25 year old afraid of fatherhood

• Alfresco coffeeshop

  30 Oct 05, 18:18

  I am single and bugged me for sometime. When i married and settle down, i am afraid of the stress of raising children. No freedom. Is it normal feeling for a guy?. have never had a gf before too.
• thoreldan

  30 Oct 05, 18:18

  u think too far liao.
• renorenal

  30 Oct 05, 19:54

  It's common to have that fear... enjoy while you can, in time, you will adjust to your own priorities...
• le cruz

  30 Oct 05, 20:20

  It's sounds like a fear of responsibility. To overcome that, might want to expose yourself to situations where you have to take care of people, organise events, etc. By and by, you'll gain confidence that you can handle various situations, handle the stress, that you can be up the the task, know what i mean?
• Ray2

  30 Oct 05, 20:33

  have children then they will take care of you when you are old loh. i have no gf no wife no children
• hyuuga neji

  30 Oct 05, 21:22

  haven't learn to walk, wan to run liao...
  get a gf first lah...
  
• thinker

  30 Oct 05, 21:42

  Where to know single ladies??
  
  Workplace is either mature ppl (married with/without kids) or old ppl.
  
  I m not a person hu like pub or disco. Dun like to know ladies from these places too.
  
  Matching agency is not my type too.
  
  So how??
  
  
• Quinsy

  30 Oct 05, 21:46

  Hang around at cafes or kopitiams and wait lor. LOL.
• CP25

  30 Oct 05, 22:31

  u sure u nv had a gf b4?
  
  Y not?
• sbst275

  30 Oct 05, 22:32

  You are just thinking too much
  
  Kids can be fun at times
• FeowFeow

  31 Oct 05, 08:24

  It could be other things other than a fear of responsibility, although I agree that it may be a case of the aforementioned. I'm afraid of having children, Not because I'm afraid of the responsibility in having & raising a child, but I'm afraid I may Not make a good mother.
  
  I have a severe lack of patience for a screaming child, especially those throwing tantrums, & I certainly don't wish to smack my crying baby/toddler. Babies are extremely adorable, but when they're screaming right in your ears & hitting & kicking you, & generally making a nuisance of themselves in public, it grates on the nerves TERRIBLY
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by le cruz:

  It's sounds like a fear of responsibility. To overcome that, might want to expose yourself to situations where you have to take care of people, organise events, etc. By and by, you'll gain confidence that you can handle various situations, handle the stress, that you can be up the the task, know what i mean?

• Alfresco coffeeshop

  31 Oct 05, 13:00

  children are little devils
• gerrykoh

  31 Oct 05, 16:08

  Adopt a pet, cheaper than bringing up a kid.
  Don't expect your kids to take care of u when u are old, cos times are hard. They have problem taking care of themselves