i think i need a good scolding
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i got to know this gal abt half a year ago... everything was fine btw us, and we were v close, but she told me she didnt want to get into a relationship for the next month or two. i was fine with it, and never bugged her to be with me or whatsoever.
she's been telling me she yearns to be with me, she wants to be my partner, but deep down inside, i think she doesnt mean it.
abt a month ago, she left me, and i knew it was because of a guy. but she claimed it wasnt because of him and she had no feelings for him. but i knew she was lying, because my friends saw them out, and told me abt it. i also read her text messages sent to/from him... she told him she missed him, missed his hugs/kisses etc...
i asked her about it indirectly (not telling her that i read her msgs) but she still claimed that she'd already given him up because she only feels for me. not long ago, she again, told me she loved me, but just today, i read her messages again, and she sent one to him. saying that she wanted to meet him for a while, to lock lips....
many times i told myself to hate her and move on, but everytime she talks to me or appears in front of me, i'll just hopelessly fall in love with her again. i know its bad of me to read her text messages, but... i just couldnt help it at all.
i dont know why she still come up with lies to keep me with her, when so obviously she also wants to be with the guy too. maybe its because she wants the best of both worlds. i know i hate her for doing this. and many times i've told myself to hate her to the core, but i just can't.
she knows i've given her my best and almost everything i have.. but she still doesnt want to be with me. im fine with it.. but which guy can accept a girl who keeps another guy with her too????
maybe im just hopeless and dead stupid. -
Maybe you do need a scolding.
But you don't deserve it until you repeatedly fall for it.
You need to make up your mind and move on.
Cheers -
fate plays on us....
and love is blind... and makes us to do something that is stupid -
scratch head
is she your gf in the first place?
if not why u care so much for wat?
Since when did she ever give u the right to say anything?
if you can stand her touching and kissing other guys by all means go ahead.
if not leave lor.
simple advice she is not worth it.
this type play with u liao for sure dump u one. -
Totally agree with DRX. In the end she'll just give you an excuse to say that she's "confuse". I'm 100% sure that you don't want yourself to be falling into a pit just because of that damn word.
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One word to describe this kind of gal:
Cock-teaser.
Don't want does not matter, bu yao ye ba.
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This kind of girl deserves to be a prostitude. No offence, but from the way you say it, it makes me feel as if she's like the one always sleeping around.
forget it la, if someone cannot be true to you, dun EVEN be a friend of that person. it will eventually destroy u. mark my words - SHE'S UNWORTHY!
and no, u don't deserve a scolding. u need a Guide to Proper Manhood!
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tell her outright u've read her msgs, no need for anyone to continue acting le. Act further also wun get oscar award de.Originally posted by chong-ster:i got to know this gal abt half a year ago... everything was fine btw us, and we were v close, but she told me she didnt want to get into a relationship for the next month or two. i was fine with it, and never bugged her to be with me or whatsoever.
she's been telling me she yearns to be with me, she wants to be my partner, but deep down inside, i think she doesnt mean it.
abt a month ago, she left me, and i knew it was because of a guy. but she claimed it wasnt because of him and she had no feelings for him. but i knew she was lying, because my friends saw them out, and told me abt it. i also read her text messages sent to/from him... she told him she missed him, missed his hugs/kisses etc...
i asked her about it indirectly (not telling her that i read her msgs) but she still claimed that she'd already given him up because she only feels for me. not long ago, she again, told me she loved me, but just today, i read her messages again, and she sent one to him. saying that she wanted to meet him for a while, to lock lips....
many times i told myself to hate her and move on, but everytime she talks to me or appears in front of me, i'll just hopelessly fall in love with her again. i know its bad of me to read her text messages, but... i just couldnt help it at all.
i dont know why she still come up with lies to keep me with her, when so obviously she also wants to be with the guy too. maybe its because she wants the best of both worlds. i know i hate her for doing this. and many times i've told myself to hate her to the core, but i just can't.
she knows i've given her my best and almost everything i have.. but she still doesnt want to be with me. im fine with it.. but which guy can accept a girl who keeps another guy with her too????
maybe im just hopeless and dead stupid. -
its the girl who needs a good scolding from you..
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x2Originally posted by stellazio:its the girl who needs a good scolding from you.. 
ya lor! can u be a bit fierce anot? scold that B-i-t-c-h la! -
x4Originally posted by The Emperor:x2
ya lor! can u be a bit fierce anot? scold that B-i-t-c-h la!
Not asking you to really scold her lah..but just remind her to wake up her ideas cause you already know she's lying. If she still insist that she's not lying, then suggest that she ask the other guy out and the three of you face to face talk it out and clear out.
I bet a dime that she won't dare and start giving other excuses again.
Anyway, for a woman who lie before a relationship, I guess it won't change her much even after getting into a relationship with you. -
Dear Chong-ster,
Let's say you're an outsider, & your friend comes to you with this problem. What kinda advice would you give your friend? I'm very sure you'll be saying the same thing as the AA forumites who've given you sound advice.
You already know her words of "love" can't be trusted. Why keep letting your heart get broken? Unless you're a sucker or an emotional masochist, you'd do well to stay clear of her.
There're other girls who're more deserving of your care.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by chong-ster:i got to know this gal abt half a year ago... everything was fine btw us, and we were v close, but she told me she didnt want to get into a relationship for the next month or two. i was fine with it, and never bugged her to be with me or whatsoever.
she's been telling me she yearns to be with me, she wants to be my partner, but deep down inside, i think she doesnt mean it.
abt a month ago, she left me, and i knew it was because of a guy. but she claimed it wasnt because of him and she had no feelings for him. but i knew she was lying, because my friends saw them out, and told me abt it. i also read her text messages sent to/from him... she told him she missed him, missed his hugs/kisses etc...
i asked her about it indirectly (not telling her that i read her msgs) but she still claimed that she'd already given him up because she only feels for me. not long ago, she again, told me she loved me, but just today, i read her messages again, and she sent one to him. saying that she wanted to meet him for a while, to lock lips....
many times i told myself to hate her and move on, but everytime she talks to me or appears in front of me, i'll just hopelessly fall in love with her again. i know its bad of me to read her text messages, but... i just couldnt help it at all.
i dont know why she still come up with lies to keep me with her, when so obviously she also wants to be with the guy too. maybe its because she wants the best of both worlds. i know i hate her for doing this. and many times i've told myself to hate her to the core, but i just can't.
she knows i've given her my best and almost everything i have.. but she still doesnt want to be with me. im fine with it.. but which guy can accept a girl who keeps another guy with her too????
maybe im just hopeless and dead stupid. -
You are STUPID.Originally posted by chong-ster:i got to know this gal abt half a year ago... everything was fine btw us, and we were v close, but she told me she didnt want to get into a relationship for the next month or two. i was fine with it, and never bugged her to be with me or whatsoever.
she's been telling me she yearns to be with me, she wants to be my partner, but deep down inside, i think she doesnt mean it.
abt a month ago, she left me, and i knew it was because of a guy. but she claimed it wasnt because of him and she had no feelings for him. but i knew she was lying, because my friends saw them out, and told me abt it. i also read her text messages sent to/from him... she told him she missed him, missed his hugs/kisses etc...
i asked her about it indirectly (not telling her that i read her msgs) but she still claimed that she'd already given him up because she only feels for me. not long ago, she again, told me she loved me, but just today, i read her messages again, and she sent one to him. saying that she wanted to meet him for a while, to lock lips....
many times i told myself to hate her and move on, but everytime she talks to me or appears in front of me, i'll just hopelessly fall in love with her again. i know its bad of me to read her text messages, but... i just couldnt help it at all.
i dont know why she still come up with lies to keep me with her, when so obviously she also wants to be with the guy too. maybe its because she wants the best of both worlds. i know i hate her for doing this. and many times i've told myself to hate her to the core, but i just can't.
she knows i've given her my best and almost everything i have.. but she still doesnt want to be with me. im fine with it.. but which guy can accept a girl who keeps another guy with her too????
maybe im just hopeless and dead stupid.
GET OUT NOW before you get yourself SERIOUSLY HURT... -
NOT WORTH IT DUDE!!
Either you wake up urself from the lies spun to make you blur when she's will you
or
you give one good scolding to that you noe.. B.I.T.C.H
No offence though..
Get on with your life. Why suffer in the hands of a girl who simply don't even give a damn about you?? i tink if your mum or dad knows it, they will screw u harder than anyone else will..
You are silly man..
Stop all contact with her.... -
maybe she duno wat she wants?
she feels for u but can't forget that guy?
ask her to settle her thoughts and decide who she wants to be with ba. dun play with ur feelings. -
Hi.. It seems that she is unsure of what she wants and looks like you would need to give more than what you can to ensure that you are the "Mr Right"..
If this goes on.. I would advice you to give an indirect confrontation so that she knows you are aware of what is happening instead of blur blur standing "listening" to all her "commands."
Don't let love blind you and control you.. You control the situation. She can be telling you in the world that she loves you and such.. But you got to give yourself a limit to what can be done.
If you insist that you have given your best and letting her know indirectly that she is "playing with your feelings" still does not help.. Dude.. you really got to move on.
Good luck.
CheersOriginally posted by chong-ster:i got to know this gal abt half a year ago... everything was fine btw us, and we were v close, but she told me she didnt want to get into a relationship for the next month or two. i was fine with it, and never bugged her to be with me or whatsoever.
she's been telling me she yearns to be with me, she wants to be my partner, but deep down inside, i think she doesnt mean it.
abt a month ago, she left me, and i knew it was because of a guy. but she claimed it wasnt because of him and she had no feelings for him. but i knew she was lying, because my friends saw them out, and told me abt it. i also read her text messages sent to/from him... she told him she missed him, missed his hugs/kisses etc...
i asked her about it indirectly (not telling her that i read her msgs) but she still claimed that she'd already given him up because she only feels for me. not long ago, she again, told me she loved me, but just today, i read her messages again, and she sent one to him. saying that she wanted to meet him for a while, to lock lips....
many times i told myself to hate her and move on, but everytime she talks to me or appears in front of me, i'll just hopelessly fall in love with her again. i know its bad of me to read her text messages, but... i just couldnt help it at all.
i dont know why she still come up with lies to keep me with her, when so obviously she also wants to be with the guy too. maybe its because she wants the best of both worlds. i know i hate her for doing this. and many times i've told myself to hate her to the core, but i just can't.
she knows i've given her my best and almost everything i have.. but she still doesnt want to be with me. im fine with it.. but which guy can accept a girl who keeps another guy with her too????
maybe im just hopeless and dead stupid. -
Originally posted by chong-ster:i got to know this gal abt half a year ago... everything was fine btw us, and we were v close, but she told me she didnt want to get into a relationship for the next month or two. i was fine with it, and never bugged her to be with me or whatsoever.
she's been telling me she yearns to be with me, she wants to be my partner, but deep down inside, i think she doesnt mean it.
abt a month ago, she left me, and i knew it was because of a guy. but she claimed it wasnt because of him and she had no feelings for him. but i knew she was lying, because my friends saw them out, and told me abt it. i also read her text messages sent to/from him... she told him she missed him, missed his hugs/kisses etc...
i asked her about it indirectly (not telling her that i read her msgs) but she still claimed that she'd already given him up because she only feels for me. not long ago, she again, told me she loved me, but just today, i read her messages again, and she sent one to him. saying that she wanted to meet him for a while, to lock lips....
many times i told myself to hate her and move on, but everytime she talks to me or appears in front of me, i'll just hopelessly fall in love with her again. i know its bad of me to read her text messages, but... i just couldnt help it at all.
i dont know why she still come up with lies to keep me with her, when so obviously she also wants to be with the guy too. maybe its because she wants the best of both worlds. i know i hate her for doing this. and many times i've told myself to hate her to the core, but i just can't.
she knows i've given her my best and almost everything i have.. but she still doesnt want to be with me. im fine with it.. but which guy can accept a girl who keeps another guy with her too????
maybe im just hopeless and dead stupid.
You are deeply in Love with your own imagination... in the seas of delusion. Facts has already shown you the TRUTH, but because delusion is so powerful and kept you overwhelmed, every time when she employed deception through blatant lies - your mind CHOSE to believe those lying words because you think and feel that even if there is only 1% chance of it being the truth, that is still a possibility.
In astrology, this is what happens when Neptune gets afflicted - people get deluded and choose to dwell in those illusions.
If logics could save you, you would have already been saved.
Chances are, you are reluctant to release yourself off this bondage. You create an opening to introduce wounds into your heart and you refuse to patch the vulnerability.
Good scolding? You don't need to... and in fact, no amount of words would suffice.
What you need is to hurt yourself more... until the day when you realise that this 1% hope you are clinging on, is no more than just a false hope. You would only understand what it means by it was never meant to be right from the start... if you choose to leave where you are standing forever and never to return.
To return is to discover that you running in circles, back to where you are.
P.S: If this current emotional pain is not enough deter you, then ripped the wounds wider... until you are able to see reality.
Cheers -
This is why i think girls are just another word for god damned heartstabbers =.=...
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There're just so many good and tastier fishes available in the ocean. why narrow your choice to just that fish?
cheers! -
Fish ?..... more like pirannhas eating at the very existence of your soul ...
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Oh. So you don't like girls, ah? I gather you're in a same-sex relationship then?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by h0lyc0w:Fish ?..... more like pirannhas eating at the very existence of your soul ... -
Maybe u wont need to get scolded... By this time sure u have learn in a hard way how sometimes this type of women do really exists... flinging around, saying that she likes u and also to another guys she meets... U can't blame them, they love to fool around, make use of guys to get what they want... ... Hopefully by this u can be more careful and don't get into the similar situation next time. Only love somebody that u sure ready to commit with u as well... SOmetimes its better to see her direct actions, not the sweet words... If somebody loves u.. she wants to be with u ALL THE TIME...
Originally posted by chong-ster:
i got to know this gal abt half a year ago... everything was fine btw us, and we were v close, but she told me she didnt want to get into a relationship for the next month or two. i was fine with it, and never bugged her to be with me or whatsoever. ------ [b]If she say she didnt want to get into a relationship.. believes it! If she really loves you.. she wont turn u down like this
she's been telling me she yearns to be with me, she wants to be my partner, but deep down inside, i think she doesnt mean it. --- Maybe she only wants to be just a friend.. like her other guy friends, so again.. she really doesnt want it serious with u
abt a month ago, she left me, and i knew it was because of a guy. but she claimed it wasnt because of him and she had no feelings for him. but i knew she was lying, because my friends saw them out, and told me abt it. i also read her text messages sent to/from him... she told him she missed him, missed his hugs/kisses etc...----- She lies to you, so what are you waiting for? You cant trust her anymore... Even if u and her together next time.. she will be a liar.. period...
i asked her about it indirectly (not telling her that i read her msgs) but she still claimed that she'd already given him up because she only feels for me. not long ago, she again, told me she loved me, but just today, i read her messages again, and she sent one to him. saying that she wanted to meet him for a while, to lock lips... Action speaks louder.. u cant get the truth by asking her, she's good in lying and u are one of the victims
many times i told myself to hate her and move on, but everytime she talks to me or appears in front of me, i'll just hopelessly fall in love with her again. i know its bad of me to read her text messages, but... i just couldnt help it at all. --- I know its hard for you.. the best is dont bother to be friend with her anymore.. delete her phone no. from ur handphone.. if not, this will keep goin on and on until you totally lose respest from all ur friends.
i dont know why she still come up with lies to keep me with her, when so obviously she also wants to be with the guy too. maybe its because she wants the best of both worlds. i know i hate her for doing this. and many times i've told myself to hate her to the core, but i just can't. -- Please leave her alone.. Its useless to do anything.. U are just out from her list to be her bf.. U r keep letting her to make use of you if u continue to talk to her
she knows i've given her my best and almost everything i have.. but she still doesnt want to be with me. im fine with it.. but which guy can accept a girl who keeps another guy with her too???? --- Fine with it?? Maybe u can for short term, but this way is like you let her torturing ur heart and letting urself lose ur self respect... You have to do something...
maybe im just hopeless and dead stupid.
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