help me pls....
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Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family.. -
Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family..
Hello...let me give you a short intro of myself..I am 17 this year, I am also sitting for my O lvls this year...frankly speaking..my prelim results is L1R4=27
But i do not think of killing myself...look...there is nothing wrong if u cannot go to poly and end up in ITE If u do not try for a shot...you lose 100% of all hope..Try and do your best and not regret in the future...saying... "i should have"
Try to do your best and if you go to ITE...just do your best and go higher at each fall... A sucessful person is not how high he is...its how high he bounces back up when he falls...those people in ITE are sucessful because they fell and they learn to get back up and not instead of lying down and moan about their problems -
Comeon.....
Have more faith and confidence in yourself.... O level's just small hurdle.. just try ur best... poly isn't that hard to get in afterall.... either ways... there'll still be a route for you....
"chuan dao qiao tou zi ran zhi"
I had your mentality (except the suicide thingy) when i was young.... i was all prepared to go ITE when i saw my prelim results... but in the end i manage to get into a JC...
Gotta brace up yourself ya..... lots of more challenging stuffs coming in ur way in future.. like i said, O level's just a small hurdle.... just study hard and have no regrets.. : ) -
You can try submitting yur concerns to the Straits Times Forum or New Paper Hotline.
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And one thingy....
You certainly don't sound like a "good for nothing".... if u say u wanna die....
have you ever thought how your sad your parents will be? spending so much on their son for the past 17 years... and losing him this way? No matter wad.. if you're filial enough, you should just live your life... no matter wad you're gonna be in future... there will still be a YOU looking after your parents when they grow old...... it sure beats none.
You worry too much.... maybe later in life.. when you've found your dreams.. u can work towards them... you'll never know you may make it big in future... if you don't try, you'll never have the slightest chance of being successful.... -
I think you sound like a nice person, but you're not being practical here - you just sound depressed due to the stress of studying and maybe the lack of friends.Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family..
O lvls, poly, A lvls, uni etc don't mean very much when it comes to $$$. Sure, if you get good grades, you'll enter uni comfortably ... a 2nd up in most degrees can land you a job in MoE where your starting pay is ~3k and you have great job security, or you could get a law degree and have a starting pay of 4k. But there are countless people who get rich without much in the way of certificates, I'm sure you could name some. Or at worst, if you really can't study and aren't too good at anything you could always drive [I mean the lorry type, some fetch 3k+++] or sign on with the army. Both pay well - more than enough to survive and feed your parents definitely.
In short, grades mean very little and do not determine your worth as an individual, though I'm sure quite a few people have already said that .... -
There's a lot of pple in similar situation like urs...jus browse thru past 2 weeks posts n u wil find answers..Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family..
Dun despair.. not every1 is born with special talents, only those prodigy kids...most of e pple ard e world ...even superstars took years to slog wat they hav today..
U must quietly seek an answer within urself...wat do u luv to do most wif ur life? Wat r u good at? (I believe dats at least a few things u r able to do as long as u not handicapped)
N once u find wat u like doin, practise n work on that skill u hav..
Once u master it to e highest level, u will be paid for dat skil
Focus on 1 skill, n be paid for it.
Dun be a Jack of all trade, master of none.
Have patience n tink positive
Life is simple, dun complicate it
dun tink of something which has not happened (even 2moro)
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1. If you know the consequences of getting a poor result for 'O' levels, WORK HARD ON IT!!Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family..
2. Expand your social circle and meet more people so that you can have more friends. Once you find friends who you feel can quite get along with, spend more time knowing each other.
3. When you study, don't just 'study for the sake of studying'. Spend time really studying the things you need to learn. Often just trying to speed through or drill information into your head won't get them to last good enough for exams.
4. Nobody can guarantee what would happen to you the day after next and so on and so forth... Suicide? Do you think things would be any better if you just leave your parents behind and let those old folks be miserably hurt by your act and left to fend for themselves when they age? -
well.... i nvr tot that studying = earning money...Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family..
true enuff that it provides u the cert.. that 'piece of paper' which hlps u find jobs.. but that doesnt mean that a mere O lvl cert would determine ur future.. ur income...
y are u studying? for whom? u might be afraid that u wont be able to do well... and get bad results.. bad future... but so? the impt thing is that u have matured NOW.. and know wad u wan... wad u shld be doing....
there are always night classes... private schools.... ppl after experiencing working life to go back to school again to upgrade themselves... y cant u? u are only 17... even if u fail ur Os now.... u can still retake... i personally haf a friend who studies in ITE and for just one yr of studying in ITE.. he was offered to go over to polytechnic to study....
its just a matter of how much u wan it... if its tat impt to u... u will cfm find ways and strength to get it.... ending ur life doesnt solve anything.. humiliation or whatsoever.... it just worsen the lives of the ppl arnd u tat cares for u and loves u...
if u r really wanna care for ur parents then... all the more u shldnt think suicidal.. u shld live better... be stronger... to see them thru their old age.... smiling through their last breath...
k... think i talk too much... think about it ba...
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nothing wrong with ITE, its just another alternative
as i posted before i've got a friend who went to ITE to Poly and now applying for NUS/NTU
if you really want to achieve something nothing will stop u
if you really want to let your parents live in bliss, you will be able to do it, with or without good certs -
certs are not that important alot of highly successful pple now are not graduates alot are high school dropouts in fact.
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If u hate studying, dun force urself...Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family..
try ur hands at other technical skills...most of the time..those non-studious pple can become genius @ hands-on (practical) jobs if they put in passion n efforts on cultivating this forte
So dun worri abt ur parents' hopes on u...they gave birth to u not to see u sad, n wallow in self-pity..if u hate studying n know dat u cant get those papers without extreme internal struggle...just walk away n get trained technically..end of day ...Xperience n paper qualification in e technical department counts..
So start enroling for technical courses u like...pte schools has alot!
(I HATE MY Diploma, m dropping my degree)
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still young la.. even if u fail ur O level, it's still NOT the end.
Talking from experience.. I failed My Maths in O level twice. But that did not defeat me. I went to ITE and got top 5%, Certificate in Merit. Then I progressed to Poly, still in poly now.
Wat's so bad about ITE? In some industries, ITE holders are better paid, bcos they have the skills.
Juz do ur best and study hard for ur O Level. Dun give urself too much pressure, coz it will not do u any good.
There are far more failures in life awaiting you.. or should I say.. failing in exams is not that serious or as bad as other failures in life. There's always a silver lining behind a dark cloud (is this the way to put it? gee..) -
a bit late to cry about not having to put in enough efforts right?
Just focus on what you have now and give your best shot. Make or break it, leave it aside.
Regardless of ITE, Poly, JC or even private commercial school, it's still a learning place right? It's all in your head, if you want to look down on yourself and feel ashamed because you might be going ITE, then i guess you dun expect others to look up to you. There are still many successful working individuals that graduated from ITE wat! Again, it's how you look at it.
Os are just part of the growing up "stress" tats all, dun do well, can always try again right? Consider you are already doing not bad (never retain before right?) so most spend one more year to retake lor! No big deal wat...
Success goes to those who never gives up. I remember having a friend who dun even have N level leh, only PSLE nia... but still haven't die, maybe not well paid but still surviving lor.
Dun stress, it's all part and parcel of life, just calm ur thoughts and look at it from a different perspective and you will see the difference. Broading over it won't help.
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no matter what, if you have a job, no matter how little it pays, it would ease the some financial burden.Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family..
anyway, just work harder, do your best. no parent wouldn't be proud of a son that tries his best =)
"A champion is someone who gets up, even when they can't"
- Natalie Rogers
all the best dude -
think he busy doing his Os no time reply....
all the best dude! -
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No need to over rate the important of school. So many things in this world is not only depend on ur studies.. Im sure u are good in something.. like when i read what u have written, u are emotionally smart.. U know what are ur weakness and im sure u r trying to do something about it.. Failure in something (like ur studies) doesnt mean over.. think like this "Failure is just a way to get u learn in a hard way" Some ppl get good grades in school, gets into top university in the world, but after enters the working world.. only in mid range.. While lots of bosses didnt really do very well in school (like da big boss in microsoft, Billgates... He quits Harvard Univ half way, doesnt have ANY DEGREE, and now the richest)...
Try to always be positive... Now u r having lots of problems.... ALL people do, but this way u learn more and without u realise... u r learning in a hardway...u are getting mature earlier than others... Im sure u will be success some day.. Just keep up with what u do ok... About ur studies.. u can work hard first now then next time taking part time courses and get good qualification.. Good Luck -
hey boy, u r not the only 1...me 2 actualliOriginally posted by Prophecy_Master:Hi I am a 17yr old taking o levels this year. I am very afraid of not doing well in o levels and being unable to go to my poly of choice. I begin to thought of the consequences of not doing well, I go to ite get a low paying job . Being the only son in my family, I bear the responsibility of taking care of my parents when they grow old. I want them to live in bliss, like they way they are providing for me now. I begin to think of suicide, I know it is a very coward thing to do and leave my parents in the lurch. But if I canÂ’t do well and got no future wad use can I be of ?
In the end I need my parents to work even in the late 60s and provide for their own cause this son of theirs is useless to the core. I rather die and let the world laugh upon me then to let my parents that the humiliation of bearing a good nothing like me. I know if I really die it will hurt them the most, but I feel that this is better than to have them slog for the rest of their life since I am undependable . I have 2 sister and both of them are married. I believe they can take better care of my parents than me.
Even if I try hard I seems that wad ever I just studied canÂ’t stay in my mind. Without a good o level grade I am basically useless , I know there are cases of people that succeed despite doing badly in their secondly school but these are rare cases wad makes me good enough to think that I will be one of them ? I have no REAL friends to talk 2.
I know I am weak, but I donÂ’t want to. I canÂ’t find the strength to stand up I find no reason to live on. My parents will mostly likely despise this son of theirs for being weak and bringing shame to this family..
im oso in tis situation...im e youngest n also hav 3 elder sis..2 married, left 1 sis taking care of my parents.
And i m 25 yrs old oredi, but still cant find e right job, to keep me for at least 4 yrs.. I was very depressed cos pressure from my sis n family, n worst I felt so incompetence n useless for being e worst achiever in e family..oso lost meaning n purpose in life..
but after I read up on sum articles, i found dat u, like myself, might b suffering from depression... n hence e chemical imbalances causing the bodily functions to be impaired. (will post links for u to read)
N tis is becos depression will affect certain chemicals in ur brain that affects e way u think (sumthing both u & I of us cant help ), and therefore depression must be cured b4 anything else.
I am currently taking a medication for my depression (BIPOLAR) and it works ! Medication n cognitive talking therapy produces excellent results..
U just need e rite doc to seek treament from..so dun ever sink deeper..n SUICIDE is definitely not a solution..makes things worse.
I also hate my depression periods cos it makes me feel isolated, lost of pleasure in activities i used to enjoy, n procrastinate alot but realli cant help it...cos it this mental condition dat affects e way n way I behave..
Dun give up so easily...ur parents would be heart broken if anything happens to u..be brave n overcome this period..DEPRESSION IS CURABLE
And, u said u dun hv frens....me neither...but there's a organisation that might hv pple that u n I can relate to...u can PM me if u need further details (i can tell u ways to get professional help)
Dun stress out urself... im sure u hav goals set for the future...dun worry unnecessarily. U r still so young...plenty of time..
But Cure Your Depression 1st n formost, just like wat I am doing..n Ive starting to relive my dreams i used to have since young.
I fully understand how u feel, cos dats how im feeling now...but u can OVERCOME these feelings with professional help and medications!
I have sought professional help n taking medications for it...NOTHING to be embarrassed or ashamed of...
There's government subsidy on medical bills n its not costly..trust me ..
Self-reinforcement talk + Proper diagnosis & medications will help us tide through these low periods. Dun delay treatment...n jus DO nothing abt ur condition b4 it worsens.
Remember, U R NOT ALONE.. -
http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/Depression/nimh/bipolar_suicide.asp
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/serious.asp
read these info on the links given...i learnt a great deal, n its real good analysis.
Feel free to PM if u wish to find a therapist ..or if u need sumone to tok to abt ur probs..
we can share
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worrying doesn't help.. waste time nia.. y not spend the worrying time doing some useful revision?
me too 17 taking O levels this year.. woahaha..
last few papers left.. put in ur fullest effort and get it done over wif...
i always believe that last minute chiong still helps increase at least chao chao 1 or 2 grades.. provided that the time spent are productive~ JIAYOU!!