hurting you nat'.
It has now been almost 6 months since we have split up and he has started doing drugs and seldomly smokes. Seeing him do these things breaks my heart and i really want to help him- i no it is his own life and i should let him do what he wants but me and him were like best friends, brother and sister and boyfriend and girlfriend all in one- WE WERE SO CLOSE.
I want to have some advice about talking to him (because i get shy when i am around him and i get embarressed) and maybe giving him some help to get off drugs and tostop smoking, and maybe get him back.
Please understand that i am in love with him and deep down i htink he still loves me.
Please, Please help!
Natalie Burr
From what it seems...he might be suffering very serious depression
I am not really exprienced in this kind of cases but i can only offer some advice Keep monitoring him...try to stay in contact with him, if u feel that he has any problems...talk to him before he starts on his drug routine ( u said that he seldom smokes but he takes drugs instead? In that case i shall assume that he smokes to ease his problems before going into drugs if his problems do not "clear" )However please note that You might not be able to handle this alone as this is not a easy task when helping a person out of depression...you will need the help of his close friends and anyone that you knows care about him
~+Cheers+
StarPuppy -
Your story is a little drama..
But on a serious note.. Your ex boyfriend may break up with you because of some family problems or personal problems he has.. That is why he mentioned he burst into tears when he saw you at his porch..
Smoking and dealing with drugs are NOT methods to overcome his personal problem. DO NOT be embarass to help him.. Your help WILL save his life. So help him in what ever ways you can.
Originally posted by XxNataliexX:I was going out with a boy for almost 2 years and i was in love with him.
He had quite a few family problems (his mum and dad split up because his mum had an affair and ended up pregnant with another mans baby girl twins)
He was my whole world.
Then one day i had a text from him saying that he didnt want to go out with me anymore because the relationship was getting boring.
I immediatley went round to his house in tears, and as soon as he came out through the front door, he burst into tears to. He hugged me tighter than ever.
I didnt want to let him go.
I was so distraght and confused that i wanted to die.
All he kept saying was ' i dont want to bring you down with me' 'i dont want to end up hurting you nat'.
It has now been almost 6 months since we have split up and he has started doing drugs and seldomly smokes. Seeing him do these things breaks my heart and i really want to help him- i no it is his own life and i should let him do what he wants but me and him were like best friends, brother and sister and boyfriend and girlfriend all in one- WE WERE SO CLOSE.
I want to have some advice about talking to him (because i get shy when i am around him and i get embarressed) and maybe giving him some help to get off drugs and tostop smoking, and maybe get him back.
Please understand that i am in love with him and deep down i htink he still loves me.
Please, Please help!
Natalie Burr -
Hahaha, get raquel to make a love spell lah.Originally posted by Ayukat:Of course, you cannot help him lah, Natalie loss her powers liao... Call Zephiris help you lah, she and Shannon together very powerful de...
Btw... u alreadi wat to do rite? Courage is the word...
Shannon and zefiris only know how to fight. -
i dun tink u r in love with him... i think u miss urself most.
there is lil u can do to help him... sorry, but i hv bad opinion of pple who do drugs.
until u come to terms with yourself, u will continue to feel sad. -
thanks starpuppy
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He really has serious problems, maybe even depressions. It will be hard for you to help him becasue in his current state he may reject you becasue he doesn't feel like to open up to anyone. You must be strong for yourself and for himself, I know it's very hard, I am in a similar situation. You must stand by him even when he doesn't want, show him that you care, but carefully, step by step. It will hurt you when he rejects you, your help, he will sure hurt you, tell you words which hurt you, but you must be strong becasue he isn't himself now. Don't come too close too fast, if it is needed, make one or two steps back, you must be patient. Try to endure, I am trying that too though sometimes I feel like giving up, but keep fighting.
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What are both your age? Star signs? Where are both of you staying around now? For how long have you been staying at the same place?Originally posted by XxNataliexX:I was going out with a boy for almost 2 years and i was in love with him.
He had quite a few family problems (his mum and dad split up because his mum had an affair and ended up pregnant with another mans baby girl twins)
He was my whole world.
Then one day i had a text from him saying that he didnt want to go out with me anymore because the relationship was getting boring.
I immediatley went round to his house in tears, and as soon as he came out through the front door, he burst into tears to. He hugged me tighter than ever.
I didnt want to let him go.
I was so distraght and confused that i wanted to die.
All he kept saying was ' i dont want to bring you down with me' 'i dont want to end up hurting you nat'.
It has now been almost 6 months since we have split up and he has started doing drugs and seldomly smokes. Seeing him do these things breaks my heart and i really want to help him- i no it is his own life and i should let him do what he wants but me and him were like best friends, brother and sister and boyfriend and girlfriend all in one- WE WERE SO CLOSE.
I want to have some advice about talking to him (because i get shy when i am around him and i get embarressed) and maybe giving him some help to get off drugs and tostop smoking, and maybe get him back.
Please understand that i am in love with him and deep down i htink he still loves me.
Please, Please help!
Natalie Burr -
only prayers can help...
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YA, right. I always pray for a Mercedes S280. but it never comes. Maybe I should pray for a BMW 520IA instead.Originally posted by ghimpheng:only prayers can help...
Anyway,
Usually in this case, the guy most probably is experiencing depression. He is taking drugs and smokes as a way to forget his problems momentarily. When he is in this stage, it goes beyond your ability to help. What is most important is that you will have to help him kick his addictions off. Try to convince him that there are people who care for him (you) and accompany him to a drug rehab centre.
Also, it may help if you and him speak to a counsellor who may be in a better position to help you and him, as well as discuss with him his family problems. What I am trying to say is that you do not have to carry all of the burden on your shoulders because there are professionals who are ready to help you. -
If it's truth to what you say, then I do agree to what nightsky suggested. Doing drugs is serious. Not only it's against the law, but on a more personal side, it's definitely a very very bad thing.Originally posted by nightsky87:YA, right. I always pray for a Mercedes S280. but it never comes. Maybe I should pray for a BMW 520IA instead.
Anyway,
Usually in this case, the guy most probably is experiencing depression. He is taking drugs and smokes as a way to forget his problems momentarily. When he is in this stage, it goes beyond your ability to help. What is most important is that you will have to help him kick his addictions off. Try to convince him that there are people who care for him (you) and accompany him to a drug rehab centre.
Also, it may help if you and him speak to a counsellor who may be in a better position to help you and him, as well as discuss with him his family problems. What I am trying to say is that you do not have to carry all of the burden on your shoulders because there are professionals who are ready to help you.
I would suggest that you call for professional help. Tell them the situation and seek for their advises. Normally you don't have to reveal who you are if you want to protect your bf (ex). They will guide you on how to help him get out of this depression.
This may be Aunt Agony's forum but I do doubt much there's professional consultant here. So please call the SOS hotline or anything else.
My apologies to the moderator of AA forum. But I sense the seriousness of this case. It'll be bad if either of us gave the wrong advise. -
Don't worry. On the behalf of the mods here. I support your advise about calling professional counsellors.Originally posted by laosu:This may be Aunt Agony's forum but I do doubt much there's professional consultant here. So please call the SOS hotline or anything else.
My apologies to the moderator of AA forum. But I sense the seriousness of this case. It'll be bad if either of us gave the wrong advise.
There are many factors other than giving 'wrong advices'
SOS can do more - getting details, getting the chance to speak to caller and hearing the emotions and tone of caller.
In forums, we can only say what we think is best for the poster.
But all in all, we are all behind a nickname.
Thanks for bringing up the need for Hotlines.
Cheers