Originally posted by BadzMaro:fantasy of wooing her? i don't understand why you consider it a fantasy? yes it's hard to archieve but... that's why till now she's still single and ain't seeing anyone... haiz....
U already answered all the questions urself. Unless needed to be reminded or told why ?> i will explain to her.
I see u are..mm. 21 ? In NS so i assume so.
1) Age difference.. as u said.. she is 26 , capable and owns 6 companies.. what on earth would she want with a little boy. UNLESS... u can really prove urself to be something and special n also unique to the others.. ur chances are slim to none.
2) She already says she dun like it when u ask her if she misses u or that u miss her. That is another obvious sign.
3) U say u dun want to feel provided... well, if u realy wanna proceed with this relationship.. its gonna even make if worst for u.
4) Ur feelings is just maybe this attraction. She is something hard to get , successful like u said.. n many suitors so u will think of even trying.
Solution?
Depends do u still want to proceed with ur [b]fantasy of wooing her. Chances are, if u fail.. thats it. GAME OVER. I reckon she treats u like a Xiao Di Di.. maybe too fast for her. I say u can try n work at it.. if not..at least become her toy boy. So u gotta be fit , able n humouress. She is a working lady so has obvious stress...try to destress n understand her more lo.[/b]
Originally posted by leilan84:i got to know this lady(26) about 1 month back through my aunt... she's a very capable lady i would say. she's the boss of 6 companies.. and she's single.. she's really cute, pretty, and smartshe's the kind of gurl that all guys will fall in love with once they know her
... and in my case, i'm not spared from it either
she seems to have "hao gan" towards me but yet seems not so...
she'll always "jia" food for me whenever we eat, remember the things that i like... for instants i told her once that i like strawberry and when we celebrate one of my aunt's friend's birthday, she reserve the strawberry just for me
it really touches my heart..
but yet whenever i sms or call her, she only reply and ans my call only occasionally. and she don't like it if i sms her telling her that i miss her and if i ask if she miss me.
i'm stressed up now..
why? coz in ns, i'm a poor man, don't know what future lies ahead for me
yet she's so capable, rich, pretty smart... so many suitors..
love ain't about these worldly matters, yes i know, but if you're in my shoe(as a guy) you'll never wanna be provided by, by a lady would you?
but yet i can't control my feelings for her... the feeling that i've once thought i've lost when my ex broke off with me for another guy, is all rushing back to me at one shotyet it all seems so foreign to me..
what should i do? tell her how i feel? hint to her(not my usual style)?
ask her about her feelings for me? do nothing and just wait?
some rational advise pls... i'll appreciate it alot thanks![]()
Well.. if its not some kind of 'fantasy' u tell me what it is then. Just a normal affection towards her ? look... she is a working lady , asu said, very successful. In general, most will want someone better then them or someone they can look up to. I have a good example . My older sis.. she is a double Major , works in one of the biggest law firms.. able to provide herself anything n everything. U think she gonna accept any Tom Dick n Harry ? I am just being straight forward at what i think. U dun like it its cool with me. U can shove it right back down at me.Originally posted by leilan84:fantasy of wooing her? i don't understand why you consider it a fantasy? yes it's hard to archieve but... that's why till now she's still single and ain't seeing anyone... haiz....
it has also comes across my mind that she just treat me like a small brother... but... if she only treats me like a small brother why would she be so "xi xin"?
toyboy... i reckon you'll do that... i'll not...
*not picking a fight here... but the term that you use seems kindda offending or am i too sensitive>?
Originally posted by BadzMaro:She very Xi Xin with u maybe something about u that she finds u maybe adorable or something. Thats why u move slow..u rush , n its nada man. Like i said , u have to get to know her more n understand her. The only way is to be able to understand her n make her feel that u are different from the rest of the losers out there. Plus u are young some more.. what have u got to give ? Her mindset is different from urs so u better think at her perspective.
Age may not necessary be a factor here. BUT ... in most cases.. it doesnt last long. Talents n Determination.. mmm.. true. But i would think more of.. Understanding and then able to make her see the possibilities of him. Women at that age would want a very understanding partner and someone that can be there to listen to her stress. He is still serving NS n it will take years to be able to make her see his value. Thats why he has to understand her first to be able to determine his next course of feasible action.Originally posted by StarPuppy:hmm i find that there is truth in your words...
but i clearly think AGE is not a factor: ? : ? ...TALENTS AND DETERMINATION would be key words for this thread starter
Originally posted by BadzMaro:Well.. if its not some kind of 'fantasy' u tell me what it is then. Just a normal affection towards her ? look... she is a working lady , asu said, very successful. In general, most will want someone better then them or someone they can look up to. I have a good example . My older sis.. she is a double Major , works in one of the biggest law firms.. able to provide herself anything n everything. U think she gonna accept any Tom Dick n Harry ? I am just being straight forward at what i think. U dun like it its cool with me. U can shove it right back down at me.
She very Xi Xin with u maybe something about u that she finds u maybe adorable or something. Thats why u move slow..u rush , n its nada man. Like i said , u have to get to know her more n understand her. The only way is to be able to understand her n make her feel that u are different from the rest of the losers out there. Plus u are young some more.. what have u got to give ? Her mindset is different from urs so u better think at her perspective.
If u find my terms offending.. then i say i am sorry for ' offending ' u. Maybe i am a bit harsh.. bt thats the way i see the possible outcomes of ur situation. So i voice out my opinion for u to consider. There will be others , so the more ideas and solutions the better right ? Everyone has differnt experience. I have experiences also.. in older women but is slightly different from urs thats all.
well... i haveOriginally posted by dragg:26 and own 6 companies?
frankly i have not seen or met a capable woman whom is nice.
Ah..Master FeowFeow! Ever so subtle n fair..Originally posted by FeowFeow:Helloooooooooo Penguin
I like your way of putting things, & most of what you've said hit the nail right on the head. I've had "admirers" (for lack of a better word) younger than me, but I wouldn't consider them even if I weren't attached. Nothing against younger guys, but the discussions or even chitchat topics are kinda boring, it's a case of "been there, done that, help you through that", & Not necessarily affection or fondness. I tend to treat them as little brothers, etc.
No matter how fast or how slow a younger guy moves, it's gonna be difficult to attract my attention, unless this person displays a sense of maturity far beyond his years (haven't encountered 1, apart from 1 forumite here called Chief Sitting Bull who's certainly "seen things"). I honestly wouldn't wanna spend my leisure time indulging someone's pouts or tantrums
A person doesn't hafta be rich nor successful. But if he's mentally too young, then he's too young, period. I don't really care for the fast cars he drives if all he talks about is teenage angst.
FeowFeow
hmm... how should i make use of this chance?Originally posted by alexkusu:Personally, I think you have a chance. But it all boils down to how you use this chance.![]()
Originally posted by BadzMaro:Ah..Master FeowFeow! Ever so subtle n fair..I agree in terms of not being mature n being young in the mindset. Those that seek the younger males has no doubt seeking just the thrills of having a younger lover... mmmm But at the age of 26 n owning 6 companies.. Makes me wonder what does he mean by owning..
Anyways Maturirty n the ability to understand. To be able to see past all these and be understanding, the person many be on his way to being mature.
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Originally posted by alexkusu:maro..feow prefers to me calles as miss/mistress![]()
Originally posted by leilan84:i got to know this lady(26) about 1 month back through my aunt... she's a very capable lady i would say. she's the boss of 6 companies.. and she's single.. she's really cute, pretty, and smartshe's the kind of gurl that all guys will fall in love with once they know her
... and in my case, i'm not spared from it either
she seems to have "hao gan" towards me but yet seems not so...
she'll always "jia" food for me whenever we eat, remember the things that i like... for instants i told her once that i like strawberry and when we celebrate one of my aunt's friend's birthday, she reserve the strawberry just for me
it really touches my heart..
but yet whenever i sms or call her, she only reply and ans my call only occasionally. and she don't like it if i sms her telling her that i miss her and if i ask if she miss me.
i'm stressed up now..
why? coz in ns, i'm a poor man, don't know what future lies ahead for me
yet she's so capable, rich, pretty smart... so many suitors..
love ain't about these worldly matters, yes i know, but if you're in my shoe(as a guy) you'll never wanna be provided by, by a lady would you?
but yet i can't control my feelings for her... the feeling that i've once thought i've lost when my ex broke off with me for another guy, is all rushing back to me at one shotyet it all seems so foreign to me..
what should i do? tell her how i feel? hint to her(not my usual style)?
ask her about her feelings for me? do nothing and just wait?
some rational advise pls... i'll appreciate it alot thanks![]()