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Originally posted by papercut87:
hey guys. just recently i got attached to this particular guy whom ive been gud friends with fer abt six months or so. he confessed that he was interested in me and asked me to b his gf. i was pretty reluctant at first but he kept askin me give him a chance to prove himself... n so i did. its been about a week since i went into a r/s with him, hes super caring, attentive and encouraging towards me.. but somehow i feel so inferior whenever i compare myself to his ex gfs. some of them are like so pretty n glam.. whereas im just a simple student who doesnt even bother puttin on makeup whenever i go out? i seriously dunno why he chose me in the first place.. cauz i just feel like im nth compared to his previous gfs. haiz dont think im good enuff fer him.. feel like brking up. gaah. but its only a week..
how?
Look...he chose you to be his g/f so there must be something special about you thats why he chose you.... 
I dun't think that you should feel inferior...as you said...they were all his ex...thats why they become EXs...maybe behaviour or stuff that made them into exs Personally i feel that you should not be comparing yourself with any of his exs, you are special in your own way..ya? 
If u really feel that way still...why not ask your b/f and ask if you should change anything...but i dun think so...he chose you because you are YOU 
Dun't ever doubt yourself...everyone is special in their own way
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
thanks fer the comfort, starpuppy. i think its my low self-esteem thats makin me think in such a manner.. but still, thanks.
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kokz papercut87
sorry hor just want u to wake up abit.
i know u are scared that your bf playing with you but trust me when a guy have seen too much beautiful gals and realise that how bad their character is, they will tone down alot and find a simple girl like you for a gf.
Never ever feel inferior for yourself.
Believe in yourself that you are better than the beautiful gals in term of character and inner strength.
You may not have the outer looks of the other gals but i believe that u are a special gal who can treat your bf even better than the other gals out there.
think carefully, if your bf looks for outer beauty, will u ever stand a chance to be his gf ?
most impt is to be kind and understanding towards him...i know he will love u more each day.... -
what drx has said is true...when going into a r/s...dun't ever have low self-esteem...you are chosen for who you areOriginally posted by papercut87:thanks fer the comfort, starpuppy. i think its my low self-esteem thats makin me think in such a manner.. but still, thanks. 
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
hi.. and one important question: do u love him? if yes, dun give up! wo yong yuan zhi chi ni!
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wow...tts quite a speech frm puppy....hey congrats man...u've grown.
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hahha...i didn't grow much...i am still growing...Life is forever a learning journey...Originally posted by zrahf:wow...tts quite a speech frm puppy....hey congrats man...u've grown.
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
yeah agreed that Puppy had grown a lot...
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hahaha...that if i can handle my own problems...problems in real life are easier to handle if seen by others but sometimes its hard to clear your own problemsOriginally posted by drx:yeah agreed that Puppy had grown a lot...
winks
maybe next time u can be counsellor too...
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
Its your fresh , innocent and simple looking that appalls him.. the thought of just.. erm.. yah.. anyways.. dun feel inferior. There is a reason why he chooses u over the pretty n glamorous girls. I really hope its ur personality n ur simple traits..n not..some alterior...motive....
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do u know what is ur problem?Originally posted by papercut87: hey guys. just recently i got attached to this particular guy whom ive been gud friends with fer abt six months or so. he confessed that he was interested in me and asked me to b his gf. i was pretty reluctant at first but he kept askin me give him a chance to prove himself... n so i did. its been about a week since i went into a r/s with him, hes super caring, attentive and encouraging towards me.. but somehow i feel so inferior whenever i compare myself to his ex gfs. some of them are like so pretty n glam.. whereas im just a simple student who doesnt even bother puttin on makeup whenever i go out? i seriously dunno why he chose me in the first place.. cauz i just feel like im nth compared to his previous gfs. haiz dont think im good enuff fer him.. feel like brking up. gaah. but its only a week..
how?
YOUR problem lies in ur self-esteem and the way u look at urself.
YOU have utterly no confidence whatsoever.
Now u get ur answer? Good!
Work on that.
Gd luck! -
*waves hand frantically*
uhhum...i am always available? -
wei..simple students have their charm...trust me...
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LTNS. Where ya been BOY..??Originally posted by zrahf:wow...tts quite a speech frm puppy....hey congrats man...u've grown. " -
He chose you la, not the other way round.
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put on makeup..go for facials and grooming to make u tink ur face's prettier than ur bf's ex gfsOriginally posted by papercut87: hey guys. just recently i got attached to this particular guy whom ive been gud friends with fer abt six months or so. he confessed that he was interested in me and asked me to b his gf. i was pretty reluctant at first but he kept askin me give him a chance to prove himself... n so i did. its been about a week since i went into a r/s with him, hes super caring, attentive and encouraging towards me.. but somehow i feel so inferior whenever i compare myself to his ex gfs. some of them are like so pretty n glam.. whereas im just a simple student who doesnt even bother puttin on makeup whenever i go out? i seriously dunno why he chose me in the first place.. cauz i just feel like im nth compared to his previous gfs. haiz dont think im good enuff fer him.. feel like brking up. gaah. but its only a week..
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Hahaha.. but such enhancements only skin deep, right?Originally posted by ceecookie:put on makeup..go for facials and grooming to make u tink ur face's prettier than ur bf's ex gfs -
if he had pretty and glamarous girls before why did he choose you now?
there must be a reason. he wont choose you out of thin air.
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Dear Papercut,
Every girl feels like they need to measure up to their bf's exes at some point in time, & this is especially so when the relationship is new, like yours. Sometimes it's Not even the appearance, but how sad your bf was when they broke up, because the ex(es) obviously meant alot to him if he felt so depressed when they'd split.
The good news is, this feeling won't last I've been in your position, & I worked up the courage to talk calmly with my partner about it. I broke the news of my insecurity to him very gently, all the while reassuring him that it wasn't the result of any deficiencies on his part, but rather, that it's normal for girls to feel that way.
He gave me the exact reassurance I needed. And I told him that everytime I felt insecure, I would always speak to him about it. Happily, it got less & less frequent, & eventually, I don't speak to him about it anymore because I don't feel insecure about his exes anymore.
There must be a reason for his beautiful smiles when he sees me, & the way he feels fulfilled & contented (which he told me himself). If you're feeling this way, I would recommend you bring it up gently with your bf, & let him reassure you. If you weren't special to him, he wouldn't have chosen you : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by papercut87: hey guys. just recently i got attached to this particular guy whom ive been gud friends with fer abt six months or so. he confessed that he was interested in me and asked me to b his gf. i was pretty reluctant at first but he kept askin me give him a chance to prove himself... n so i did. its been about a week since i went into a r/s with him, hes super caring, attentive and encouraging towards me.. but somehow i feel so inferior whenever i compare myself to his ex gfs. some of them are like so pretty n glam.. whereas im just a simple student who doesnt even bother puttin on makeup whenever i go out? i seriously dunno why he chose me in the first place.. cauz i just feel like im nth compared to his previous gfs. haiz dont think im good enuff fer him.. feel like brking up. gaah. but its only a week..
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For whatever reason that he chose you, if you don't have special feelings for him, or you don't feel loving towards him, then you are not in love with him, and should not be his steady gf. End of dilemma and misery.
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Hi. I recently was fortunate enuff to win the heart of my current gf. She revealed to me that prior to accepting me, she was thinking a long while about saying yes to me. Why? The reason was becuz both she and my ex are in my company & she knows who my ex is. And she was deliberating so much 'cuz she felt that my ex is too pretty as compared to her. But i reassured her that the fact that i chased her meant that I have already taken into consideration all factors and am serious about her, & not juz her looks, etc. And she shouldn't bother about other people comparing her & my ex.Originally posted by papercut87: hey guys. just recently i got attached to this particular guy whom ive been gud friends with fer abt six months or so. he confessed that he was interested in me and asked me to b his gf. i was pretty reluctant at first but he kept askin me give him a chance to prove himself... n so i did. its been about a week since i went into a r/s with him, hes super caring, attentive and encouraging towards me.. but somehow i feel so inferior whenever i compare myself to his ex gfs. some of them are like so pretty n glam.. whereas im just a simple student who doesnt even bother puttin on makeup whenever i go out? i seriously dunno why he chose me in the first place.. cauz i just feel like im nth compared to his previous gfs. haiz dont think im good enuff fer him.. feel like brking up. gaah. but its only a week..
how?
My bottomline is, if your bf has been persistent & sincere, then u shouldn't worry too much; like wat the other forumites has said, u must have something unique that attracts him, be it ex-factor, affinity & whatnots. So be confident & love him unconditionally. However, if u are still wary that he could be a player, then avoid intimacy for now till u are very sure.
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Penguin! What's this supposed to mean, huh?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by BadzMaro:Its your fresh , innocent and simple looking that appalls him.. the thought of just.. erm.. yah.. anyways.. dun feel inferior. There is a reason why he chooses u over the pretty n glamorous girls. I really hope its ur personality n ur simple traits..n not..some alterior...motive....